the enemy of my enemy is my FRIEND. Do you believe this?

Philippines
October 11, 2010 5:26am CST
Do you believe this saying that the enemy of your enemy is your friend? You will be able to have an alliance with the enemy of your enemy but then they cannot really be your friend. I have recently experienced this one but not really considered to be called enemy. My co-worker is obviously stabbing my back because she is also a candidate for a promotion just like me. So she will really do what it takes to get that position that I am aiming for as well. It is obvious in our organization that we are not in good terms so another colleague approached me and connived with me to put her down. I mean it would really be an advantage for me if I would accept the offer but then I still would want to have a healthy competition in getting the promotion I want. But I am still not closing my doors for the offer because if my rival really did bad things to me then I will also have to retaliate back. Did you ever experienced similar situation like this?
14 responses
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
11 Oct 10
Hi, aaronfyzeon! I believe this saying - "the enemy of my enemy is my FRIEND", at least a friend in need, if not a friend indeed. If we have the same enemy to fight with, I don't care to cooperate with anybody, the precondition is the cooperation is also good for me.
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• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Yes it is also correct that the other part or person should also cooperate with you to gain what you both wanted. It is not applicable to all situations though. But if you run out of resources then you must think of a more feasible plan to get what you always wanted. Thank you for sharing.
@amit066 (41)
• India
11 Oct 10
hi there,i completely believe it's totally dependent on human nature.Its seems logical that an enemy's enemy is our friend as simple as minus multiplied to a minus is plus.But that does not mean that you can make a lot through this.Remember the person who is your enemy's enemy may revolt against you as they have same character.This used to be serious issues in our childhood but matures do not go for it as it appears childish.Well strategically,Countries around the world look for such tactics..as India find Israel as its friend because Pakistan hate Israel but that does not mean philistine is friend of Pakistan. Another stats that can be added as: Is Friend's enemy is our Enemy???
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• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Thank you for providing one algebraic rule with this. This is actually true. Thank you for sharing and I hope the war that is happening around the world would be over. Have a great week ahead of you.
@hvedra (1619)
12 Oct 10
Some people accumulate enemies. Perhaps some of their enemies might be useful allies but in other cases they are just as bad as each other.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
True. It is much better if you work by yourself in achieving what you want. Other people as an ally might just make you lose your focus. Thank you for sharing.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
This type of scenario is really common to typical Call Centers. I myself have been competing against other applicants but there's only one thing that I did that made me sit on the post - I proved my worth. It is through quality work and dedication that you will be lifted up. Not through what other people would say or do against you. People at the higher level would always see that. I love it when you said "healthy competition" as it shows that you're really a NOBLE woman. KUDOS! Keep smiling. Looking at a mirror near you should make you do. Stay nice!
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Thank you so much for the great response michaelgolez. Yes I really want to have a healthy competition because everything that I would gain if it was not from my own sweat would really be worthless. Me and my rival from that promotion are both in the low level of the management. I got promoted last year while she was promoted just 3 months ago and now she is claiming that she is more deserving to get promoted again within this year because she thinks she is better from the rest of us. Aynway, I will just do my job and always do my best doing it. Have a great day.
@sam8pro (376)
• India
11 Oct 10
yes almost similar except in college elections we did what he had to do ... befriended the opposite candidates arch enemy whom although we did not like in the end landed up getting a position of responsibility ..but to counter it .... we always had one of our guys looking into the way he was handling it .. it was unnecessary waste of resource but was a necessary sacrifice for us to win the election ..
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Hello there. Yes it is not always applicable to any situations that may arise. Anyway, everything happens for a reason. Let it just be. Thank you for sharing some experience. Have a great day.
12 Oct 10
No , i don't think that an enemy of my enemy can be my fiend. because i have recently experienced it. my enemy was my friend but due to some issues he became my enemy and his enemy was already my enemy before. i hope you understood what i mean to say. so there is no chance that your enemy of your enemy can be your good friend. hope you all like my discussion and i advise you to never make an enemy of your enemy your friend..
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
In this case, the enemy of your enemy has already been an enemy to you so it is not applicable at your situation. Find another person that you is really having a wrath on your enemy. I am not telling you to do exactly what I say but at least I am giving you an insight of what you should do if ever you will be encountering situations like this. Thank you for sharing. Yes I like your response. Welcome to MyLot and I hope you enjoy the site wherein you can post a lot of great topics to discuss about.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Hi, aaron. I often heard this in movies but sadly, it has also happened to me in high school. A lot of people dislike me so they just formed some sort of alliance just to put me down. They were quite successful but I remained silent. Maybe to the point that I just want them to have a taste the wrath of my silence. And whenever competition or war arises - this quote can often be heard. But I never want to be in a position wherein I would take such offer because most likely, betrayal will take place and the aftermath of that incident will not be so pleasant. Try not to stoop down to the level of the person. Just to be safe and I am sure that if the promotion is meant for you, it will be given to you. Good luck, my friend. And God bless you.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Yes that is correct. I am sorry for what happened when you were still in High School. People are like because they are eaten by their Jealousy or envy. It is still a good thing to strive hard by yourself and work alone to gain what you wanted. Betrayal will come to a point if you really did not made sure the intensity of the wrath of the other person toward your enemy, opponent or rival. Thank you for sharing. Have a great week ahead.
@flpoolbum (2978)
• United States
11 Oct 10
I don't normally say this, but that is stupid. I wouldn't accept anyone as my friend because they are my enemies enemy. I have high standards as to whom I select as friends and that isn't one of them. My ancestor's from both sides of my family came from Finland. During World War II, Russia was an ally of the United States. During World War II, Russia tried to invade Finland. The Finns were fighting for their survival against Russian aggression. Since the Finns were at war with the Russian's, the were considered an enemy of the United States. That is just as stupid as what you are saying.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
I am really sorry to hear that. I am pretty sure United States has thought about considering Finland their enemy a lot of times. It really is stupid but then these situations are real. Life is really unfair. So it is up to us to strive to have a great life. Thank you for sharing a part of history and have a great week ahead of you.
@o0jopak0o (6394)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
well yes, its true in history and its true today. but i dont know if i experience a situation like this because im a peaceful person.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Good for you that you are. But sometimes it will reach a point in your life that you have to connive with other people if you really want something. Thank you for the nice response.
@picjim (3002)
• India
11 Oct 10
I have faced office politics while employed but not in the way you are mentioning.The saying enemies enemy is my friend though applicable in international relations could be applicable in office politics.But one has to tread carefully so that your prospects aren't marred or the person whose help you are taking doesn't turn against you.I didn't experience a similar situation while at work though there was plenty of office politics.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Thank you for the response. Yes this is most likely an office politics but then this kind of scenario can also be similar to a bigger picture just like world war concerning the battle of some countries around the world. In my situation, I am handling it all by myself without the help of other people who are also involved with it. It is good that you still haven't experienced this because it is really hard. Enjoy the rest of the week.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Well, not really that true. I mean, it could be 'the enemy of your enemy is your mother-in-law' or something. As for your case, it's always nice to work alone. That way, no one will have the chance to sell you out.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
I would have to agree with you but then if all my resources ran out then I have to think of a way to win. Hehehehe. Thank you for sharing.
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
ahah yes i guess is true^^ if you hate someone and someone hates that person too you can be friends sure ^^ it has a logic actually. anyway im sorry that right now or you or that girl will be promoted. and someone that likes you more offered help to you^^ so it means that for him you are the best for the new job. so accept his support but dont do nothing that can make bad to the other girl. if you try to make something your boss can find out and then for sure the position wont be yours. so just do your work normally^^ show them that you work well and deserve to be promoted. pretend that you dont have no one competing with you^^ or else you can feel nervous and stressed and that will appear in the way you do your job. concentrate and focus in show a good job and you will see that they will choose you^^ who plays clean always win^^ and dont worry if she tries something against you sooner or later they will find it out ^^ so relax and work well^^
@RONDOLAWE (774)
• Indonesia
11 Oct 10
i hearing this before and some people who what get some promoted must like that coz we life for it but enemy of enemy is my friend just only said for some one who not want to bypassed
• India
11 Oct 10
Well I believe in the situation enemy of my enemy is my friend as if you want to beat or make him feel that you are superior than him then you have to find his enemy and make alliance with them so that the battle become harder for him and at the end he has to except his defeat...
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
I would have to agree with you if it will mean a battle or a war. But is also not applicable with some situations as well. But nevertheless, I will work on my own thing but if i run out of the resources and find myself nearly losing then I will or might do this to connive with somebody else. Hehehehe. Thank you for sharing guys. Both of you.