rewarding kid for good grades?
@hippiemomdiaries (815)
Philippines
October 8, 2010 8:22pm CST
It's report card distribution day today in my daughter's school. I think I'm lucky that my kids get high average grades in school. Yet I want to know what is a good way of rewarding kids for getting good grades? Do I give in to their wishes to get the latest gadgets or toys? How do I give them non-material rewards and how can they see the value in it?
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@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Toys, food, dress are good rewards for good grades. My daughter is now giving land trips as reward to her kids. Visiting places and swim in swimming pools, seas, rivers are what my grandchildren enjoyed nowadays. In addition, our kids can have a additional education while visiting other places, become aware of the environment, & other people.
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@hippiemomdiaries (815)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
This is definitely a great idea. Travel or just visiting nearby places like the zoo is both enjoyable and education too for the kids
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
hi there hippiemom,
I have a kid and she's in Kindergarten.. She tops in her class and I am very happy for that. My husband give her simple rewards that she definitely loves, and that is bringing her into a pay playplace which is her favorite.. We don't buy her toys anymore because she has lots of toys here and we feel that she only wants her new toys when they're new and gets uninterested with it..
But, there is this one toy that she's been looking forward for us to buy her, that is, if she did good until preschool graduation, so it means next year.. I promised I will buy her Baby Alive if she gets the highest rank..But I guess even if she isn't the top, I will give her that to reward her of her hard work as a student..
The best thing to do is to let them know how you appreciate their effort of getting good grades in school. Treat them once in a while, but avoid spoiling them.. Giving into their wishes too much may somehow lead them to want everything they wish to have and that isn't healthy for a kid..
I often tell my kid that I am proud of her..I think that's the best non-material reward I can show her..![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
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@hippiemomdiaries (815)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
My daughter was once crazy about Baby Alive, but we could not afford it yet, until she just forgot about it. It's true what you pointed out -- interest for material things really pass. But I feel that the appreciation and love that I give her is constant because I feel it when she hugs me back, her face glows when I praise her. I think this has a bigger impact than any material thing :-)
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I think a small reward is nice. It would be nice to take them to a movie or out to lunch for all their hard work.. and definitely let them know it's because they did such a great job in school. We'll do something like let my kids rent a video at the video store, or buy a used video game that costs $10 or less. Or sometimes we'll just give them $1 to buy an ice cream at school. It depends on our finances at the time.
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@annemellanie (74)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Yes. It is called `token reward system`. Its an easy form of positive reinforcement that may help improve your child`s behavior. Just be sure not to abuse it, learn also how to manage that kind of strategy. ^.^
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@doray1960 (98)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
It's a good thing for us parents to be blessed with children who are brilliant in school. Not everyone has that, so to be thankful to them we should treat them to their favorite hang out places. We should buy them whatever they wish to have. By doing they will be motivating themselves to always study well and maintain good grades.
@shaggin (71909)
• United States
9 Oct 10
My sister gives her son a present for ever test he brings home that has 100 on it. My daughter is pretty jealous she doesnt get that. But to get her to sleep in her room the past month I've given her a present for every night that she sleeps in there. I do not reward her for getting 100s on her tests or for getting a good school report card. I just tell her each week that she did well on her tests and I will point out how tricky something was and that she did great on it. If she doest do good I dont get upset over it.
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@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hello! Congrats to you for raising up one smart young lady. I am a mother of one as well and I also had a really smart daughter, 6 years of age and a consistent academic awardee. Whenever she gave us honor I will praise and tell her that i am happy for her achievement and that she should not get tired of achieving more. I told her that i love and we're proud to have her. I also gave her reward by buying her something but i see to it that I told her what I only alloted to her because I would also like to impose to her that money is really hard earned thing that should be well spent for. Im glad however that she knows how to appreciate little things just fitted for our financial capability. Good night!![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@juliusports (274)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I guess Hugs and kisses and treating Him/Her to a special place for a lunch or dinner will do to show them your appreciation on the achievement they've done. A material reward may end Him/Her to ask for more and a much expensive thing in the future which might upset them if not given...
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@moneyspinner (613)
• Mumbai, India
9 Oct 10
Giving gifts and rewards sure motivates children, but it can also spoil them if done in excess. Don't expect that kids would get better grades if you reward them, Yess They would give a try for sure. but it does not guarantee that every kid would perform better after getting their wishes fulfilled. Every child is special has a different talent, we need to tap in their potential and try to reward them in those things which they already have the capacity to excel :). A few children get spoilt when they start getting rewards and their parents start giving into them, so take care of this aspects while rewarding your children. And give such gifts and rewards which promise a good development of your children. Try to find their hobbies and interests, their hidden talents, suppose a certain child likes to play with cameras or a certain sport or music. get them those things if they really show much interest in that. Who knows that can be their hidden talents and they might excel there and also make a good career. Education and grades are not everything and nor do they promise great future and success to children is what I have learnt all these years :)
The best non-material rewards would be your spending quality time with them and giving them support and love, it is what develops a child well. try to inculcate good values and culture in them, they would reward you in your old age for sure :)
@foofermen (500)
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9 Oct 10
My parents would give me $10 for As', $5 for Bs', and $1 for Cs'. No rewards for Ds' and Fs'. Once I was in about 6th grade they would lie and not pay me so that was lame. One thing we always did though was take our report cards to an arcade. They usually give you free tokens for As and Bs.
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@nero_ocelot23 (435)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Rewards must not always be material things it can be a praise,a tap on the shoulder,a hug or a kiss. Just like saying " I'm very proud of you son for having good grades", then accompany it with a kiss. As simple as that is rewarding enough for the children. and to reinforce them more on getting good grades you bring them in their favorite fast food restaurant or cook their favorite food. It's quite bad if they will be used to on having their wishes granted for every achievements. there must be intermittent reinforcement. Never let the child to manipulate you. Have fun with you daughter!!!
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@bluekush10 (48)
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9 Oct 10
Rewarding kids for good grades, would I do it? Yes, although my little one is not in pre k yet, but as I went through elementary school and a little into middle school, I would get money for geting a's b's and nothing for c's d's and f's. So I guess that's why later on in life I will try the whole money reward for getting good grades, hay whatever helps my kid get good grades,and stay in school.
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@wmanw22 (9)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
We were all kids once, and if you would care and take a second to look back to the time when you were just a kid yourself, me, I would say being rewarded with gadgets and toys for good grades would really really make me so happy and motivated. But it doesn't mean that it will always be the case for kids. Just like us, our kids value honesty, they would appreciate any form of recognition from their parents, material or non-material as long as the recognition is borne from the parents true appreciation of the child's achievement. I would always say that life is too short for us to hold back anything for our love ones. Give whatever you can, anything that is not beyond your means or your budget. Give your child your love by giving them a kiss and a hug. Don't wait for the right moment, who knows the right moment might not come.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Oct 10
It is great to hear that your children get high average grades in school. My daughter is still in primary grades so she isn't getting typical grades yet, but I do know that she is doing very well in school. I know that when I was a child my mother would pay me $1 for each A that I got. However, I keep thinking that when Kathryn starts getting grades like that, I will take her out for a milkshake or something else like that which she enjoys when she brings home really good grades. Basically give her a little treat and also have a little bit of extra one on one time.
@hippiemomdiaries (815)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
I agree, simple joys is as equally rewarding and enjoyable in the eyes of kids :-)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Oct 10
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Oct 10
Hi dear,
I wish to go for the ones what they like the most. Of course, I will ask them and find out what is their favourite and if they get it, no doubt, that may be the one what we can give form them as the best. Because they like it something and they get it. There the entire process completes. The children are happy and we also happy. No doubt, their wishes will not cost us more. Many times it happened with me and it worked out well.
A good appreciation and caring is required. They should feel that we appreciated their hard work and if we realise their effort, we will compensate them. So, always we can find out their mind and wishes and if we could move accordingly, they like us more.
Regards,
Thank-s
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@bautistaanna04 (306)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
you're one lucky mom. lots of kids nowadays don't take school seriously. good thing your daughter get high grades. i think giving her a reward would be nice. she would probably see it as a token of your appreciation to her efforts. this will encourage her more and strive harder.
it could also be non-material like telling her that you're proud of her or something like that.
i'm not against to buying material stuff to kids as reward but they might grow spoiled, always waiting a material reward for every good deeds they make. i just think that buying toys or gadgets for every deed should not be tradition. expressing you being proud is a priceless gift, anyway. tell them that feelings matters the most and they might see it that way.
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@misalax (307)
• Ireland
9 Oct 10
Hmm, you know it's already a big deal for children if you praise them and show how proud you are for them achieving such grades or accomplishments. Material things may add up, but lets not spoil them with it. Probably something they really wanted for a long time or something you noticed that their interested at, but only one as much as possible.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
My daughter is in kindergarten. Every time she behaves and i get good reports about her, i would very much like to reward her but i wouldn't know what would be the best to give. Thanks for this discussion as i've learned insights from it.
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