Everyone will always have a say no matter how you do it.
@totallyundecided (3190)
Philippines
October 7, 2010 12:13pm CST
Right or Wrong and whatever. LOL
Seriously. Did you ever feel that you know you did something right or wrong perhaps and then someone will share their opinion and would say, "it's suppose to be this way" or "I think it would be better if you do it like this" And then you adjust so that everything will be happy and sunny yet you feel like there are thunderstorms or tsunamis. The beauty of unsolicited advice.
I kind of get that a lot. I don't know why but even though it irritates "them" sometimes, but I like doing it in my own way because I want to live my life like I want to live my life.That's why there's free will. We all learn from mistakes and etc. Even if you know you did it right but then someone would butt in that "this is more right"... Errr...
Simply irritating. Sorry for venting, guys. Just not my day today.
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
7 Oct 10
Sweetie, if someone can do something better than me, hell by all means come and do that then.
When it comes to my life and they can live it better, come and prove it to me.
Show me how you can do that better than i can.
Oh and that knickers.
Get them out of that knot, okay.
Here we always say to people like that:
"Life's a b#tch and so am i."
It works wonders.
TATA.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
Truly you are a genuine person, saphy. No pretenses and everything.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 10
I used to get this all the time until I decided to stay away from these people. Not just about how to do thing, or how it supposed to be done, and it would have been nicer this way or that way, and many more but they even told me, it wouldn't have been easier for my life if I choose to stay next to them so we can just go to work together safely. Hell, why would I even stay next to them so they can keep telling me all that? I love living my life on my own way and make most of the decision myself. I know some people will feel like this is not right, or that is not right..but I think they need to realise somehow that those thing they think it's supposed to be this/that way are only right if it was done the same way they thought for themselves and not for me.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
True. I mean, they could always say it in a good way right? And not say it like they're in a higher authority to give me orders to do this and that.
Whenever I remember that certain scene, I burn with annoyance.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
I have encountered and knew people like that. You can never just please anyone. When you do something right, someone would have something to say. If you do something wrong, more people will point their hands to you. If you have something to say to them, they will get mad at you. There are times that I get confused what to do and what to follow when everyone have opinions on something. But hey, I have to follow what I think is proper and right. If you are not agree to it, then do not mind me. As long as no one gets hurt to what I do, I will pursue it. Who cares! Mind your own business because I do not mind you at all. I think that is what I have to say when people around me would say something which is not their business to do. I hate these kind of people. They judge others when they do not judge themselves first.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
And worst is when they're trying to be safe and make it look like I am the one who's at fault.
They should mind their own business. And not just mind. Plastered. Glued. Cement theirselves to their own business. LOL
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
That's reality Totally Pretty,
we can either ignore it or let it pass from part of the ears to the other side. let them talk their way, then still do your own thing. it never hurts to listen, although when it becomes annoying, just try to ignore it.
of course, it's better to listen than shove it off, because you might needed it some day. we all have our irritating days. at least they have the decency to say something, that's the wonder of free speech. it would be awful if every one is almost stupid and dumb.
@gahoi1785 (121)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
.. this is somewhat equivalent to 'you cannot please everybody'.
no matter what you do and favor who, just be you are, and that is the best thing you can do.
we're all different, we do not need to be like someone we are not.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
True. just to please them, I'd rather be myself than be a hypocrite.
@danielashaira (86)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
its kinda annoying and very irritating. i dont mind them. We can`t please everybody.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Oct 10
hi second attempt grrrrrrr yes there is always one who will tell you'no thats not the right way a nd I will always say you do it your way and
I will do it mine. this stops most of that crap at once. a few die hards
'will linger on and tell you all about how wrong you are but I just'ignore them as so much nonsense and go on doing it my way. like the song you know. doing it my way.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
in other peoples opinion, i really dont care that much. i only hear the opinion of people that truly cares for me. some people just criticize just because of other reasons. true that they will always say something no matter what you do. when you do it right you will be surprise that they still are saying something. so i just ignore. yes live your life the way you wanted it to be as long as you dont hurt the people you love. we learn from mistakes and thats what life is all about.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
True. Me, too. I am in the same page as you, 7. It's nice to hear an advice when it's BEING ASKED. LOL. And when you feel that there's no sense of authority. Only support and love from those people who genuinely care for you.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
7 Oct 10
Unsolicited advice is very common around here. And very unappreciated. If I am asked to do something I will do it, but don't then tell me how much easier it could be done or faster or different. You gave me the job and I did it, next time give me instructins up front if that is what you want to do.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
Very annoying when unsolicited advice is given. Makes you want to... LOL. Oh, well. Let them rot.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
9 Oct 10
I also tend to be stubborn. My mom used to call me that a lot. I did regret some of the things I did but most of them I learned to accept becaus elife will always consist of trials and errors. Even if there are consequences, at least I know they are of my own making and not because I listened to someone else when I should have followed my own heart
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
That's totally how I feel these days. That is why I have stopped trying to please everyone and just do my own thing the way I want it done. Isn't that what free will means? I don't care what people think as long as I am not committing a crime. You know what, I am now a happier person - and will probably be the reason why I will be single for the rest of my life.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Well, that is life, it is really hard to please everybody so it is always your judgement call. Follow what you think is good for you. Sometimes it is better no to let them know what is happening to you so that they cannot interfere. Besides, your big enough.
@annanina1975 (32)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Uhh.. I share the same sentiments as you do, because it's not my day too.. There are lots of bright people nowadays, and it seems like they all have a thing to say or two.. I'm irritated by all those winning.. As if they know it all.. Or that they are the only one's right.. I think criticisms can pull a person down right in the bottom and also his/her day..
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
LOL. It's fun to irk them sometimes whenever you disregard their "opinions"