should I or shouldn't I?
By Ellie
@ellie26 (4139)
Malaysia
October 9, 2010 2:55pm CST
I met my online boyfriend for the first time a month ago. We hit it off like fire works. The chemistry was incredible and we really had a magical moment together. Then I went back and he continues his study. We didn't communicate for about two weeks, no call, no text whatsoever. Then out of the blue he sent me a rather inappropriate nude pictures of a couple to my profile in the social networking where we met. I was a bit taken aback by the picture and I texted him asking why he sent it to me. He called me immediately after receiving my text and explained the reason he sent it because he thought it was romantic. Then he asked me to visit him over the weekend and at the same time said he loves me very much. I told him I think about it. But I don't know why I was so hurt about the nude pictures he sent to me and it had prompted me to write him an email to break off with him. I also asked him to delete me from his friend list but he didn't. He didn't reply to my email too. Since then he never contacted me anymore. I think I have hurt his feelings. I wanted to write him another email just to say Im sorry and wants to be his friend only. But I just couldn't bring myself to do so. What should I do? Should I call him or just move on?
5 responses
@shibham (16977)
• India
10 Oct 10
hi ellie... i know you are really a good girl and he is damn a stupid guy. when i read your first line here... i met my online boyfriend for the first time....then i come to the resolution what is there in the end and finally i become true... the line should be... i me a friend online who became my boyfriend later....
anyway, he is a perverted guy having lots of intention. he may loot your virginity by some so called sugar coated speeches. you are in trap. so u have enough time and.... move on. a person can live with friends where boy friend or girl friend may not be necessary to have. enjoy your life with us and wait for time... i do believe you will meet your real soul mate.
best of luck.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
10 Oct 10
sorry that i was wrong....
cause... i know a girl who gave a birth a son after meeting her boyfriend. later he refused to be her husband and now she is alone and boycotted by society. a second marriage is very hard in this case in my locality.
so i said.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
Oh ok shibham...it is not only in your locality that is hard to accept something like that but in general, people still have an old fashioned way of looking at cases as such. Honestly, I think it is high time for such old fashioned views to change. Human are not perfect, they make mistakes and we should never judge a book by it cover..just an opinion.
@danverxxcore (347)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I have felt what you felt but not an online person. This is a very hard decision to make and I know you'll be tempted to look back. What I did was to befriend and gently let go, then that was it. I moved on but with lesser pain than before. You should move on or find someone you may like immediately before it will keep flash-backing and tormenting your emotions.
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@danverxxcore (347)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
I am happy for your action and I hope you will be consistent about it. I know how bad it feels as I don't want to look back too. Happy Mylotting and enjoy your life to the fullest.
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@sam8pro (376)
• India
10 Oct 10
hi ... as a nature of mine i am very cautious ... do you have any set of common friends even if they are online .. plz confirm with them if he is okay .. i mean ...may it was a harmless gesture from him .. but just to be sure ..you can talk to his friends without him knowing about him and his intentions
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@pkdaftari (68)
• India
10 Oct 10
Actions speek loudly than words. He sent you pictures, because that was on his mind. This is not Love but a desire.
As human beings, we all have desires and find ways to fulfil the easiest way. Do not consider it as Love. But if you long for companionship, casual friendship, then go ahead. Love comes after a long courtship.
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