changing religion
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
October 10, 2010 10:07am CST
let's say you fall in love with a person of a different religion than yours..could you change your religion?
I'm not that religious person, but I don't believe I could do it. there are so many things so many rituals, that I would not be able to understand, less to do them. I'm christian and I couldn't turn to muslim for example, but I have a friend that did it. she married a man from iran, turned muslim and she says she's relly happy, that all her life she felt like she didn't belong to christian
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16 responses
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
10 Oct 10
yea god it's the same...and in a certain way all the religion tell almost the same story with different names...but there are important differences, so I guess it wouldn;t be that easy to change your religion.
@harlequine (3)
•
11 Oct 10
yeah..what important is that you are happy. religion is just a factor on a relationship. people who loved each other should just be open minded about everything to maintain balance but i do believe that if change from being christian to islam that's get a little tricky coz islam really do practice a different type of worship and custom than christians but still if two people love each other and there happy that all there is to it.
@chucksbaby (10)
• United States
10 Oct 10
I don't see why you should HAVE to. If that person truly loves you, then they will accept you for who you are and what you believe. If you WANT to, that is completely different. Some people may find that their partners religion is more fulfilling for them and they enjoy it more. If neither partner decides to change and depending on how religious they are, I believe they should compromise if days of worship conflict. They should attend each other's services. It's a great way to bond and get to know each other, and of course, you don't have to a practitioner to attend a religious service. I was raised Catholic, but I've been to many other different services. I'm not a regular church goer by any means, but I like to attend other churches to see what they have to offer. To me, most religions are generically the same. They may have a different word for God and different practices, but they are all worshiping a being higher than themselves and showing their faith.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
10 Oct 10
muslim and christian could get married? as far as I know the muslim religion doesn;t allow this? am I wrong?
@chucksbaby (10)
• United States
10 Oct 10
As far as I know, it is allowed for a Muslim man to marry a Christian or Jewish woman. This is not the same the other way around. I believe a lot of religion to be generalized, obviously you wouldn't do everything in the bible word for word. They are books after all, holy books yes, but books written by MAN and not GOD. If a Muslim truly loves someone of a different faith, I think it is their decision to move forward with it or not...not their religion's. I feel like in that instance, if neither were to change, it might cause some problems in the marriage, but if both were openminded, willing to work through problems, and agree on how their children should be raised, a loving relationship can definitely bloom. Remember that God gave us free will (or Allah) and that ultimately we have the right to choose. Even if they are shunned or kicked out of their church, that doesn't change a person's beliefs, does it?
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Oct 10
Hi Swissheart,
Well any religion should be a belief system which you strongly believe in your heart. So many people call themselves a certain religion just because that is how they were raised and not because they really believe. I would say that must be the case with your friend if she could easily slide from being a Christian to being a Muslim. Sounds as if she was a Christian in name only.
@bumblebee34 (190)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
religion.. this reminds me of one of my discussion with my friend. first, ever since i learned about love, i always believe that religion would never matter as long as you two love each other. on the contrary, last month, my friend ask me, wel he is actually my ex boyfriend. he ask me if we get the chance to be together and destiny really had us to be together, would i choose to convert to his religion or would i rather stay with the religion i have now.
being not ready with the question, i was quiet for some minutes, then i ask him, is religion relly that important? and he said yes. so i said, well, for me religion will always be religion, and that would nevet matter to two people who are inlove. upon saying this, he disagree and said, he will not change his religion so its should be the me, or whoever the girl is should change religion for him. silence----
so i told him, we'll just see if we really were meant for each other, only then will i decide if i will change my religion.
but for me, if two people are inlove, i dont think one would ask the other to convert religion just to be with the other. i think it is not fair to ask someone to change just for religion sake. besides, i know its not wrong to attend other religions ceremony right?
so why would you ask someone to change just for religion sake?
happy mylotting!^^
@chucksbaby (10)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Completely agree. It should always be a choice. There is what we call "unconditional love" and "conditional love." Why should there be stipulations attached to why a person should love you? There shouldn't. All love should be unconditional otherwise it isn't true love. A person should never ask another to change their religion, it should always be a choice that person is willing to make, and if they choose not to change, there should be no love lost.
@surya76 (21)
• Indonesia
11 Oct 10
I won't change my religion for love. I won't ask her to change her religion either. But, I can't married to a person of different religion than mine. So, that's it. I move on with my life and she moves on hers.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
I don't really try to get into relationship with anyone who their religion requires me to change my religion and belief just because I'm getting married with the person or something. It's really not necessary in my life, I'm happy living my life the way it is with whatever I believe at the moment. Religion and belief should be put separate from marriage but yeah, I can only say that and cannot rule the world. But as I say I don't and won't change religion just because of relationship. I'm happy being a free spirit
@aurel83 (102)
• United States
11 Oct 10
me too, i dont think i could change my religion just because i fall in love with a man and want to get married with him. religion is not an easy matter that you can easily change to another. religion is faith, it is what you believe. does it worth to replace by love?
@ElaineSpencer (152)
• United States
10 Oct 10
I wouldn't feel comfortable changing who I am for someone that I love. I'm Pagan, and my fiance is Wiccan; this hasn't caused any problems in the last five months we've been together, and the only complication we've had is how we're going to raise our daughter, once she's born. I think we have it easier, because some people say Wicca is a branch of Paganism, but I'm still not sure. I'm going to say that I wouldn't change my religious views for anyone.
@kendrathil (308)
• India
11 Oct 10
There is no meaning in converting to Islam from Christianity. I believe n the religion of love and care.
@bupsypie1988 (65)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
yes it is a really difficult situation when you will have to choose between the person you truly love and the religion you have been born with.but it is really up to the person because we all have different views of life especially with our spirituality.some people have been long with that religion but didn't feel like they belong with it.and some people would just give up their religion for the person they truly love.and even felt happier because they have done it for LOVE.i mean if you are really in love with the person then no matter what it takes you will do it..right??
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
10 Oct 10
Well religion wouldn't be such an issue for us nowadays but it would be an issue for most of the parents. Lovers change their religions for the one they love but it's not so easy to change faith easily from one god to another. There is universally one god and it's just represented in various forms that's all.
Religion and love are two different things which have no relation which each other. If someone wants to change religion then it's only for the one you love. It would be difficult to do so. Parents would object against it and all. But people should be understanding. Why should one change religion to love? Is it really necessary?
Cheers!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
swiss i would do that if for us to marry me and my bf i had to change my religion i would change^^ would be ok^^ if we love someone we can do that. you can still have your beliefs :) noone has to know. and that way you can marry the guy you love^^ you can be honest with him and say i will change for marry you but i will always have my own beliefs ^^ im sure that he would be ok with it bcs i already changed just for us to marry^^ but if wasnt for marry i wouldnt change my religion^^ i have my own beliefs and if he loves me is with it included^^ or else he doesnt love me. so i would change if for us to marry was necessary but if not i wouldnt change for sure^^ we all have the right to have our own beliefs^^
