When you get upset, do you say things you don't mean?

I sure have said things I don't mean a lot of time. But I also realised that it is always putting me in more trouble and disappointment after that, because if I never meant what I've said then the person will usually keep asking me "but why?", and it is difficult to explain with and acceptable excuses. Nowadays, when I get upset about something or someone, I prefer to just be silence and not saying anything. I try to not make too much conversation because I know I'm capable to say many things I don't mean and always end up hurting the other person more. Happy mylotting and have a nice day

its is natural (i guess) to be like this when we are upset. but sometimes when i am upset i say things that i mean but has not come out of my chest. things that i long to say but can not say that being upset has pushed me to have the courage to say it. that is what upset leads me to. that sometimes it makes me feel better for having the courage to say what i want to say, it may come a shock to the person i am talking with but for me it was a burden that was no loner there after saying it.

Dear friend, I just do upset, but some words come out when I get angry. Moreover I rarely get angry that too very rarely. That was many many years back when I was in college days I used those words that upset others and myself. But fornately my next word was sorry and it was accepted. I feel words gone from our mouth is like arrow gone from a bow.

I've said it once when I was very angry but I say conscious because it's the words I want to say. Usually, if someone says somre rude word to me and makes me angry, then I would consider think it as an empty word so I can control my anger.

if my feelings have been hurt, someone has stepped on my toes too hard, i might decide to get mad and think that thought to myself and keep an opinion of them unless they change it.

Yes, a lot of times I want to control my tongue since my outburst often hurts that much for the recipient. I try to be listen more and talk back less. It also depends with several factors since If I am emotionally experiencing some problems I can't help it but my tongue gets the better of it. Some things that I said are not really for the recipient so I am truly sorry when it gets out of hand. I am still human with its fault and frailties.

a little busy body here and there. Anger management will help to solve this type of situation that is without saying the wrong words. And yes, sticks and stones can break your bones, what if the law says put them behind bar? Does this sound awful? Why can't they think before act? My friend ask me why am I so FREE mylotting... I don't know.

Unfortunately, I have to say that I have been in this situation. What made it really hard to take is that the person that was saying the really hurtful things to me was the main person in my life that supposedly loved me, my wife. Any you're right, those words stick with you, especially when they were said by someone that means everything to you. You can't help but think, how can someone say this to someone that they profess to love? Well, as it turned out, that was the beginning of the end or our marriage. I just didn't know it yet. She had found someone else, so I guess that was her way of telling me. And there never was an apology, not that it would have done any good. There are some things you just can't un-say. Words do hurt. The story has a happy ending though. I'm actually much happier now and MUCH better off financially without her. Enough time has passed that the hurtfulness doesn't dwell in my mind anymore, so things are good. That hurt I felt though, does make me always remember not to say anything without thinking in the heat of anger, because I'll probably regret it later.

I have been guilty of saying something i don't mean when i get upset. Sometimes my emotions can get the better of me. Anger and frustration can getr out of control. Once hurtful things are said, you can't take them back. All you can do is apologize and try to find a way to solve what is upsetting.

well when i got upset i always talk bad things to people. actually i dont mesn to say and to hurt them but sometimes my words hurt their feelings also. you know it is so hard to control what we say when we got really really upset

Hello there! Yes I always do. I even say stupid words or burst myself out towards other people. I don't know but I guess it's one of our initial reactions. We tend to burst out so much without thinking that we might have hurt other people's feelings already.. That's why I always believe in the saying that goes, NEVER MAKE DECISIONS WHEN YOU'RE ANGRY AND NEVER MAKE PROMISES IF YOU'RE HAPPY. I know that when we get upset, we tend to decide to do things we don't really mean. I did this to my friends and my boyfriend but I don't mean to say all of those stuffs. I only realize it when I'm no longer feeling upset. Sometimes emotions make us do things first before our mind tells us to do so.

I had one of those go berserk moments today. My husband is out of town on a fun trip(which I never get those), my dog decided that it was going to bark at every little noise because my husband was not here last night so that left me tired. Then to make things even worse, no matter what I did, my daughter screamed, and lashed out, hitting the dog, hitting me, throwing things. My husband said he would call by 9. At nine, I was on hour three of tempertantrums, and he didnt call. He finally got around to calling me somewhere around 11, this was after another 2 hours of tempertantrums. I kind of lost it. I hardly ever swear, i didnt even swear or yell while having my child. I swore, told him to go F himself, to not bother coming home if he couldn't even handle calling on time, that I may as well be a single mom, at least if I was I could move closer to my family and get some support. It was all stuff that was in the back of my mind that I kept bottling up. I finally had that release. I handed my cell phone over to my less than 2 year old, and took a few laps around the house. I am not proud of it, but I was so furious.

I had it once when I was so angry to my brother. He was very naughty and I was out of control. I kinda regret it. I'm sure people telling bad things are uncontrollable and they're in state of angry minds. Just ignore them and they'll recover

There have been many instances where I would get mad and say things that I regret later on down the road. It happens to the best of us. I never mean these things, yet I always say them. I think they should change the old expression to "sticks and stones may break my bones, and words may shatter one's soul". I've had things held against me, and people hate me for saying them. But I was just so upset, and no matter how many times I apologize, I am not forgiven.

Yes, I think we have may have done this at times in life. I know I have done it years ago, but we don't tend to argue so much these days. It happened when I got so frustrated I didn't know what to do and it has happened the same with my wife also. We would shout a lie, just to try and get the better! Later we would admit it, and it wouldn't seem so important. I think this is a natural thing to happen when people get deeper into their new relationships, but as we get closer to our partners, to have the upper hand means less and less, as it is all just a trick of the ego anyway! _Derek

yes, maybe a few times to many. I try to tell myself all the time that I need to think before I speak because the words that I may be saying may be hurtful and once they are said they can not be taken back. I think everyone at one point or another in their life has said something they didn't mean, said something that was upsetting and said something that they regretted. Although it can not be taken back and forgetten it can still be forgiven so if there is something that has been said that you didnt mean be sure to atleast let the person you said it to know that your sorry for it and didnt mean it because it can still help!!

I think everyone does it from time to time without meaning to hurt someone's feelings. When a mate has a go at you, the response can tend to be well what about that time you did something. As soon as you've said something you know it's wrong and you hopefully apologise and sort things out together.

I truly believe that when one speak out while in anger they are truly blurting their inner feelings that otherwise would have not expressed. It can be very hurtful so I try not that I am older to think a bit and take a few breaths as to not be so blunt and prevent any ill feelings on to others.

Sadly yes, I do it too often, I think it's because of the stressful lifestyle I have. I don't actually mean anything bad to a person, I think it's a way to get rid of stress, at least for me, I just can't keep my anger inside me any longer.

for my life, when I get upset.. I always say what i meant in my heart only 50% meant I really upset but I said .." Ok, it is ok..it is alright" But when I get mad.. I always walk away from that thing but yes some people they don't understand what I meant when I walk away ..so they walk follow me.. that is the bad thing will happen.. because I will lose control myself very easy to say bad thing to them. People need to calm down they mind with they own way, people around them need to understand with their sense if they really sincere to the other ( some people want to win with the fight, so they won't let you walk away because it make they feel like they lose, some people :p )