Will You Date Someone Whose Obese?
By candyfairy21
@candyfairy21 (2039)
Philippines
October 9, 2010 9:51am CST
Hi guys I need your honest opinion...would you ever date or consider going steady with someone whose obese? I know they say that physical appearance is not what matters but what's inside but let's face it in this judgmental world we judge people whether silently or vocally. In this world that is so crazed with being a size 2 and looking good...will you not be embarrassed to date an obese person?
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22 responses
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
9 Oct 10
I don't know how big is a size 2, as in my country the sizing works different. However, I know that I would never date an obese person. It's not only non attractive but unhealthy, and a person who's obese doesn't care about his/her body, in matters of health and physical appeareance too. I can't be with a person who doesn't respect him/herself enough to do that to their bodies.
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@shaggin (72141)
• United States
9 Oct 10
If you read the response under you.. you will see that I too would never date an obese person either. People who are obese and dirty make me sick just like skinny people who are dirty. I do know people who are obese and keep themselves clean but having problems that they cannot loose weight. I think thats sad. Most people who are obese simply dont try though and dont care how they look. A size two is very small. I am a size 0 and I weight about 105 lbs.
@shaggin (72141)
• United States
13 Nov 10
getsome2 I dont think you read my commets right. I think you read a little or something and jumped to conclusions because you have issues with yourself. I NEVER said that obese people are dirty. I said I couldnt date an obese person or a skinny person that was dirty. Not everyone that is obsese or skinny is clean. I have never written that I wasent shallow that was another person who wrote that. I dont have a problem being friends with an obese person I just dont feel sexually attracted to them and if I am not sexually attracted to them then a relationship will never work. There are plenty of people who are obese due to medical reasons which I said but I also said that many just are lazy and eat to much. And thats true as well. When people are just lazy and get obese I dont sympathize with them but if they have medical problems then its sad. Generally when I look at someone who is obese I think how sad it is and wonder how they got that way and assume when they are that large that its probably due to a health problem.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Oct 10
im not a guy but i can tell you now that a lot of guys are fussy about weight. my son for one says he has to have a really thin woman no matter how ugly she is
he says his last 2 women got obese AFTER they got with him. and now he has a girlfriend thats skinny but is ugly and has a very ugly personality
but i myself have seen many guys, good looking guys and nice ones with obese women. so im inclined not to agree with him. every other man in my family has an obese woman and says, more to love and more cushion for the pushin. lol. i think heavy women can get men just as well as thin ones. its the media that puts out this hype on thin women. its wrong. 
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I don't mind a lil fluff on someone it depends how obese they are and how they take care of them self. You know always clean, appropriate clothes, shaved....
I don't know that I can criticize as I'm considered obese and pretty much anyone that weighs more then the charts say is. Try to keep an open mind is all I can say.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Oct 10
An outer physical appearance is not all we should see in a person. What is inside is more meaningful. Emotions and personality and strengths are much more attractive than what you see from the outside. Just because a person may be overweight does not change the kind of person they are. Thin or obese, i would date the person if I had feelings for them. it might just be the best relationship we could have. it would be a shame to let that pass us by out of judgment.
@marifel86 (111)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
It really depends on the person.Although appearances maybe important at first especially during first dates and all,what matters most is that both of you are having a mutual understanding. For me, it really depends on how obese he/she might me and it depends on how long i've met that person.
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@computergeek (79)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I perfer woman that are obese. Different strokes for Different Folks.
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
really and you will not be embarrassed to be seen out with her? I am asking because I wanted to know what people really think if you date someone big.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
9 Oct 10
AMEN to you COMPUTER GEEK! My hubby says he's a chubby chaser *LOL*
Candy - I wanted to say on the line of being embarassed... that's something that comes with maturity. Some people can accept flaws and those that can't spend alot more time alone. As if they are picture perfect on the outside doesn't mean they are on the inside. I always liked the cute, hot looking guys but guess what they liked the hot cute chicks and I was always the "friend" but it always turned out that once you got past their looks & knew about them usually they were a waste of time and energy.
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@sassybratky (872)
• United States
10 Oct 10
To say you would never date a person who is obese, would be saying in today's world that you would not date 63.1% of adults in the U.S. because that is how many were either overweight or obese in 2009. Personally I think love is following your heart & soul, not the package that houses that. If you fell in love with the most handsome man or beautiful woman in the world, and that person was in a horrible car accident would you in turn leave that person if they lost a arm, leg or was disfigured in some way? That is not unconditional love. You do not judge a person you love on appearance, what your friends say, what the world says. You simply love them for them. I feel very sad for people who judge people by the media's standards of perfection. As for those who are overlooking some wonderful people because of their body size.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
12 Oct 10
A little chubby is sexy. My wife has a few extra pounds on her and I really like it. However, obese is disgusting...
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
11 Oct 10
i think it would bother me ONLY if it was killing them with complications health wise but if the person was healthy i wouldnt let looks keep my away from some one im interested in
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Oct 10
Well, being that I am an overweight person myself, I think that it would be quite hypocritical if I wouldn't date a man that was overweight. That said, I also found in the time before I was married, I really didn't have a hard time finding people to date, it was just a matter of finding a man that was worth keeping around that was difficult. I also think that because of the fact that the vast majority of people are overweight now, it wouldn't be right to automatically eliminate all people that were overweight from the pool.
@blackhillsgold (88)
• United States
10 Oct 10
fat chick here.
let me tell you how it has been from both sides of the coin.
I was once obese, then got down to a size 0
while I was a size 0 everyone treated me differently, wanted to either friend me or phuck me.
(excuse my language)
but nobody really wanted to "know" me, it was purely an aesthetic friendship.
after I had children and gained all the fat back, I couldn't find any of those "friends" around. but ya know what?
the friends I had while I was fat before quite literally stuck w/me through the thick and the the thin.
I am much happier now even though I am the "fat chick" which nobody seems to care about. I am the friend my friends love and adore.
I would much rather be fat than thin.
@RamRes (1723)
• Argentina
13 Oct 10
Yes, I can do it. In fact I've already done it. A friend I meet on msn, a fat girl, we wanted to know in real life, so arranged a date. It was great, I liked her and she became my girlfriend for some time. I was no trouble with her, but after, I also really liked her, not only by our good relationship, but also by her body she looked very sexy too, with all that fat.
I like fatty girls, they're so sexy and can seduce as well as the thin women.
@craigy123456789 (1759)
•
10 Oct 10
people would stare and make comments, sometimes it is the persons fault and sometimes it can be medical. At the end of the day we are human and we go with what we want. It would not bother me as i look at the inside of a person, not the outside, to me a good heart and warm personality is better than anything.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Honestly, I haven't tried it, but probably I won't date an obese guy. But they say, love can move mountains. Who am I to put a period to something I haven't experienced yet.
@starrose_ara (784)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I was surprised when I found out that being overweight does not post any problem in order for another person to appreciate your other qualities. Some guys that I dated say they love a chubby person since when they hug me they feel as if they are embracing a soft pillow or a cotton ball at that hehe. The media often dictates the body type they say is the ideal or perfect one but in real life whats good for others might not be good for some.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
9 Oct 10
hmm I really don't know what to answer. for me it's not that important the way he looks but he has to havea special thing that would make me pay attention to him
@foofermen (500)
•
10 Oct 10
My last girlfriend was just barely 5 ft tall. She weighs close to 200 lbs. I think she is very beautiful. My girlfriend before her was not only taller but couldn't even fit into a womans size 0! WAAAYYY too skinny, even by her own admission. There were no "features"! She was a good kisser though...
I guess what I am saying is, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Every person has someone out there for them and every body has finer points. Don't sell yourself short. Be confident and focus on improving yourself. Don't waste time worrying about what other people think of you, life is far too short and precious to waste.
