Preserve my WHAT?

Several times. There was the one who tried to tell me the cause of my memory problems was "female problems." I kid you not--the very term he used. You could've heard my jaw drop at hearing such a technical term. In which year of medical school, I wonder, did he learn that? For that matter, in what podunk school did he matriculate? Of course, as you well know, it turned out to be sleep apnea, which I now realize has been a life-long problem. But with a bi-pap sleeping mask, hey, presto! Female's problem solved! Yayyy! Then there was the one who didn't want me to have a wheelchair because in his experience, people just didn't walk after they got one, but "lived in it." You know how accurate THAT turned out to be...not at ALL! This is all just more evidence that makes me suspicious of "experts." I've become quite uppity about asking pointed questions when I feel someone is patronizing me, or just shining me on. And let's not even get started on incompetent vets! I may let doctors try to tweak me, but a vet had better know how to treat an animal properly!!! Maggiepie "Life is hard. It's harder if you're stupid." ~ John Wayne

I had to go for something almost similar, sweetie. I could not find one doctor who would do that for me at all. Too young and no children. Wonder if most of them will get the point, why we want it done in the first place. I am glad she had the chance to get it done and sort that problem, though. TATA.

That is absolutely ridiculous. Regardless of her age they should honor her wishes and her health issues should come first. Sometimes it just isn't safe for a woman to have a child so the doctor should do what's best for her health, not what they think should be done so she can have children. I'm happy to hear her health concerns were finally addressed and taken care of. I haven't had a doctor say anything like that to me before but if I did I would definitely leave and find a new doctor.

I had a pain in my groin area. Several doctors were visited over time and I had a couple of blood tests, upper and lower abdominal ultra sounds and spent a night in hospital and fainted one day at work with the pain. I was told I was lactose intolerant, depressed, and suffering from menopausal symptoms. I was told "NO DAIRY FOODS whatsoever!", given anti-depressants and HRT therapy. Turned out it was a hernia and it went untreated for almost 7 years. When I told yet another quack that I thought it was a hernia he sh!ttily agreed with me. I had surgery and it turned out to be a major repair.

Sounds like the doctor just didn't want to risk getting sued if he left her infertile, which is pretty stupid considering her age. I've never had a similar problem myself in that area but saw on the news last night a pregnant woman went for her first scan and was told her baby had no heart beat and to get an abortion. She refused and was pressurised by the doctors but after 10 days was finally given another scan. It turned out her baby was fine and she's giving birth in a few months, I found that shocking as if she had believed them she would have aborted a live baby without knowing it, makes you wonder how often that happens. I do have a problem with my ankles though that are swollen, last year my doctor sent me for a load of blood tests and I saw another doctor for the results as my doctor wasn't there. The other doctor said there was nothing in my blood tests so it must be to do with my circulation. This was last year and it took me ages to finally get an appointment with my doctor and she seemed to have forgotten about the tests a year ago and told me that my ankles would improve as I exercised more. I'm going to go back and demand she refers me to a specialist if my ankles don't improve soon.

I'm glad your friend finally got good care! Some doctors (most) think that they are God and know everything! I don't trust a doctor that will not say "I don't know, but I'll find out". No-one can know everything and to not admit it says you think you do. I went to one doctor that said he wanted to put a port in my back and give me muscle relaxers through it. I tried muscle relaxer pills (my legs are stiff) and they relaxed everything. I could hardly move, I was so relaxed! I told him I didn't want the port, and he acted like I just didn't want to do anything to get better! I have been to a number of doctors, and only felt comfortable with a few of them. I had one "specialist" tell me there was nothing wrong with me! I was using a cane at the time (now I have graduated to a walker). He said if I were sitting on a bus HE would know there was something wrong, because he was a DOCTOR, but no-one else would know. I would think the cane would be a tip off. My friend and I traveled 300 miles and stayed overnightto see him, and he said there was nothing wrong. Talk about a waste of time!

Actually sometimes things like this do not surprise me. I started a discussion about an experience I have had with different doctors, and it is quite Sad to think that there are Doctors that really do not seem to listen or care. Makes me wonder where they got their licenses from, and what part of compassion and reasoning do they not understand? Glad she was able to find someone else who could offer her some better care.

oh yeah.i don't know what their refusal is to shut it off nowadays. i had a doc once who just decided one visit to take me off BC pills. he said it was "time". uh? i never had any problem or side effects with them and there was no reason. then the next doc gave me a different kind which did cause side effects and i had to argue with him to put me back on the first kind.

Preserve her fertility for what? lmao When I had the twins, I told the doc I wanted to have a tubal ligation. This was at least several months in advance of my due date. And he said "oh good that you told me now". Apparently the consent form for a "sterilization" has to be filled out months in advance, so that you have time to change your mind. Now I can see the concept a cooling off period in the case of a younger woman who is maybe being pressured into this, but dang it, I was 42 years old and was having one kid more than I had planned. So for me, it was really silly. If I had said something to the doc when I was in the hospital giving birth, he wouldn't have been able to do it.

i sure have. i was told when i was near 50 yrs that i needed a complete historectomy and i really didnt want more kids or anything but still, i wasnt sure how id deal with the hormone loss. i mean i have heard horror stories about it and i might say they are true. oppisite of what your friends doctor said, mine said what do you need with all this anyway? well, i felt like asking him, what does he need with his "dingles" you know? and sorry to say, i've had a whole mess of more trouble because of the histerectomy. so i guess it just depends.

That is a strange and silly thing to say considering that she is at an older age’ not that there is anything wrong with wanting children later in life! Doctors can be very insensitive sometimes. My friend is 44 and she will have a kidney transplant next Friday. When she visited the surgeon who will be performing the operation he asked her how many kids she has she replied one but would love more! He abruptly told her that more children will not be possible because he will have to cut the tendons which hold the uterus up so that means definitely no more pregnancies for her. She was extremely upset about it partly because she was no expecting such an abrupt piece of news…

That is crazy. I have a friend that had been going through something similar. It's insurance that is forcing her to under go certain procedures befor giving the ok for what she really needs. I have been told several stupid things by doctors. I don't hesitate to let them know I am not stupid enough to go for it too. I'm glad she's getting the medical treatment that she needs now. Makes you wonder where these other doctors come from.

Oh my gosh!!! What a quack!! When we first moved down to the south I asked my parents where they were to the doctor. They went to someone right in town and so I made an appointment at their doctor. I had noticed I had like a swollen lynph node on my neck..right near my throat. She I went for a regular visit, and told the doctor about my neck, he said it was nothing and I didn't really worry about. Back in the day I always had swollen tonsils and the lynph nodes would get swollen as well, so I wasn't worried. Anyways about 6 months later, I noticed that this gland or lymph node was getting bigger...I made an appointment with my new doctor. He told me it was all in my head. I thought that was weird, and I figured I would go find another doctor, well before I could find a regular GP, I had an appt. at my OB/GYN. The first thing she said when she saw me was "your neck is swollen, have you had your tonsils out?" I said yes and she began feeling around my neck. She told me I had a tumor on my thyroid. Oh, what the heck...guess the lump wasn't in my head after all. As it turned out the tumor was extremely large and I ended up having to have one thyroid removed and the other one was cancerous so out that one can as well. Needless to say I went back to my doctor and had a few little words for him!!!

It never fails to amaze me how insensitive docs can be, even in the 21st Century. What a thing to say to your friend. Doctors kinda look at me in a sympathetic way (usually women funnily enough) when I tell them I don't have children. I've never wanted children and certainly don't want them now, aged 44. To some women that isn't old; to me it is. Mum was 19 when she had me so if I were to have kids that would be the age I'd be too..well, maybe a bit older, but no older than 25. I have my operation on Monday so I'm hoping I shall come across more sympathetic docs than your friend..and I'm glad she finally got to see someone who knew what they were doing.

Yes I have. After a 15 hour labour of pain 2 minutes apart and each pain lasting one and a half minutes(thirty seconds between each contraction)a young doctor told me that I wasn't having pains but contractions. I tried to get off my bed and kill him. No medication on Island and so natural childbirth. I seriously wanted to kill him

this is similar to the problems i am having.. i have had bad periods for years and lots of heavy flow.. and sometimes lasting weeks.. i have tryed for almost 4 years now to get a dr to give me a hysterectomy but because of my age no one would.. im 40 now . and i have my tubes tyed for a reason, i do not ever want to have kids again my last two pregancies were very complicated and i was warned not to have anymore kids due to my medical conditions.. i got bi polar when i got pregnant with my first child 19 years ago and still deal with it.. but both my pregnancies were night mares.. carry them i mean.. i had to be hospitalized for my first one the whole time i was pregnant and i could not eat good and i had mental issues as with the bi polar and went thru that prenancy alone , just my family.. then a year later i met and married my 1st husband and i got a noraplant put in my arm and i never wanted kids again so after 5 years the noraplant was needing to be taken out bescuse it's time was over and so i did.. and then my husband was cheating on me at the time and i did not know it so he decdied to have another kid (my youngest) she is now 13.. so after we took the norplant out i got pregnant again and then it did not work out becasue i found out about him being unfaithful and he left me for her while i was pregnant so i went thru another pregnancy with bi polar alone just my family.. so yea i never ever want to have kids again.. imean i love my girls and i would not change a thing becasue they are a blessing . but for a dr to tell me that they wont do a hysterectomy because im too young because i might want to have more kids is so wrong.. so i finaly gave up trying to get one.. i still have bad periods and heavy flow and still have alot of enotional issues around that time of month but im learning to deal with it and do alot of praying when that time of month comes.. i dont think a dr should be allowed to tell you they will not give you something you feel you need.. that should be my decision it is my body and i know how i feel not the dr i know what i have went thur and i know if i want more kids or not.. im just hoping becasue im now 40 i might hit the change of life soon and not have any more periods that would be so nice... thanks for reading and enjoy your day.. :)

That is AMUSING.LOL I never heard of such doctor giving his patient that kind or reason. Not medically professional sounding, he mustn't know what he is doing or his profession. Though, I've encountered doctors who are not really good because they keep on guessing rather than doing the right diagnosis, I still believe that there are ones who really are passionate with what they are doing and they are very cautious when it comes to their patients. I doubt if the former doctor has have many patients needing his services.

I am familiar with this argument. It seems as if they have guidelines not to take action for those who wish to solve this issue, and who do not want more children. It seems ridiculous to me.

I have been very fortunate to have not needed much medical attention. Last year I had to go to the walk in clinic, and the physician there misdiagnosed me with pneumonia; when I got to the hospital, I was informed that it was just bronchitis. I did a couple of breathing treatments, got my prescriptions, and went home. My dad's experience was one that I am not happy about. My dad is a diabetic with heart disease and Deteriorating Artery Disease, and had a quintuple coronary bypass surgery almost a year ago. Prior to this procedure, his old surgeon wanted to attempt an angioplasty, which was failed because his arteries were so clogged up. Dad's cardiologist then told my stepmother that we would be better off just keeping him home to die. Now, a year later, while my dad is still having some pain from the surgery (the doctors told him that this was normal, and would last two years, but he had to get a new doctor in order to have someone prescribe him pain medication), he's otherwise fine. That doctor ticked me off like none other. I'm still not happy about that.

I know some doctors can be good, but I personally, don't go to doctors often unless it seems necessary... I don't pay them for colds, fevers, simple things most people do.. But even in that case of your roomate's, common sense should come into play..