do you easily accept the friend's request in facebook?
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
October 8, 2010 3:38am CST
good day to you fellow mylotter,
in facebook, i am wondering why some people invites friends just like that. wherein they assume if you have common friend, their invites will be easily accepted. wherein, they will somehow feel ignored if you think first if your going to accept it or not. there are times, the one who did the invite will check it from the common friend as to why the invite is not yet accepted. come to think of the situation, you just cannot ignore the invite due to your common friend. there are times, i am thinking, what to do on this, does this needs and acceptance easily.
do you easily accept a friend's request in facebook?
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29 responses
@DarthJustice (2014)
• United States
8 Oct 10
I used to but decided not to anymore. I realized, why should I fill my "friend" list up with people I don't know whatsoever?
The same goes for sites like Youtube as well. When you think about it, friend requesting someone at all that you don't know and have had no contact with whatsoever is rather silly.
Pick a random person the next time you're out somewhere. Then imagine walking up to that person, who you probably have never seen at all (much less spoken to) and then asking, "Hi! Let's be friends!" despite having not so much as previously spoken to the person.
The person would probably look at you like you were nuts.
Basically the same thing when someone randomly friend requests you. I can understand people you knew or went to school with or have been talking to, but I've gotten requests from people I don't have a freakin' clue who they are.
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@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
A pleasant day DarthJustice,
You are absolutely right. I just cannot imagine doing that, walking along with the person that I really dont know. And I dont like even to talk to strangers.
@bev_arch_20 (842)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
I do ignore those friend requests from strangers. In fact I have 74 pending friend requests. I am not really comfortable adding strangers in my account since facebook is like an online diary to me so I prefer to add friends that I really know.
It is still your prerogative whether to accept them or not.
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@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
Very well said. The prerogative is still with me.
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@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 10
Not really, all my friend on facebook are those who I still communicate with at least once a month. I often ignored or deny request, and I don't feel bad about that. I believe it is my facebook account, therefore I have the right to accept anyone I like and deny anyone I like too. There was few times that I accepted this kind of friends request just because we had friend in common, and yes of course I know who the person was, it is just that we have not communicated for 8 years. Then I added to her wall saying thanks, you know. But there was no reply at all even after a few months, and she never actually said hello though I often see her online. So I didn't see the purpose at all, I thought she is just adding friends for fun.
I don't mean to be bad, but I also don't see the necessity. But often I hope this people don't get upset because, that is why it is called request and the answer could be yes or no no matter who the person is.
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@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
a pleasant day kodukodu84,
you have a point. your response is appreciated.
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@hippiemomdiaries (815)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
If I really know the person based on the name and the profile picture, yes, I would accept. But if the face nor the name rings a bell, I do not hesitate to press that 'ignore' button. As much as we were taught by our parents the mantra 'don't talk to strangers', that should also be the precautionary measure we have to take on facebook. Facebok has become an open book of our lives -- our pictures, our hometowns, our interests, our jobs...and our status messages are often giveaway clues that could be used by sinister characters lurking around looking for an easy prey.
@ElaineSpencer (152)
• United States
8 Oct 10
I used to be one of those people who would accept any friend request that came up. However, some of the people were creeps asking me information that is rather personal, and other people were just adding everyone with the same name as them. So I stopped accepting just anyone. I make sure I know them first. If I went to school with them, met them while I was in Memphis back in July, or if they are family. From there, I ask around. Do any of my friends actually know this person? Just because they have 32 friends in common with me, doesn't mean those friends really know this person. I also check to see if I regularly talk to the person online via IRC or GaiaOnline. Lastly, I check the groups and pages that I am active in, and determine whether or not they are regulars. This mainly applies if they are active in the Repo! The Genetic Opera, Sailor Moon; Sacrifice, or GameXchange communities. If they don't fall under any of the following criteria, I will refuse to add them as a friend; otherwise, I'll accept the request.
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@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
12 Oct 10
Hi. If someone wants to be my friend and I don't know them, I block them...and I have had a few from countries a half a world away....so I definitely don't know them. Requests from people that I hardly know, I ignore.....and only befriend the people that I would consider my friend in the real world. I find that my teenage friends have sooooo many FB friends.....but they are friends, then friends of friends and even friends of friends of friends. I find this ridiculous. I feel no remorse about ignoring someone request....I don;t think I will be asked about it in real life....and so what....i do not know this person.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I would say that I am easily accept all people asking me to add them as friends there.
You know why? I need to have more friends in facebook that in the future they help me in my online earnings...
Have a nice day!
@RONDOLAWE (774)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 10
i so easily accepted new friend in facebook coz the mean of facebook is that make a friendship coz if just we only one we not go in for it and no one can buy if we sale aomthing in the facebook .. if they bitter me or hate me will be get deleted too in my friendship in facebook
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@htownshawty (265)
• United States
8 Oct 10
no i don't if you not my family or friends or someone i know of you will get deniedi don't like random people adding me just to be nosey
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@pratikm23 (139)
• India
11 Oct 10
I never accet any friend requests on facebook unless i know a person in reality.
Its better not to accept a person whom you do not know in person due to various security reasons and other issues.
@wollivierre (687)
• United States
27 Oct 10
yes i do but i do just so that more people can see my blog when they add me. but i don't share much about myself on face book so i guess its okay.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
9 Oct 10
My primary reason for being on Facebook is to enjoy playing the games, airasheila, so I keep that in mind when deciding whether or not to accept a friend request. Of course I also have a lot of old friends from myLot there also. I accept friends who are recommended by other friends who are playing the same games as me. Otherwise I don't see any reason to accept a friend request unless it is someone I know personally.
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
9 Oct 10
No I don't accept friends easliy on facebook. If I accept anyone's friend's request then the facebook private profile will lose it's meaning. I mean I really have fin and share a lot of things with my friends on Facebook I wouldn't want just anyone to be a part of my friends' circle. So I pay attention to whether I really know the person who has send me request or is it some random person, in latter case I dont accept the request.
@dreambox (3)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I have noticed that the majority of the responses to your question seem to weigh-in on the "no" side, mostly due to privacy issues or something similar.
I actually accept friend requests 99.9% of the time.
I use Facebook for two main reasons: The games and the social network.
Most of the games on FB give you better bonuses (or easier access to items) dependent on the number of "neighbors" you have. More friends = More neighbors.
Several of the people I have added because of having a game in common have become regular conversationalists and some of those have become actual friends.
If you want to expand your social network (like i do) then by default, you need to accept "strangers" as friends.
@mariacecilia13 (490)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I'm guilty! I usually accept friend request if I saw that we have common friends, but I think I'll be more careful this time :)
@mustafarox (453)
• India
9 Oct 10
Well yes I almost have 2500 friends now I do that because I play games on it and I need friends to help me with that so I do that...
@pokumon (644)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I do not easily accept a friend's request on facebook. First off I get friend's requests from people I've never met because they are friends with one of my friends or my sister. I won't accept anyone I don't know. I also won't accept anyone I do not like. This includes my former next door neighbors, one of whom threw rocks at me once. His brother kept asking for a friend request, but I ignored or denied him every single time. I put my cell phone number up so I'm pretty selective over who I accept.