you know your bf loves you but doesnt have much time...^^

romantic couple^^ - boy and girl happy in love^^
Portugal
October 8, 2010 5:48pm CST
hi guys^^ imagine that you are sure your bf loves you but dosnt have much time for you. he doesnt have a job so need to help his family cooking and taking care of little kids^^ would you be with him even he doesnt have much time but you know he loves you? or would you leave him? about me im in this situation but i wont leave my bf^^ i know he really loves me^^ even his sister helps us ahah^^ so i wont leave him^^ and i know that soon he will have time for me^^ so i will wait for him^^ what about you guys? would you wait also for your bf? please share^^
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• India
8 Oct 10
In our life we have many responsibilities to care of.Sometimes we get busy in family,some household work,relatives or sometimes we feel like being lonely.My gf sometimes does not give me time but i understand her very well.When she does not call me, i quickly make an assumption that she ll be busy in some work.It happens with me also, sometimes i dont spend much time with my gf.I am youngest in my family so i always get some works to take care of.I give time for reading books too.So if my gf says i am busy or does not call then i would wait for her call.After all i trust her and i know she will never ignore me.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes i understand^^ you have many responsabilities and sometimes dont have time for your gf^^ is sweet also that you understand that if your gf doesnt call you is bcs she is busy with something^^ and sure you need time also to read and have your own activities^^ you do right thing waiting for her call if she says she is busy^^ and sure she wont ignore you^^ if ignored would mean she doesnt love you. anyway when will you meet her near you?^^
• India
9 Oct 10
we stay in the same city so we meet every week.We spend a quality time together and having a very good relationship.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
but you said before you loved a girl online didnt you? i remember you said that so i thought you still didnt meet her near^^ anyway im happy that you have her near you and spend much time together^^ thats great for a good relationship. i wish i also was near my bf^^ but he is too far. and dont know when we can meet near yet^^ but im working for that^^
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Oct 10
Hi dear, In a way, life is an adjustment only. We wish to spend time with our loved ones and with its maximum, as we all are short of time for everything. A sharing of life into pieces among the loved ones and we all look for to get the bigger piece, maybe it is love or anything. Some people don’t like to share such feelings, not because, we lose them, but as we keep the possessiveness into more precise, we wish to keep it for us only. Our surroundings are build with a family atmosphere ie, mom, dad, sis, bro, cousin, uncle, aunty etc. we should keep our time for them as well. How he is spending and giving time to his parents, even you also would do to your parents. As I said earlier, life is an adjustment, we should act properly to get the maximum pleasure out of it and how I deal with the is important. If we have a group of understanding people around, our life may be so good and full of happiness will be there, ever. Regards, Thank-s
• India
11 Oct 10
Hi dear, Yes, I can understand very well, may be perhaps more than you, if consider many aspects. I know the pain and the gain of love when it comes in and goes out. I can measure the depth of your love towards him and you need it express back towards you, from him. How long is your relationship with him and since when you are stays away? Never mind, if he is a good person, he can really read your mind. Does he have an account with myLot? and does he read each and every post you come with through myLot? If not, and once he come to know about your discussions, what do you think he will like it or not? I am sure that if he get a chance to know this, he may get thrilled and make some arrangements to meet you and really wish to come closer to you. Regards, Thank-s
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
you mean that we should have time for other people also^^ yes sure^^ and he has many time for his family. im just saying i wish he could have time for me too. is like he is always doing something for his family and just can talk with me when doesnt have nothing more to do. or else we cant talk. we live very far away. only way to talk is by computer or phone. if he doesnt message me at least everyday how can i feel that he loves me? i know he loves but i need to feel that everyday you understand? :(
• United States
9 Oct 10
I hope you meant girlfriend because this question seems like it is directed towards the M4M community later you refer to your bf and I assume your a girl this is just confusing so I am not sure how I can possibly give any positive feedback
• United States
10 Oct 10
ah okay well in that case I would tell her that she needs to take some time off to get her priorities straight before we started dating again
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
sorry i said bf bcs my bf is like that^^ but sure this question is also for guys^^ like if your gf didnt have much time for you what would you do? would you leave her or stay with her? thats what i meant^^ you can answer anytime^^ im a girl yes and have a bf that lately is not having much time for me what is making me too sad really :(
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
Hi swwetlove You are lucky as what I think because you found a Mr Right who love you.. And I would say time to be together is not a measurement of love. You got a point there, Soon he will have more time and can accompany you more. FOr the time being, perhaps you can help him in the cooking so you can see him more? Take care and have a great weekend.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
i wish i could help him^^ but we live in different countries^^ thats why we dont spend much time together^^ he always have to help his family. thats the big problem :( sometimes i feel sad bcs i wish he had more time. we are already far and if he doesnt have much time for me how can we be happy? :( anyway i wish he finds a job soon^^ have a good weekend too^^
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
yeah! that's true we can't spend much time with each other because he's always busy together with his friends, even though that he is so busy to his friends i think he still love me. i can't blame him because i'm just her girl friend and i have no power to stop him, and i think someday he can realize that i need him and i really2x love him.(^.//)vIeNNAroSe
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
sorry that he is always with his friends but you should also tell him that you would like to spend more time with him^^ is normal bcs you are his gf so you should be his priority^^ he can be with his friends sure but should be with you also much time. you are his love. so he should dedicate more to you^^ if you love him talk with him and tell that you miss him and if he can spend more time with you^^
@pwnksh (9)
• India
9 Oct 10
i have lot of time for love
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
im happy that you have a lot of time for love^^ thats great^^ love is the most important thing^^ so is good that you dedicate time to your gf^^ im sure she is very happy^^ we always have time if really love someone^^ im working hard to go see my bf soon^^ he is all i want and need in my life^^ i wish im also what he needs^^ at least he loves me^^
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Oct 10
When I read your title, it reminds me a sentence which I read via the net. Even if Obama has his own family. Namely if someone really loves you, then he/she will have time for you. The time can always be squeezed. Being busy is not an excuse. Can he/she compares to the work with Obama? If he/she can't give you some time, I don't think he/she loves you enough. I love China
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
ahah youless^^ thats sweet what you said^^ and is true. if someone really loves us always find time^^ even if is only a bit^^ anyway i know my bf really loves me but he doesnt have much time bcs he has always many things to do. what is not good at all. we are far away and like this is too hard to have a relationship. we need to choose our priorities. if want have someone we need to find time for that person or else the relation can end :(
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
You know I really got a smile on my face as I read this.. Because i saw how much you love your bf and really you can still be with him even the situation is like that. Well if i am because I love him too really like you I will not leave him also. Time will also come to both of you fully loaded. And when this happen well you will be very happy at the end.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
aw thanks^^ you are so sweety saying that this made you smile^^ yes i love my bf very much^^ and i know he loves me too^^ but sometimes i just feel sad bcs he almost doesnt have time for me. is hard enough to live so far and cant do what other couples can. even more if he doesnt message me sometimes :( he doesnt have a job and i dont know when he will find bcs everyone says is so hard find a job in his country :( im working hard here in this site trying my best to have enough money to go see him but i just cant feel i care always the most :( i wont leave him but i just wish he had more time for me :(
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
Hi, It is depend on whether I really love this guy and willing to sacrifice for him or not. When I really love someone, I will make sure I love him with my heart and I am willing to do anytime for him. Be it he has less time to spent with me, it is not a big problem,but at least once a week, we have time to meet up together. Since your boyfriend is busy with his own family life,then you can always visit him and maybe help him up,it is gonna to be fun too.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes shia would be great if i could help him^^ but we live very far. we live in different continents and i have no money for a ticket to his country :( we are so far and neither time to message me he has. sometimes i feel like things cant work like this. im sacrificing myself working much to go see him also and he has always many things to do. i know he has problems but i also have and always have time for him :(
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
I'm sure your bf wants to spend time with you too but because there's also a routine responsibilities to do in our life everyday, so he sometimes don't have much time but don't worry, he's only being busy at home so it's not a big trouble, it's good to hear that his sister is helping you too as well, he's lucky to have such nice family My fiance also have to go to work and sometimes have to spend time with his parents because they are staying at the different places, and sometimes he wants to go and meet up with his bestfriends, and it is the same for me too. We spent time together when we really don't have anything else to do anymore
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes kodu my bf wants to spend time with me i know^^ but he has many things to do is true. i just wish he could find a job in pinas that way he would save money to come and see me and wouldnt have to do so many things at home. he has to take care of his nephews, has to cook. like that also is a bit hard to find a job :( anyway lets see how things go. i just know that i love him but i cant take again to have a bf that i do all for him and he cant do the same to me :( at least one message a day would be enough for me. but sometimes neither that :(
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
9 Oct 10
I would try to understand him and maybe help him if I can. but if this situation lasts for long, and he keeps acting like I don;t event exist for him I would definitely leave him. I feel de need of love and affection, to feel that he cares for me, so if he's not ready to show me these things than there's no point in going on with that relationship:)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes swissheart thats what im doing^^ im very understanding but sometimes i feel im not enough important for him. i know he lost his job and has money problems but long ago he promised he would buy a sim card for us to talk anytime and didnt do that yet. i know that he has to cook and take care of his nephews but he also has his own life. i just wish he could find a job and come see me. i love him and im willing to work hard to go see him but cant be just me sacrificing the most :(
• India
9 Oct 10
As long as there is love, I think that one can wait.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes thats true^^ but you cant wait and wait and dont receive much care. me and my bf have a long distance relationship. if we dont at least message each other everyday how can things even work? is like i always feel too sad bcs of this. he always has many things to do and time for me he almost doesnt have. i know he loves me but i need to feel his care