Where Am I Supposed to Sit?
By Dr. Ann
@drannhh (15219)
United States
October 9, 2010 10:34pm CST
I had to laugh out loud once when a nice person whom I actually do like came over uninvited and looked around and saw that I don't have much furniture in my home. When she commented on that fact, I told her "Yes, that is how I like it." But then she asked where people were supposed to sit when they came over. That is when I laughed.
Well, I have a couple of basic chairs in the front room, so people are not actually left standing, but no easy chair or sofa or anything like that.
The fact is that I don't really invite people over as a rule, and if I let somebody in it is not my intention for them to make themselves at home. If they are good friends they can sit at my kitchen table, the same as me.
Does that offend anyone here? Do you find this unusual? How hospitable are you in your home? Do you regard it as a place to impress others or as a place to live your own life, or are those things synonymous for you?
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10 responses
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
I'm actually just like you as well. I never invited friends to where I'm staying at because it is a place where I live my life with full of privacy. If I want to meet up with friends then we can just go to the coffee shop or something. I actually don't even have much furniture at where I'm staying because first, I can't afford them, and second, I don't need them. So I don't go and buy all of them just so there are place for someone else to sit on because I also never had an intention of inviting someone to my place. Impressive or not impressive my place is, it is where I live and it is up to me what to have and what not to have. I consider myself as someone who is not very hospitable, but that is why I said, I prefer to meet up a coffee house
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@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
10 Oct 10
No, this doesn't offend me at all. Like you, I don't have very much company but these things are synonymous for me. I inherited this house when mother passed away and it's a big house with a lot of furniture in it. I have a sofa and three or four chairs in my den. In my living room, is a sofa and about three or four chairs in there. I also have a sofa and two chairs in my kitchen besides the ones at the table and at the bar (it's a pretty big kitchen) so there are plenty of places to sit, lol
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
13 Dec 15
@GardenGerty Since then I actually broke down and bought some furniture for the living room egads now I have no place to put anything.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Hi drannhh! Great to see ya, as always! I am laughing
because you remind me of me. I am very much the same way with my
friends when they come over. I am usually at my PC which is in
my kitchen/office and sometimes I don't feel like moving so my
friends just sit in there with me or they sit at the diningroom
table or wherever! If they reallyare friends
then they know what to expect! I am always trying to finish fixing
up or re-decorating something, but I am not interested in impressing
anyone, only making myself happy and comfortable! And I don't like
people "dropping in". I have that happen less often since my
"roommate" moved in! My girlfriends aren't as comfortable with
him around, although they all like him.1 person likes this
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Oooohhhh-**************************************Sorry, that was
actually done by my cat Star! Isn't he smart! I wanted to clear
up that the "roommate" isn't keeping me away from mylot. He's
been here for 3 years and I do it to so we have our "space".
It's not a good thing. I was down to see my Mom for 2 weeks
in Florida and just got back Wednesday and before that I just
haven't felt like being here much since so many of my old friends
have gone and I don't want to get involve with FB. I think it's
great that you are playing sports! You go girlfriend!
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@acboyhome (39)
• China
11 Oct 10
maybe. in my country,if a person,even a stranger,you should show them a place,except the kicthen table, to sit on.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
11 Oct 10
Welcome to myLot! Actually, I do have a very nice porch just outside my front door and there is patio furniture on it...two lovely chairs and a table with pretty plants growing alongside. Of course the weather is not always nice for sitting outside even with a roof over the porch, but here in California (USA) it is usually nice to sit outdoors.
Here we do not normally invite strangers in, although there was a time long ago when that would have been the custom. That was a time when there was less random crime.
@acboyhome (39)
• China
11 Oct 10
in my country,random crime is so less that few peoplecare about it.American is a developed country,and my country is only a developing country.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
1 Jan 11
well your guests can sit on any chair LOL
hey come uninvited anyway, how are you supposed to get ready?
I am not sure I can call myself hospitable
not even a social person, in terms of meeting people and parties
I can 'meet' on mylot where there is no pressure of time, what to wear, what to serve etc
and I particularly do not like people come uninvited
I just won't let them in unless they are not well or need help that I can provide
A home to me is a place to live my life, it's also for my and my husband's home business
I have enough things to do every day so entertaining uninvited people is not my priority
@sbryan1969 (212)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Your post made me laugh. People can be so rude. It is your home and you need to have it the way you feel comfortable. My home was a lot like that when I was younger. Now that I have kids and they have friends over regularly, I need furniture. I agree with you. It is not a place that you have to impress others; it is your home, so do what you want with it and if people don't like it, then they do not have to drop by.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
11 Oct 10
Yes, when my friend asked me where people would sit when they came over, I said, "Well, you see, that is the whole point!" She is a nice lady though, and invites me to come over and sit on her nice sofa and usually she gives me something good to eat, right there in the living room. Of course, sometimes I take her food, too.
