will you mad or happy?

i don't mind if i did something wrong and someone come to me and correct it. but if there is someone talking bad behind me, i definitely don't like it. there is always a better way to get the problems solved, we should always talk to the right person, not just spreading rumors or gossip out there. different judgment or opinion across different people, sometimes what we think about others might not be right. it is okay if we just talking fact about others. i used to have one friend who spread something bad about me because he feel jealous when i good with others, even i did nothing wrong. on that moment most of my college friends started to stay away from me, and it's really hurting me when i heard what they all talk about me. sometimes we just didn't realize words can kills. it is been a year after that, now everyone knows about the truth and most of them refuse to be a friend with that fellow, but i already lose confident to make new friends or get closer with some new friends.

I guess that this is a good responce. At least if they are talking about you they have not forgotten your name.

i will get man if my closs relations or friends say bad about behind me. realy that is unbearable. But if it is a third person i take it as a joke laugh. i enjoy it as reading funny story. It is interesting. Some it helps me to correct me.

Well I agree with you that we should be thankful at some point. But is it not better if they just speak to you about your attitude or whatever they are satisfied about you face to face instead of talking about it to other people behind our back? Talking bad about our friend behind their back is a nasty behaviour too so they these people ought to learn about their weaknesses as well. Of course it is true that we cannot easily tell or realise our bad attitude until someone says it, BUT there's a right way to do it. Never try to correct some by talking bad about him/her behind their back, that is just not appropriate and also that does not makes us any better than them. This is just my opinion and I believe other people have different thinking about this and I respect your by the way Happy mylotting and have a nice day

Hmmm... If its a constructive criticism, i must thank him/ her too. BUT, if that person is trying to say something unreasonable or below the belt, I`ll just talk to him/ her then spank him right away!! hhahahaha.. :)) joke.. Seriously, if that will happen, i`ll just accept whatever they say. Ignore the bad ones and I`ll change for good right? :)