Busy...Busy...Busy...Body...
By Cookiebear
@Cookiebear (159)
Canada
October 7, 2010 3:22pm CST
The lady who lives in the apartment under me, is really growing my patients thin.
You know the type, is all about the Gossip, Gossip, Gossip.
When I first moved in here, she stopped us from moving in for about 20 minutes when she peered out her door, and got into full conversation about Mrs. Next Door and Mr. Two Doors Up, problems and habits.
I showed little interest in those things as I do not agree with gossip.
Our kids, go to the same school and once she caught me, and tried to spring up a conversation on the happenings of our street. I gave dull answers like oh, hmmm. oh...and showed little interest in keeping the conversation going.
I often see her standing talking to another mom or nieghbour about other people.
Now I am the type of mother who rarely goes out, my son is 5 years old. I don't believe in the "party" life anymore. Yet I see nothing wrong with the having a few friends over and having a few drinks while playing cards or watching movies or sports.
So I invited my cousin and my friend over a few weekends ago. They brought the drinks with them. They never even had their shoes off and there was a rapt tap tap on my door. I answered it and it was of course the lady under me, who had seen the cab pull up out front. She used the excuse of plaster falling from her cieling to knock on my door, but she stuck her head in my door to peer around me to see who was in my house!
A few days later I went to pay my rent in which I found out she had called my landlord, and claimed that I had people in my house she didn't know and we had been drinking. I have been with the same landlord for years and was just recently transfered he knew me enough to know I wasn't trouble so no damage done. Except I know shes telling all the moms, nieghbours and probably people from her church who will listen that I am a drunk or something.
Never in my life have I ever had a neighbour as pushy and nosey as I do now.
Any ideas on how to get her to back out of my space?
2 responses
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
7 Oct 10
We all seem to run into neighbors like this from time to time. I think you are right to avoid her, as befriending her would only lead to trouble. If she does corner you into a conversation, either excuse yourself by saying you have somewhere you have to be or simply tell her nicely that you make it a habit not to discuss neighbors. I wouldn't worry either about the other neighbors hearing stories, I'm sure they realize too that she is a gossip and most people don't listen to someone like that.
@Cookiebear (159)
• Canada
7 Oct 10
I'm sure they do, I'm not really worried about it, I've long since stopped worrying what other people think, to do that you end up worrying an awful lot of the time. But yes I'll certainly avoid her as much as possible for sure. I'm sure she has other busy body friends she can discuss Mrs. Nextdoor with. Surely shes not the only one with eagle eyes around here.
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@Cookiebear (159)
• Canada
7 Oct 10
Indeed. Though let them do what they want, in the end they will be judged fairly for the things they do, and I think meddling in peoples lives would be a strike in the downward direction christan or not.
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
7 Oct 10
Yes, thats right who cares what they think anyway! But it is a bit annoying though especially when they don't have their facts stright yet they go on blabbing to whoever will listen.
@emi285 (2)
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7 Oct 10
If you find yourself trapped in another conversation with this woman, just politely tell her you do not like to talk about other people's business, just like you would not like others talking about yours. If she keeps going just walk away. It may seem like a rude thing, but at least she may take the hint.
@Cookiebear (159)
• Canada
7 Oct 10
So very true. I try to avoid her like the plague if I can help it. She walks slow and leaves to get her child at a quarter to two. She sits down on the stone benchs gossiping away. I wait, I am a faster walker so I leave at ten to two. By the time I get to the school, shes already on the stone benchs gossiping away. I pick my son up at a different door and usually always walk as slow as possible or up the other side of the block to avoid her. It seems awful but I really don't want to make friends with a woman like that. Its never been my thing to worry what the nieghbours are doing. Live and let live is my motto.
