How do you deal with a stalker?

Jypsy Julia- As much as I hate to use or even reference "Wikipedia" every now and then there are well placed articles with wonderful references. This is one of those instances where I found something that you should definitely read: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalking The first responder is right in advising you that most stalkers have some sort of imbalance. There is a wealth of information in the article and I would heed the information provided. It is a plus in your situation that your stalker is out of your life but as with anything there are those times where a would be stalker seems to silence only to show up again after you feel safe and let your guard down. I would advise that you learn and practice situational awareness. Make sure you vary your daily patterns and do not keep to a set routine of travel and activities. This way a stalker has a less likely time of planning things out if they do not know your schedule. I would also advice that you take some sort of defense class, preferably one that trains in grappling, and combative arts such as joint manipulations. Joint manipulations are easier for women to pull off, and if for some reason you end up going to the ground grappling is an excellent skill to have in your reserves. I don't mean to sound like I'm trying to scare you but stalkers are not something that should just be brushed under a rug. As mentioned most of these people are unstable and you never know what they shall do. I wish you the best of luck! Namaste-Anora

Hello jypsyjulia, Maybe he like you some how, but probably wasn't your type. i believe such admiration should be done in a decent way. maybe he didn't know how to approach you that well. but i must admit, that must be creepy. But i wasn't the victim during my time, I don't know maybe a bit of an annoying stalker. because i didn't know how to approach women then that i thought i was doing it well. I studied on all boys school. after i met this girl on an eyeball even with the all girls school. i did a lot of crazy things. and that was texting her with different phone numbers. she find it annoying, but i never knew what it meant. i guess that's probably why she screwed on me during the JS Prom, took me years to understand why it happened. I learned my lesson, the LONG way. Literally, I was a creep but i didn't knew until i started recalling. some how, i wish i could have taken all back. probably "the" humiliating thing in my life.

Hi. jypsyjulia. The first thing that you should do is to, change your cell phone number. If you have to go to the police about this creep, then save all of his text messages that he has sent you. Don't walk alone anywhere by yourself. You will just have to avoid him at all costs. If this does not make him stop, then you will have to get a restraining order filed against him. I hope that he has left you alone by now. Stay safe! Take care!

You need to log everything he has done thus far and make a police report. I've had a few very creepy experiences and the last one I had to go to the police because he threatened me, but I realize now that I should have made some reports on others before this guy. After reading up on stalkers, well they can be pretty dangerous. I hate to say this and I do not mean to scare you, but it may not be over. He can come back. Hopefully he does not and I wish you well and that you are free of this guy. Please do some research on stalking and stalkers, there are tons of links online now about it because it is very serious. Please be careful and have your friends look out for you as well.

u need a boyfriend rightnow!believe me,tell him directly u have a boyfriend and show him once!u could ask ur friend to pretend,haha.maybe it works immediately!

hello jypsyjulia, well, to avoid any future problems, you may use any medium that you're ok with and safe.. it can be via chat, email, sms, call or confronting him/her verbally.. as long you did it very casual, as much as possible not hurting his/her feelings, it will be ok.. btw, other has discriminatory approach to stalker, if they like the person, they are called stalker.. but if they do like the person, they call it admirer. happy mylotting. :-)

Wow so this guy lied about why he wanted your number and you were nice enough to give it to him under the wrong impression about why he wanted it. You should have been upfront in the beginning when he started texting you asking you to do things. Dont just say no I'm busy. You have to say like I dont mean to be mean but I gave you my number for only school purposes I am not interested in hanging out with you. Some guys just dont take a hint.

One of my seniors stalked me in my graduation --- we never talked to each other in college and i had no idea as she had a crush on me.She somehow got hold of my mobile number from one of my friends scrap book and started calling me like a stranger.Had a nice laugh when i came to know that she was my senior...lol she couldn't dare talk to me directly in college unlike in the call she was a chatter box.great day.

I am a guy, and I don't have any creepy story from a girl who stalked me yet. I hope that won't happen to me too. But for your case, have you consider a restrain order if his behavior really annoyed you or bother your daily living? I hate people would constantly call me or text me without my permission. If I clearly tell her not to do it again, and she would do it, then I must do something to stop it.

When i was a studet,I came across the same problem,they are so silly. To my surprise,one of them is my roommate's friend!

I had a guy I met in a church. He appeared to be a nice guy at first. He then started to pursue a relationship very fast as well as engagement. I finally told him I needed space, and he started to stalk me through e-mail. I had to get a restraining order against him. I saw him once or twice after that, but I just reminded him of the order and he went away. It was a scary experience.