two opposite poles?!
By abish1987
@abish1987 (188)
Philippines
6 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Oct 10
It certainly could have it's challenges but anything is possible. Even two identical attractions have challenges as well. Being in any form of relationship requires compromising so whichever way you look at it there has to be persistence to want to remain together.
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@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
I had experienced both, and for me, I would opted the opposite poles. People having similar characteristics probably works best for friendship. But having a relationship, perhaps opposite poles will work better. Being in a relationship with almost the same characters may be okey at first, but I found it boring after sometime. Opposite poles doesn't mean that you differ in everything, maybe in some aspects but not in everything. Being with someone of opposite character, maybe there are some arguments at firt, and that would be fine besides, misunderstanding is absolutely a spice in a relationship for it will be a way for both of you to learn and accept more about each other. And probably it's just maturity that would handle it to strengthen the relationship.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
9 Oct 10
Actually, I don't believe in opposite poles anymore. People or couples will always have unique characteristics as well as similar ones. It's just that sometimes, we brand ourselves with a general idea of who we are.
For example, I am a silent type so if a guy comes around who is such a chatterbox, I would definitely make an equation that we are from two different poles and so we are supposed to work out.
For me there isn't a definite formula on how to make a relationship work. All I know is that it is important for two people to resolve their differences and build each other's positive aspects.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
8 Oct 10
I believe that two opposite poles attract each other and due to this, I would try getting into a relationship with an opposite persona. These days when people prefer to get related to others in their own profession, I feel that somewhere the charm of finding out something special is killed. You know and expect the same from people in your profession and that is an easy life. This reduces the charm of finding out surprises as things are quite familiar and similar.
My wife and me are poles apart in terms of attitude, behavior and also profession. This has helped us understand each other better though it is time consuming but at end I feel it is worth it.
@abish1987 (188)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
How did you able you manage it Sids? It's surely difficult to adjust to people but I guess you have long suffering that's why you're able to last on your relationship. Yes there's no worth it as designed to be really easy. Everything would go a very long process!
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
8 Oct 10
True that it has been difficult for both of us at the start. We were seeing each other for about a year and a half before we decided to marry. The best part I think that made it easy for us was the fact that we both were mature enough to understand that we both are separate individuals and have an identity of our own. This brought in the Respect factor. The things that I lacked she had it (or most of them) and similarly what she lacked i had some of them. So we were more like complimentary to each other.
Ever since we have married, we have found many things about each other and at many times we are confronted with two options - Fight it out (or argue it out) or just laugh it off... we learned that it is better to laugh it off.
The main thing here is the willingness to be together, honest and share. I think that is what makes life and things simpler.
@lilmisfit23 (386)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
I think that statement is true to a certain extent. Different personalities has its pros and cons. Being different means that both people can compliment each other by filling the others weakness. But it can also be a hindrance when two people who has different characteristics doesn't agree most of the time with each other. Of course it's up to the couple how to deal with this, that's why there's a word called compromise.
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@brankasfile (102)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 10
I believe that two can possible be make stronger relationship compared to the lovers, if they two persons accepted each other. That can possible for opposites poles. For two similar worlds that possible not longer in relationship. If I make a choice I prefer with two similar world, I think more ease to rise a relationship from that similar.
@abish1987 (188)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
So you prefer that easy one, don't you like challenges or thrills?
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