dilemma

well, i dont understandand why his wife is not angry with you and the mere fact that she also wants you to be his husband's second wife. can i ask? do they have children? if they do, are you willing to take care of your someone's children or baggages? but if they dont have children, are you ready to face the society with your situation? will be your someone have the courage to fight with you? is he worth it of fighting for? do you love him much that you can sacrifice everything? but if i would be on your situation, it is still good to have someone that you can you OWN. no baggages to carry, eyes to judge you for what you have done, people who will see you little and treat you be little. you are single, and there's always someone out there who can love you, and you will love you too. better to leave though your heart is aching, time will heal all wounds and you will see yourself much better with someone that is like you single. pray for your someone's family, that they will find happiness and contentment within. pray that their family will strengthen their bond and foundation. think of those little children, if you will enter their family, you will be sharing with the attention that is only for them. i hope, somehow i helped you, eventhough, it is still for you to decide. :)

wow ! Does your country allows two marriages ? Is the first wife going to divorce ? and if yes will she be living seperately ....do they have kids .... decide your answer on the basis of such questions ... and even though it will be hard for you if answer to them is no you should let it go ...

Follow your heart. I am sure, you know the reason, she allowed her husband to marry you. If you think too much about those words, your life will not be happy. And maybe the life of your lover and his wife also became unhappy.

In Islam, a man allowed to marry more than one. A woman, who volunteered, and sincere, her husband married again, sincerity, is the farm wage.

this discussion was made 1 year ago..so what will your situation now??

I feel, what is perceived by his wife. Because my husband, also loved by other women. Perhaps, his wife had the same thought with me. Anger is useless, and will not be any good, or changing circumstances.

all I can say is better stay away from them.. what you did is really right and time will heal whatever heartache you have,, its just weird and complicated... why is that the wife will allow you to be with his husband? except if she doesnt really love the guy.. or maybe they just have hidden agenda..youll never know..better to be careful..

Hi ratnadiah: Most dilemmas are like that, no way out, unless of course, it can be broken, just like a complex puzzle. Get the key to that puzzle and the pieces falls easily into place. Try to search your conscience and you may find the answer there. Actually, peace of mind can only be attained if things are in their proper order. We are all responsible for our actions, and the consequences, good or bad should also be borne in a responsible manner with prejudice to no one. If you find peace in spite of the hurting heart by leaving, then do so. If not, let things remain as it were and be ready to take on the consequences. Hope you'll find the key out of your prison with these words.