Almost like a single parent!

I know how you feel... How long have you been together? My first thought is this is a sign of things to come... You can't change him. He is who he is. But to better answer: Have you had a fight? How old is the baby? Do you work or a SAHM?

There's a couple of possibilities that come to mind here. He either simply doesn't care, which I hope is not the case... in which I suggest, if you begin to feel that it is the case that you start getting your ducks in a row and leave. Or.... Is it possible that he is suffering from some type of depression, similar to post partum syndrome? Sudden personality changes and the neglect of a child is often a sign of general depression, but with him avoiding spending time with you to play video games... it's apparent that he's either depressed and feeling inadequate or he is hiding from something. Have you tried asking him simply why he is been acting this way and not contributing? You should try this at a time when maybe a friend or relative can take care of the baby for a couple of hours, it will help avoid the feeling of being trapped, as well as keeping the conversation free of distraction. I can promise you one thing.. You are definitely not alone in this situation! Best of luck to you!

Hi, Feel sorry to read about your post here. Be strong and let's have a good chat with your partner.In the first place, are you guys married legally? SInce you guys already have a baby girl,your partner is responsible to be a good daddy for yours baby and he has to perform his duty and help you up whenever he is free. He can't be stick to his computer all the time when he is at home. It also meant that he shows no concern to you and your baby. Since you guys have agreed to have this baby,then both of you have to work hand in hand to takecare of your baby. I believe your baby need both of yours care and love too. You have to be firm and tell your partner that life has changed now and he can't just pretend still remain single and do what he wants. He has new status : as a father. and He has the right to do his father duties. Hope you guys can work out well after a fine chat. Takecare!

I do know what you mean in feeling like you are a single parent. When my children were small my husband didn't really do a lot for them either. However, I learned to accept that because I am the mother and in addition to that, I think that it is important that I provide for all their needs when they are young because at least that way I knew things were done right. As the children got older, however, the interaction between my husband and them has grown.

So you too are a WOW widow. I have a three year old now. I stay home but I work a full time day as I do home daycare. I earn a income even though it is about half of what I used to make. When my daughter was in diapers he would change her if she was wet. Poop was all up to me but after a while that was fine because me dealing with it was a lot better than taking the chance that he would throw up on her. Really it would have happened. That's a whole other discussion though. Any way we finally agreed that when he got home the game had to wait until she went to bed at 8 pm. This is still the case. Until then he needed to spend time with us. Weekends are sometimes hard because he wants to play and we are both tired and we have a three year old with endless energy. I do most of the house work, he does do our laundry. I do my daughter as I want it done a certin way. He does most the yard work I only prune the rose bushes and it is his job to make sure that the garbage can makes it to the curb every Tuesday. I handle the bills, bathrooms and kitchen and vacuuming. Let me tell you it doesn't always get done. But as with anything you need to set up some ground rules and make sure they stick. I still feel like a single parent most of the time. I do almost everything for her his life really hasn't changed a whole lot but he is trying. My daughter sometimes doesn't want him to do things with her she wants mommy and I think that has really started to sink in. I am with her all day right now but before we know it she will be in school. I know that I will miss my time with her it won't be too much of a change for him. Make sure you set up ground rules before work starts because you are going to need them and you won't have time to do everything that you do now. Good luck I hope you guys can work something out.