Bully or Bullied: Who were you?

I was bullied quite badly until I got to highschool. Luckily I was strong enough to fight back, or I would have been hurt badly. One girl got her older brother to try to beat me up but I was a match for him. Also, luckily I rather enjoyed being alone, so it was not too hard for me to just go off by myself out of the way of the bullies.

Bullying is awful, it really is. My husband got bullied down his street, at school and up until I came into his life in 2003. Why? Because he just so happens to be tall with red hair. His reputation wasn't enhanced as he wore unfashionable glasses that added to his geekiness and he freely admits that now. This I blame on his parents who could've done more to help him, particularly down their street..so I guess they were passive bystanders which IS as bad as the bullying itself. They let it happen to a certain extent. I'm the one responsible for his decent specs he has now. On trips to the football I actually witnessed him being bullied at first hand by a drunken lout that had bullied him relentlessly for at least 10 years. On this particular trip this lout continued the bullying, even though I was with John. Everyone on that coach said nothing. It wasn't up to me as I didn't know the bully at all, whereas the rest of them did. After that trip the bully was "banned" so it begs the question; why wasn't he banned before I came along? One guy we know who has been bullied himself at school said to me that he wanted to say something "many times" to the bully but was frightened he'd then start picking on him. Adult bullying is commonplace and it should stop. Large kids weren't the norm at schools when I was growing up. There was a girl called Wendy in our class who was big and I soon realised that, on this particular day, she was being set up by friends of mine to go to the playing fields at lunch-time. She did this and then we all hid behind a small mound so she couldn't find us. I hadn't realised what all this was about until that moment and I just couldn't be a part of it..so I got up and went over to her, said "sorry" and glared at the others. As far as I know she was never bullied after that...and neither was I for sticking up for her. If more kids and adults stuck up for the ones being bullied, it would be eradicated soon enough as the bully would have no backers to hide behind. Essentially they are cowards.

i was both,between the ages of 8-10 i was bullied but then when i reached 13 i became a bully,well it wasn't actually me that bullied but my best friend,but as i was always with her i was classed as a bully aswell

Well, for me I was bullied all along ! That's a sad fact and I don't know what brings that to me :( Those who bullied me said that I look nice to be bullied. I felt so sad just to hear that ! Why am I even the way I am, to be nice to bully? I just simply hate that! Hate bullies.

I was the bullied one, the idiots from HighSchool picked on me for not joining gangs and liking things like video games, card games and anime. They even tried to poison me. Those gangsters and frat people are unforgivable...

Well i guess i was neither :) ...my social circles in the colleges and schools were all good guys and girls and quite protective of each other... ofcourse the good humored bantering used to go on here and there :)

When I was younger, there wasn't any 'news' or incidents on bullying. Perhaps I was too innocent to know for sure, but as I recall now, there wasn't any 'bullying' in my school. Perhaps it's because we're under a school run by nuns. I never saw fighting (apart from a little disputes or crying incidents) but punching or something that ruthless wasn't really in our list of usual activities. I guess that was so because there were never really a mix of anyone unique. Most of us were of the same nationality. Yes there were some who looked funny or talked funny, but I guess teachers never tolerated anyone to feel superior than others (or inferior). I think there's a great deal of bullying these days because of the bad models we have due to movies, internet, peers and even parents. I don't think any kid is innately bad, they usually get it from the environment they're in. It's sad really that these things could happen. But we can't really do anything about what our kids have become. We should start with the new kids or new generation. But I guess it's tough to discipline kids when teachers and educators are given too many rules else they'd be imprisoned. Perhaps kids these days need to fear adults more.

When I was younger, there wasn't any 'news' or incidents on bullying. Perhaps I was too innocent to know for sure, but as I recall now, there wasn't any 'bullying' in my school. Perhaps it's because we're under a school run by nuns. I never saw fighting (apart from a little disputes or crying incidents) but punching or something that ruthless wasn't really in our list of usual activities. I guess that was so because there were never really a mix of anyone unique. Most of us were of the same nationality. Yes there were some who looked funny or talked funny, but I guess teachers never tolerated anyone to feel superior than others (or inferior). I think there's a great deal of bullying these days because of the bad models we have due to movies, internet, peers and even parents. I don't think any kid is innately bad, they usually get it from the environment they're in. It's sad really that these things could happen. But we can't really do anything about what our kids have become. We should start with the new kids or new generation. But I guess it's tough to discipline kids when teachers and educators are given too many rules else they'd be imprisoned. Perhaps kids these days need to fear adults more.

I can honestly say that I was bullied. During elementary school, a lot of kids tormented me about my gap in my teeth and because many of them think I am ugly. The experience really hurt me but not to the point that I would think about killing myself. In the end though, I am more secure of myself now and I do believe that I am beautiful.

I was never mean spirited to take on the role of a bully. i wouldn't say that i was bulled. I did have occasions where children at school were not behaving as they should be. it didn't really cause me any problems. i feel sorry for those who are bullied. i feel shame for those that feel the need to bully others.

I don't remember being bullied as a kid. But in high school I think I did a bit of bullying with a classmate who was very quiet. I made her the butt of my joke I thought I was just being funny. Then one day I saw her cry as a result of my bad jokes. I stopped doing it.

I dont think i was either. I couldnt be a bully because i thought iit was lame to pick on others. and i wasnt bullied because others knew not to mess with me. lol

I did experience being bullied in second grade. But one thing I've learned, they just would stop if they wouldn't get any reactions from you. They would really be happy if you reacted to their bullying, and I wouldn't give them that satisfaction. So the bullying stopped.

Thankfully, I am was neither a bully nor was bullied. Reading about bullying and the stories on the news recently is very sad and depressing and my heart goes out to those kids. I can't imagine myself being a bully, either, and doing those things to other kids. Now I know kids can play rough sometimes, but I being kids and being bullies are two VERY different things. Sometimes, I'm really, really thankful my parents raised me the way they did.

When I was younger, there wasn't any 'news' or incidents on bullying. Perhaps I was too innocent to know for sure, but as I recall now, there wasn't any 'bullying' in my school. Perhaps it's because we're under a school run by nuns. I never saw fighting (apart from a little disputes or crying incidents) but punching or something that ruthless wasn't really in our list of usual activities. I guess that was so because there were never really a mix of anyone unique. Most of us were of the same nationality. Yes there were some who looked funny or talked funny, but I guess teachers never tolerated anyone to feel superior than others (or inferior). I think there's a great deal of bullying these days because of the bad models we have due to movies, internet, peers and even parents. I don't think any kid is innately bad, they usually get it from the environment they're in. It's sad really that these things could happen. But we can't really do anything about what our kids have become. We should start with the new kids or new generation. But I guess it's tough to discipline kids when teachers and educators are given too many rules else they'd be imprisoned. Perhaps kids these days need to fear adults more.