Where should i search for a serious relationship ?
By delkar
@delkar (1712)
Romania
October 6, 2010 2:25am CST
Can you tell me where good girls are going every day ? because in the club, i don`t think that i`ll find a girl for a long term relationship . I feel like i`m seeing just girls that cheat their partners or thouse that have every day another boyfriend and so on . I don`t say that only girls are doing that, because i see a lot of men that are doing that too with girls, but i`m not interested in boys
. So , how did you met your long term partner ?
Can`t wait to read your answers .
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13 responses
@jypsyjulia (912)
• United States
6 Oct 10
I wouldn't say that you can't find a serious relationship at the clubs. Be careful to be judgmental about places and situations because that could potentially hold you back. My best friend found her boyfriend in a club and have been dating for more than 4 years :) Some people just go to them for the fun of dancing! And I have lots of friends who married people they met in bars! (and there was no infidelity involved :)). You'll find the person you're meant to marry anywhere. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, so no worries! Que sera, sera :)
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@delkar (1712)
• Romania
6 Oct 10
thanks a lot . I will not search anymore. i will just wait the right time . Hope that i`ll see her soon . In what language you said " que sera, sera " ? because i know what it means " what will be, will be " no ? in mine language this means : "ce va fi, va fi "
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
6 Oct 10
try to go out,( not necessarely in the club, because there you'll only find what we in romania call pitipoance :D, girls that are only interested in money and stuff like that), meet new people, enlarge you circle of friends, meet your friend's sister, cousin, I don;t know...you have many posibilities
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@delkar (1712)
• Romania
6 Oct 10
Nice to meet you
. You`re right, and i`m tired to see every single day the same kind of girls ( pitipoance ) . A lot of girls search or wait to find a man that has money . They all dream that . You know, getting out, it`s harder to talk to a girl on the street or something like that, if you don`t know her. The easiest way i think it`s to be a friend of someone that i know... But until now, she didn`t apeared . Hope that will appear soon .
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
6 Oct 10
You will not find the type of girl that is interested in long term romance in a bar. I have been with my husband since I was only 15 years old (22 years now) so I'm not really one that has dated a lot or had to deal with looking for someone. I do know you can look either at church, your local theater (one that has plays, etc.) or maybe join some civic groups such as Kiwanis, Rotary, etc. There are a number of places you can meet someone worth your time and effort. Just don't force it and be patient. Good things come to those who wait.
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@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 10
Well my partner found me in the jungle 5 years ago :D We were in an expedition and enjoying an adventures together with other people. We went to climb mountain, we did jungle trekking, we went for a diving and stayed in the island for week...we had an awesome first 3 months of date lol. Seriously...it was awesome haha! We still do the same thing until today whenever we have time and if we have enough money. We are getting married soon :D A serious girls for a relationship are not only the one who stays home then do homework and cooking. I can't cook very well but I'm serious with my future husband, lucky enough he's a good cook :)
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@delkar (1712)
• Romania
6 Oct 10
I`m a good cook too, but i didn`t say that she needs to stay home, etc . I smiled when i saw your little story . In the first moment i thoght that you say a joke, that you`ve met him in jungle
, but after that i thought it`s so nice . I wish just good things and to have a happy mariage . In my country , to the new married couples we say : " casa de piatra " something like "house of rock " .
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@RONDOLAWE (774)
• Indonesia
6 Oct 10
i see you problem is you not have a such nice girl in you relation and some that girl like taht is only go shoping if she off in the day she work and go to the home again to cooking and alot more spend of time in she house in the nigt she wact the tv and go to sleep if the time comes and try in market place or in teathre and the clothes is not glamor stuff and ordinary day .
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@aurel83 (102)
• United States
6 Oct 10
well, there are many good girls out there that you can have a serious relationship with and you can find her every where. i m sure that you are a dynamic individual. you have friends with many people around and not just in one place. you ve got community and you've got friend. use them and the most important thing is open your heart and make friends with anyone you meet. i m sure you ll be meeting your love at once. sometimes it will be hard to get if you are actively searching. so just let it flow, enjoy your life with your friends and you ll soon meet one. about my experience, i found my long time partner from the internet. maybe you can have a try...
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@delkar (1712)
• Romania
6 Oct 10
You have a romanian name Aurel . I think this is the best way to find a girl for a long term relationship. I saw that on my own that if i`m searching, i`m not having luck at all, but when i`m in a relationship or i don`t want any relations, then it`s like all want a relationship . It`s funny, but that`s life . Thanks a lot for your advices .
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
6 Oct 10
Try work, college, and interest groups. I met my boyfriend in college and we have been together three years today.
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
Sometimes it's a friend of a friend...you know inside the big circle of friends someone may introduce you to a friend of theirs. It's pretty hard to suggest any more than that because if you don't take initiative whether it's in a club or a party, you won't meet any girl whom you can end up having a serious relationship with. I hope you'll meet her soon so good luck!
@starrose_ara (784)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
I believe that the first thing to do is pray. Then try to go to places such as health clubs, libraries, garage sales, cooking class anything that might be of serious interest. Get your bestfriend to help you out if they are good at match making. Or your relatives for that matter since they have your best interest in mind. Hope this helps. Happy hunting for a mate. I am not in a hurry to be in a relationship if the guy that comes does not jibe with me. Was once burn that way. Compatibility takes a major role although its not fun when you both have all the same likes because there would be no variety I think and the relationship will become boring in the long run because of too much familiarity.
@fftwins (40)
• Pakistan
7 Oct 10
You are right many boys and girls are just cheating each other and are not doing anything to make a good relationship. Everyone is selfish and self centered these days. But even though there are girls who are loyal and sincere and want to get someone seriously involved with them for a long term and good relationship. I can't tell you that where will you find such girl but definitely if you are truly in search of such girl, you will meet her too.
Good Luck dear!
@IoanaBI (494)
• Romania
6 Oct 10
Hello Delkar! I met my long term partner at school, but i do not think that has a point. My friend met her husband in a club, they are married for 3 years now and it seems they have a happy marriage. Both boys and girls go to club in search of a partner, i think, and i think that what you do during and after the meeting make you realise it it is a long or short relation.
@paige4evr (118)
• Estonia
6 Oct 10
I doubt you'd have a problem finding a good girl anywhere. Most girls want love and commitment. You can fall in love anywhere. What is the problem is when people are together but they're not really in love. That's when people cheat etc, both men and women. So you need to find love, and there are no special places to go for that. Just try to meet a lot of girls, anywhere, and eventually you'll find the one.
@Bingster_6 (309)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
I agree with you, most girls want a serious relationships. Some engaged in relationships just to know each other deeply and some just for fun, thats why there are relationships that will not last long. In my opinion, the key to have a nice and longer relationship is to know the right person, and when you know him or her, learn to understand and respect each other, because you cannot change the attitude of the person you know, you can love him or her on your own ways.=)
@Bingster_6 (309)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
Some guys and gals now a days are doing that way, cheating each other, because maybe they are bored already, or they will do it just for fun, some have serious relationships too, the key they have is that they will understand and respect one another for they cant always demand what thay want in their relationship and years or months or how long you spent with each other doesnt really matter. For me, i prefer to have a partner that i already knew him , like we are classmates or friends...i dont really engaged to serious relationships if the purpose of seeing is just for having a boyfriend or a girlfriend material..its nice to know people whos intentions are getting to know each other and respecting ones' dignity..=)
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