Is being a loner good or bad?

being a programmer talks a lot too. I am an IT student who talks a lot in my mind on the things that I will do on a certain program or website. I think loners are very active with the things on research or reading books. We are busy with something that people can't see.

Agree, and I think that's the reason why people calls us loners (programmers). We really have a small time on hanging out. but that's our life's course, we can also make a schedule on hanging out with friends.

That's true . And seems that the most of our free time we dedicate to programming or learning the new ways of doing thing's leaves us with just a small amount of time to share our experience with our friends .

For me being a lone is like giving myself a break. Like this time, i'm the only one who is awake. I can give all the time to myself.

ellyse i agree with you.. sometimes i also need to be alone just to make myself very comfortable with a big silent do not need to hear anything from people around me... but it doesn't mean that i don't need friend anymore.. sometimes we have to out from our daily activity and give a rest to ourself

Yes, we all do need that and be back to our busy life again. Its just that we need a break not just being busy all week long.

I need to learn more on how to be an independent person. Whenever I'm alone I do search on a lot of things. But, yes, being alone for the rest of our lives is not a good idea.

That's he reason I don't like friends with me when I go out, its an insult for me to hear them say that this one is ugly or rubbish dress you're just going to waste your money. Its me, that's how i express myself when buying things I want and that's why I want it.

you know how to be independent. We all do needs to learn that. I want to be very independent too, maybe that's why I love to be alone for a while.

I think we have different meaning of being a loner here.hmm, quite confusing. but what I mean in this thread is that, do you love being a lone when you go out or, do you sometimes give a break? As what I have researched there are two types of loners. The one who gives a break because of the tiring day and take all the time to himself and the loner that doesn't want to be with anybody because he/she has a problem.

That's a very narrow and uniformed opinion, I'm sorry to have to say. For one thing, the person who just needs a break isn't a loner at all. And wanting to spend most of your time alone doesn't mean you have a problem. There's a different between extraverts, who enjoy being with people most of the time, and introverts who need to be away from people a good bit of the time. The difference is one of temperament, not psychological problems. And even introverts usually enjoy being with people, but for shorter times. They also prefer to be with one or two people at a time, people that they know, and dislike crowds. If someone avoids people completely, and that is pretty rare, then yes, they probably do have some kind of problem. But you don't have to lump all loners together and say they're that way because something's wrong with them.

Yeah, maybe it really depends on the person on how will he/she finish a day with or without somebody. I think too much on expressive (to other people not on me) is not healthy but its not but to share something about ourselves.

hehehe, very active with this discussions. You love to be a single. But soon you will also have a life partner.

how about being alone sometime? To have time to yourself without any disturbances?

Same with me, whenever I'm alone that is the only time this around me are fine, no noise interruptions. It's my time to relax.

What happened to you? you should share something here too.

Yes, balance is what we need all the time. We just have to learn which is which and everything will go on smoothly.

Half half, which means you are balancing your social life and being a loner sometimes. That's fine because you know how to balance it.

It really depends upon us on how we pamper ourselves, it's not just being a lone and when you are alone we cannot consider it directly that you are already a loner. but having the whole family around is fun.

They tell that to me too but being alone gives a peace of mind also because that is the only time we have for ourselves. having a tiring day is stressful and being with a lot of people drains us. So I think we choose to have a little time for ourselves.

I don't really have close friends here. My friends are far away from me, they are my friends from high school and now I'm in college where I don't trust anybody. I don't know why but I think people here are not that fare. They copy assignments here and there, copy quizzes....etc. it's not fair.

Using all the time you have on your work will drain you, better have a time for yourself from time to time.

The night time is the only time I can be alone where my husband and my kid is sleeping. It is also the time where I can spend all the time I have for myself. I am still a student I married my husband when I was 19. When I'm at school (attending college school) I don't really go with my classmates, they just annoy me.

Yes, we need to alone sometimes, to relax from the long day of work, have time alone with ourselves and then we'll back to our work again. That's not bad as long as we don't do that because we have a lot of problems that we know we cannot handle.