No Time For Children

1) Many people have children before they are actually ready. How exactly do you expect the child to be provided for if the parent/s don't work? I would think that feeding, clothing and keeping a roof over the child's head is a bit more of a priority than playing games. 2) Why focus on the mothers? Why is it assumed to be the woman's "place" to spend time with the child? What about the father? Is he present? Is he working? In a traditional household where the mother doesn't work and the father does, I don't hear anyone complaining of the man working all hours and spending limited time with his children. Or in a dual-income household, why is it only a concern that the mother isn't spending time with the children? Both parents are working and neither are spending lots of time with the children, aren't they equally at fault?

This is simple, They wanted to have a child but not be stuck raising one. They make it a point to still hang out with friends than be home with their kids. I knew by age 7 that being a mother Meant the end of me having a life. I saw that a great mom puts her child first and in return loses the right to have a life. And that's why I will never have children. I decided at age 7. It seems like these mothers want to have a life and a child at the same time.

Yes, I do agree that this situation happens a lot nowadays. Children are left behind by their parents. They usually busy with their own business and work. And they think by leaving and giving more money to their children is good enough. But the children need attention and love from their own parents. I think this situation leads to games addiction which is a major problem nowadays. Children use the money their parents gave to buy gaming consoles and play the games whenever they have the time. And from time to time, they develop addiction which is bad for their studies and health.

It's very upset to hear this happening to our lifes,When i was a kid my mother showed me a lot of affection,now it taught me how to love people.It's very important.If these poor kids dont feel their parents love,They maight go some wrong way.We all know nowdays parents are too busy with work and under a big pressure for provide home.However it's not a excuse for ignore their children.I hope these mothers can realize how serious it is.And pay more attention on their kids

it's sad to see parents that have no time for their children. Their jobs and careers seem to come first in their hectic lives. What kinds of values caan they provide their child with when they don't even have time to nurture their relationship with them?

True. I see this alot and this hurts me because I am a young mother and I hav to boys and even though I may be busy with work and there in school and the smallest stays home with my mom when you get off work you spend time with them and when you have off days do somethings even if its just taken them to mcdonalds to play int he play place. Taken the oldest to the movies. Going to theme parks. You have to spend time and at first I didnt have alot of money or a job and couldnt do much but now that I do im going to make it my business to do more. Because once the young years are gone you cant get them back. So mothers CHERISH these times please. I have a four year old and a four month old and I want to spend time with them and do things with them as much as i can even though I work or a mother works you still can do things. Dont forget about your kids.

It makes me mad when People do this to their Children reason why most Children turn out wrong as they feel not loved not wanted I worked, I had a House to keep but I always had time for my Children, nothing would come between the time with my 2 People need to realise that putting them in this world is the end of it, as it is not, they need love, care and Guidance, not be left to their own devices

I am fortunate that most of the young mothers I know are very involved in the lives of their children. Unfortunately they over book themselves and their children, trying to have a "good life". I look at some of the mothers I know and they look so very stressed. I want to know why they do not just stay home from time to time, take a breather and play a game. Have some laughs. It would make things so much happier.

yes i do. during my long life ive seen it many,many times. so its nothing new. thats how my own mother was. i grew up with very few memories of us spending time together unless she needed my help with something. therefor i was often like the parent to her. i think this is a sign of immaturity. once i was grown she admitted i didnt really have a childhood persay. therefor im saying, its nothing new. its just done more often now because of more immature adults. it made me more determined to spend time with my kids.

I see this alot with working at Head Start. Alot of times you never even see the parents after they get them signed up. You might see a grandparent or aunt or uncle every now and then, but that is about it. I see it too with young parents who want to spend time with their friends instead of their own children. They need to grow up and take care of their responsibilities like their parents hopefully did. Grandparents shouldn't have to be parents again.

I'm happy that I'm not seeing this situation happening in my family so far. Even my elder sister is working from home to look after her newly born daughter and her husband is also spending as much time as he can with both of them. But yes I often see even my own friends who is having this kind of problem. You are right, they are busy and all but why bothered? They could've considered about those time they needed to spend with their children before they decided to actually get pregnant. But some people will just make a decision without thinking and considering of the consequences the child have to go through with later on

This is the reason I know I don't want kids. It's too much work and I know I won't have time for them therefore I do the right thing but not having any I don't understand how some people can't think like this. The world is overpopulated anyway! Meh as long as I don't have to deal with no nappies lol :P Some people just aren't parent material too.

Hi there wordlwise, Poor children who suffers such.. I am glad I made the right decision for me and my family. I used to work, but now I am staying at home because I wanted to give my daughter the time she needs to be under my guidance.. I have experienced the almost same situation as to what you have stated in your discussion.. When I was still working, I leave home early and so my kid is still sleeping.. When I arrive, I only have an hour to be with her.. I eat, wash up, and play with her for a short time. And sometimes, I don't even have the time and the mood due to tiredness.. I hated that part, but I needed the job..So when I thought everything was settled and I think I can give up my job, then I chose to be with my daughter at home.. And now she already goes to preschool.. I don't wanna undergo that same situation again. It's hard when a mom isn't always with her child..It's like depriving them with a motherly care and love..

i'm concern about this situation too since i also a young mothers with 1 baby and 1 son.. i and my husbband are work but on evening, we always pay attention to both... my 1st son is 2 years old and the 2nd son is 4 months.. i ask to my 1st son.. i have 2 option, 1st i'll stay at home (no work) and the 2nd is i'm work and he choose the 1st stay at home... and i'm quite surprise.. woooww.. maybe he need more attention..... based on my experience, soo..if possible, give your time to your children even if you feel very tired.. if you feel very borring with the same situation everyday.. just take your children to go with you.. small attention from you as their mother is a big meaning for them !!

I had a working Mum back when I was growing up. I had my 2 girls young and they were not planned and so I was rejected and neglected by my family and their dad's family...the girls'other grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. Their Dad was violently abusive so we were on our own and I had to work. When I did have time to myself I chose to sleep or spend it with my boyfriend. It seemed no matter which way I turned, life was unsatisfactory and I was terribly ill equipped to handle it. With my own children, one is neglecting her children and having some serious problems with her daughter and the other is a working Mum, very successful in her job and being a great Mum who gives her children lots of time and energy and a great life style. Her 2 girls are an absolute delight. The elder daughter has developed standards of her own and the younger daughter has chosen the same path I did. The younger daughter is selfish and thoughtless while I was naive and thoughtless. My elder daughter is very strong and determined and while she comes across as controlling, the fact is that someone has to be in charge and so she has taken up the role. It's a difficult job this parenting but it has to be done and done as well as can be. Too few people are capable of doing the job well it seems.

Hi there Worldwise, I see it an awful lot and I agree with you. It makes you just want to shake them up. I raised 4 on my own and I get it. It is very hard to find time for the kids and especially when you are trying to do it all on your own. I can't tell you how guilty I would feel when I would be at work and not with my kids. The only consolation was that I knew that I HAD to work and that my time from was keeping the roof over our heads etc. I tried to get all my hours in on the weekends when they were with their dad. The worst is when the mom starts dating and puts these guys above her kids. I mean, there has to be a balance and priorities and the kids she be top on the list. I still managed to find time for my friends and to date at times....just not as much of it as when I was kidless. The kids grow so quickly and you just can't get back that time. Mine are all grown now with the exception of the 16 yr old and I'm telling you that it seems like yesterday that they were all little ones. It really does. These parents are yes, hurting the kids by not taking the time but in the end, they are hurting themselves also. There will always be parties, dates, social events but never again will they be able to get the days of their children growing up again. It's a once in a lifetime experience and they are missing it.

Hi, I do agreed with your above sentences. Nowadays lot of young parents are spending lesser time with their children.They are sending their children to day care centre or even get nanny to takecare of their own children and even on weekend,they don't spend their time with their children,instead they will hang around with their friends for some outing. I don't agree with such arrangement. For me, I will try to spend more time with my son and I do it. I am taking care of my son full time and I don't even want to send him to nanny since he was born. I just want to make sure he is doing fine all the time in my care and I love my son very much. He is my little sunshine. Only lately, I send my son to half day nursery,hoping he will get more friends there and learn how to socialize with other kids.

Thanks for your wisdom in bringing this discussion, worldwise. Children should be the top priority in any family, PERIOD. But, we have been conditioned to be "Me First and Only" generations for as long as I have been alive. Women who wish to stay home and be housewife and mother are demeaned and denigrated. They are told raising and caring for their children is not as important as "making widgets" or a "career" in the workplace. They are told they are "stupid". Of course these are all lies and deception and have harmed all societies greatly. Believe me, I, too know of all of this through firsthand experience as well. As we continue to worship the gods of materialism and pseudo-intellectualism, we watch our society reflect more and more crime, lawlessness, anger, violence, child abuse, family destruction, and immorality of all kinds. That's because no one's "minding the store", teaching, guiding, and protecting our precious children. It is a calamity. My heart aches for the little ones who suffer so, through abuse, neglect, and selfishness.

Oh gosh yes, it is growing in numbers. It is so unfortunate that the younger and some older parents as well do not have their priorities straight. I do not expect anyone to be me but I can tell you I had a thriving career but at the same time I was a Super Mom. See we only get one chance to broaden our children's horizons during growth. My thought was although I missed out on what others consider a great youth, I do have to say that I do not regret for one second, as I have two wonderful and respectful young adults.

That is a very sad situation. Children will only remain children for but a short period of time. I think it's not how much time you get to spend with the children but quality of time you spend it with them. There are situations where parents are not usually present because there is a need to. Take for example working parent who have jobs in a different country. There are ways to show your child your love without having to be with them all the time.