I am a straight talker, I speak my mind, but always gets misinterpreted.
By jennbart
@jennbart (1330)
Philippines
October 10, 2010 10:48am CST
I am a Filipino and usually, Filipinos always sugarcoat their words to make others feel good about themselves.Its so unlikely for us Filipinos to be a straight talker or to speak our mind. I, on the other hand is the complete opposite. I really speak what I really think about someone. It may hurt the people I say these things to, but I guess its better that they hear it from me about what I really think or feel than hear things from other people that I have something against them. I always get misinterpreted about how I say things. I guess some people still want to hear the sweet words from a person even if they hear bad things about them from others.
2 responses
@onichboy (134)
• Thailand
11 Oct 10
hmm..this will really depend on someone's attitude. There is a big difference on being straightforward and being a hypocrite. It is best to be at your most honest behaviour but it doesn't apply to everyone because we are separated by our emotions/feelings. One may appreciate a person for frank opinions but most people do not. For friends, it would be normal or ideal to be candid at each other because it builds the relationship. But, for others that you don't really know it is always better to be cautious because you don't know how that person will perceive what you will say. Like what you said, you might be misjudged and misinterpreted.
On the other hand, people who pretend to be nice when facing you but stabbing you at the back are hypocrites. I would choose to be a straightforward person but, I will choose my words so I won't offend anyone and be misjudged. I cannot always say that "I am a frank person, so deal with it". You'll only get from others what they think you deserve. :)
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Being straightforward does not mean going around telling them what you think about them. But if they ask for your honest opinion, I do tell them what I really think. Or if the person has a crappy attitude, then I will give them what they deserve to hear. That is what I meant when I say straightforward. If there is a kid who I do not find cute for example, I wont tell the mom " you do not have a cute kid" but I wont tell he is cute either" I will just others be. But if a colleague gives me attitude, I will tell them to quit giving me attitude because they are pissing me off. I will not let the person just do that to me. I wont let them bully me. If I ask a friend what he/ she thinks about my question, I want an honest to goodness honest answer even if what they will say wont be nice to hear too. Like if you ask me " am I fat?" if you are fat, then, I will tell you " yes, you are fat." But I wont give you my opinion if you are not asking for it.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
that's perfectly cool. Thanks for posting too! re my post, usually Filipinos loves to hear the good side and would feel awfully bad if they hear the bad ones. One of my colleague keeps on answering me by talking like a baby.. and it pissed me so much as I am very serious about what I was asking her.. so obviously, I am expecting a straight answer and not baby talking me. So I told her right then and there " stop answering me like that. Iam asking you straight up, dont answer me like a retard" It might had hurt her when I said that, But honestly, I hate being answered like that since I am talking to her with all seriousness regarding work and answered " huuuh? you you.. know... uh,.... lilly ( really) I lilly lilly lilly do know.. like a 3 year old kid learning to talk. So Rude! I have to ask her what LILLY means as I cant understand Retardese language. Leave the baby talking to the baby. The baby has every reason to talk like that as the kid is on their learning curve. She is 27! For cheese's sake.. talk like an ADULT!
@onichboy (134)
• Thailand
13 Oct 10
Sorry if I misunderstood your post, it may have been the title of your discussion but good thing you explained further what you meant. So, I don't find anything wring if someone is asking for your honest opinion and you tell them straight away what you really think. The problem would lie on the person who will hear it, if he/she can handle the truth.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I guess, I wont change for other people. That's me. They might not want to know what I think about them but atleast I am not stabbing them at their backs! I'd rather get stabbed in front, where people will say not so good things about me to my face than say " you are so nice, you are so.. good, and beautiful etc" when at my back they'd go...." Biatch, you are so ugly, you are so mean" No sugar coating for me please. I'd rather know what they are thinking or think about me in front and to my face... than trash talking me at my back.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Besides, by being a straight talker, you get to have your credibility intact. When you praise someone, people will believe what you are saying is true. Than say nice things always and at the back of that person you say otherwise. Ive seen people praising some kids " oh, you are so cute etc. etc.." but at the back.,. you'll see their faces cringing as if to say... " cute? blech! you are everything BUT cute!"
