Parting is such sweet sorrow.
By carpediem17
@carpediem17 (1315)
Singapore
October 6, 2010 11:33pm CST
Are you good at saying your goodbyes? Many scenes of goodbyes can be seen in the Departure Hall of an airport. Some goodbyes more lingering than the others, like those of a daughter heading to a foreign land for further studies or that of a father leaving the family for a business trip.
Or at a funeral when family and friends come forward to give eulogies of sorts for the departed one, often recollecting the good memories of old.
Are you good at saying goodbyes whether at the airport, at a funeral of a family member or at the office on their last day at work.
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10 responses
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
7 Oct 10
Hi,
Ummm thats a tough one. I admit I am not good at it. This thing makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and I just cannot find the proper words to say or express. But then there are lot many emotions that I am not good at displaying. Rather carry a stone face
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
14 Oct 10
Hi Carpediem,
I don't think that it has got anything to do with Macho-ism. At times I can cry very bitter but ofcourse exhibiting one's emotion could be manipulated. Carrying a stone or a poker face helps I guess.
As for the original question you posed it is just because that I get so emotional while saying good byes that I tend to avoid to be in that situation and if I somehow land in there I really don't know how to react!
Cheers
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
14 Oct 10
hi bodhi, seems like you are a macho man who doesn't like to exhibit your softer side. I can understand especially within asian society. This can be a double-edged sword which means that you are still able to revert with a stable response versus a more reactive response.
Then again there is the fear of internalising your 'pain' that everything is so bottled up that it might exploit one day. Be mindful that one doesn't suffer too many internal pains. Cheers.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
7 Oct 10
I am terrible at goodbyes! I am the first one in my family to start the tears when parting is something thay comes along. i tell myself I won't cry. i will see this person again soon. As soon as goodbye creeps into the conversation, i am already crying. I just get too emotional over goodbye!@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
14 Oct 10
ummm .. i guess maybe some emotion is abit okay versus no emotions at all. One needs a little handle on such things to prevent descending into a pool of tears.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
12 Oct 10
sometimes saying goodbye may not be so bad coz for every goodbye, there is a hello.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
12 Oct 10
hi gjax, sorry to hear that.
I think to manage our own thoughts and emotions, one has to think in a certain manner.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
11 Oct 10
hi karlee - i guess we all have to manage our emotions a little more. Goodbyes are never easy to say to loved ones and it will do well for us to master the art of doing so.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
8 Oct 10
aw gee ...
I always find that there are some amongst us who are rather stoic in nature and who will not descend anytime into a moment of flooding tears. I am really not sure whether to show emotions or not cos to restrain oneself can be rather agonising too. Often times, I try to blink away tears and choking moments by moving away and distancing myself.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
7 Oct 10
Oh gosh no I am horrible at goodbyes even if they are short term as I feel like I am having a great loss at the moment as nothing is ever promised in the future. Although I know I have to let go there really is no way of never looking back and or the feeling having lost.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
8 Oct 10
hi hwg - probably it could be a situation of the relationship not being ever the same again that makes saying good bye so tough. 
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
8 Oct 10
yup, so we manage by saying "see you later" or "cheers" to can around the sad moments attached to such partings. 
@sjhaeki (795)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
I see it often in movies, dramas and anime, some are tear-jerkers and some tugs your heart but I haven't really experienced it. Well, I learned that it really is hard to say your goodbyes when I did it myself. But I don't think I'm good at it. Or I'm not as expressive as the people around me or what we see in shows.
It is difficult to say goodbye to the ones you love but the memories etched within our hearts and minds gives somewhat a hope that this parting isn't the end. That's just how I see it when I said my goodbyes to my cousin who was going back to the US after spending his vacation with us, after years of not seeing each other. They've been crying and we even give each other hugs at the airport, I felt something painful in the heart but I knew it wasn't really the end, we would see each other. Well, I was called to be 'strong hearted' or 'stoned heart' I could interpret the dialect that way cause I didn't cry. Parting is such sweet sorrow but in every end is a new beginning and it's not goodbye, it's 'see you again'.
and when saying goodbyes to the departed ones (cause i had a fair share of that in just one year), thinking that they could be united with their loved ones that left before them and they are not suffering any more, makes me somewhat happy for them. It's more important I think that us, the living, will continue to remember and live for them.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
8 Oct 10
It has been said that those left behind will often suffer most. And I believe all these experiences make us grow up and take life more preciously. I think it just makes us view life differently.
@sam8pro (376)
• India
7 Oct 10
Well good byes are always hard ... the way i am i try to keep even things with me as long as they can say .. so it works in relations and friendship. Its awkward hard and very confusing. but at the end of the day you know sometimes you have to just let go !
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
8 Oct 10
hi sam, well said. I guess it is sometimes in our nature or DNA that we are sentimental, prefers to hold things so dear to us. I remember moving house was a hassle as it forces me to throw away a lot of things that I have been keeping for awhile. Example school books of old.
