Just wondering...
By nikramos
@nikramos (698)
Philippines
October 8, 2010 6:35am CST
i don't know what happened, but it really surprised me that my rating went down... i know i don't share the same opinions as others but it did give me a sad feeling even if i have no idea who gave me negative marks. for one,i admit i can be really blunt but as much as i can, i try to be very objective of my opinions and say it in a manner that wouldn't offend others. i hope i haven't gotten into other people's nerves here. just want to share my thoughts and be of help to fellow lotters.
just saying... it's a big wonder... i never thought at some point it could get me thinking what wrong opinion i gave. anyway, i know i can't please everybody. i'm just being me.
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10 responses
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
9 Oct 10
Hi. nikramos. Don't feel bad. You can't help but to be yourself. Some people are so silly until they can't handle this fact! People just want their ways and they will be nasty to someone when they can't get it either. Just continue to be whom you are. My star rating went down about two years ago. It has not been an 10 ever since then. I was rated negatively by another myLotter. It was so mean of them to do this too.![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
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@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
i don't want to take it as them being mean; maybe we can just say that they are a bit childish and coward in act and that instead of telling us straight their views opposing ours, they resorted to giving a negative rating that wouldn't easily identify who did it.
i thought i was overreacting being one of the few who can get sad having such feedback. it's good to share the same sentiment with others who want nothing but to share positive thoughts and be of help. let's just enjoy ourselves and if doing this will make them happy, so be it. have a good day :)
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 10
hi nikramos I am so sorry that happened. if it went down very far I would report it to mylot a dmins as there are still a few trolls on mylot who get their jollies hitting the minus button for no reason at all. we are
not to minus each other because we do not share the same opinion as someone else,thats wrong according to mylot admins.So you probably did not do anything wrong whatsoever, someone just was being darned mean
and enjoyed bringing someone down. do report it.but do not let this
chase you away as most all of us are not trolls and we welcome new
comers completely. have fun and I think you will soon get your rating
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@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 10
The fault isn't yours and as long as you are being honest in your opinions then you are being true to yourself. There will always be someone that doesn't generally agree with what you have to say about any given subject or topic and as a consequence of that they will give you a negative rating. This is no reflection on your personally though, it's just that they disagree with your viewpoint. This has happened to me as well and I wasn't too happy about it but it's just the way things are I guess.
I generally make a habit of giving discussions that I respond to a positive rating, it's just a nice thing to do and it's always my hope that I will receive a positive rating in return. You should feel free to share your thoughts and reflections and don't be hindered by the prospect of receiving a negative rating. Andrew![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
with me i try to rate a discussion or a response positive if it is really deserved but if i find one offensive or opposite to my opinion, i'd rather not comment on it. i wouldn't even think about giving it a negative rate; just leave it alone.
maybe being honest has its consequences too but i don't think it will ever change in me-not even a bit. thanks for the encouragement :)
@loneraver (331)
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8 Oct 10
I respect people that are honest about what they feel as if that wasnt the case on here this would be a bit of a boring site as there would be too much sucking up! So dont let it get to you as i think it is people that are probably jealous that they havent got the guts to speak their mind! I would definately rather someone tell me exactly what they think about the things i write about even if they thought that what i wrote was a complete waste of time because we should all be individual have an opinion and stop acting like sheep baaa!
Respect to you for tellin it how it is.
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@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
i don't want to think about the jealous thing but i definitely have the guts to speak my mind. maybe some despise that fact but i tell you there are others who are far more straightforward than i am. i have no problem with them opposing my thoughts as long as they can justify well.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Oct 10
I know this feeling too well my friend in a matter of five days I went from a 10 with 97/100 to a 9 95/100. It sure does give you a really sad feeling especially when I for one am always positive. I do not involve myself in negative discussions as please I have enough issues in my personal life to add per say more with others controversial discussions.
It was quite sadden to see it dropping like this but then I thought to myself, you know what this is who I am, I know I am a good person by nature, so I cannot please everyone, I can only do my best. So it is Friday morning over here and well I am making it through another week, thanks to God.. I will be rating you positive for your discussion as I know your feeling.
Let us both remember who we are and never allow a star change that for us, okay. Have a wonderful weekend and we can only hope others see us for who we are.
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@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
thanks for the encouragement dear :) im actually more excited about reaching 200posts coz i'll get to use those emoticons, woot!lol.
but yeah you're right about knowing for yourself that we are good persons and don't mean any harm in our opinions. i actually see you as a good example here so i might actually do the same and just shrug off negative feedbacks. have a good weekend yourself. :)
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
you are not alone... it made me sad at first but we cannot do anything about it. some people truly take it personally when others do not agree with them. they must have forgotten that this is a discussion board. one should not expect a hundred percent agreement to what one is writing.
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@drspaniel (68)
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8 Oct 10
Now since I've only been on this site for a few days now, I'm not the bard with the profound knowledge here but I do know that if your ranking has gone down you've done something bad. Or the system has made a silly mistake. (It happens)
@wainiew0823 (74)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
HI madam, I am a new in this site, I was wondering where can i find my rating ?
For me, people have different set of view in one's opinion it can be a good impression or it can be a bad expression. You can't always please everybody, so don't focus on the people that gives your comment a bad impression but rather appreciate the people that likes your comment and opinion and as you said just be yourself
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
hi wainiew. it's those little stars beside our usernames. im actually just a month old here so i can say i'm pretty new too so i haven't gotten used yet to having negative feedbacks. this is in fact the second time i whined about it through post hehe and i got scolded a few times too for acting like a baby but it's alright. at least i'm learning :)
welcome to mylot. i hope you enjoy it here :)
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