is it right for working women to scarifice career for children

India
October 11, 2010 6:13am CST
hi all, how many of you have had to quit a lucrative job offer because your children needed you. what do you think, is it a good idea to find a home based job to stay with your children. i had to leave my desk job for the same reason. but i dont have any complaints. how do you people feel. is it right on my part to quit my job. do tell me.
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
It is good to stay at home for children and all mothers like that no one will say no to their children needs. But if we are career woman and we need to stop just to takecare of them well it's not better if she is a single mother. If she is the one who are required to work for her child's future. Then only thing that I know the best way is to hire a nanny for her children and to find a good relatives to live with them. Do not waste a career if we have this and do accept or grab the opportunity if it comes because it knocks once. THis are all my opinion and like. thanks and have a nice day!
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• India
13 Oct 10
yes, if opportunity comes, one must make use of it. but, until now, i had no such issue or the need to go out for work. so currently, i'm enjoying my time with my kid, making memories to be cherished at the times of leisure.
@pecito (303)
• Bulgaria
11 Oct 10
When you decide to have a child you have to be ready to make sacrifices.It's part of the game for winning your child's love.You can't ignore him for the sake of your career and professional realization.Sooner or later it comes back to you.If your child needs attention anddoesn't get it,he/she gets frustrated and takes the wrong path in life. I'm not saying we should stop work and dedicate ourselves entirely to our children but we should try to balance btw being a mom and having a career.
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• India
13 Oct 10
yes very correct. thankx for backing me up in the decision to quit my job. but do u think its only women who sacrifise work for kids?
@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
12 Oct 10
Do you feel it's right? That's what matters. I don't think there's a one size fits all answer for how to be a good mother. You can be a good mother with a career or being a stay at home mom. And the opposite is true. You can be a bad mother whether you have a career or stay at home full time. As long as you don't have any complaints and it works for you and your kids, then yes, it's right. But, I don't think it's right for everyone or works for every family. Some adjustments and sacrifices need to be made for children, but I don't think every parent (parent, not just mother) needs or should make the same sacrifices. I don't think it automatically makes someone a bad parent if they work outside the home -even if they have a demanding job. So, basically, I can only say it's a good idea to do what you find is right for your kids and yourself. And, I think you have to take into account what's best for you as well. Because I think kids pick up on the moods of their parents and that can affect them. Bottom line, do what you feel and what you find is best for your family. Whether it's quitting a job offer and working at home, or staying in a job. And I don't think either one is the one right way to be a good parent. Both can work.
• India
13 Oct 10
yep, i'm feeling all good to be able spend time with my kid. she is the cynosure of my eye, and i love seeing her grow up, learn new things daily. i take pride in her achievements. this is very good time of my life.
@iDivision (1412)
• Latvia
11 Oct 10
Childrens are everything!!! Jobs come and go, you always could find the new one, but time with your own childrens is irreplaceable for you and for them ;) I have two sons, but believe me, i would give everything to spend more time with thme, see how they grow, watch how they playing, learning new things and are full of trust in me. Now i am working so that we, my family could live. We live in apartment building in small city so we coud not live as some families in rural areas - they eat what they bred. Have a nice day with your children ;)
• India
13 Oct 10
yes thank you, i'm doing just that. having a gala time with my child. hope u hav enough time to spend with your children as well.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 10
Of course it is. Children are gifts and blessings. Not all people are lucky to have them. Jobs come and goes. You can find money but not as easy as to have children of our own. But you still need to be able to have your own income, even after quitting your job and stay at home to watch over your children. It's for our own support and self-esteem. Try searching for work at home site. They usually provide tips. But do be careful, some might only provide scams.
• India
15 Oct 10
hi, thank you for the good advice.. i have started writing articles recently and it is a good avocation for me. when my childs asleep, i do it. have joined various sites like myLot to have some earnings coming by. yes, u r right, many are spams, i learnt my lesson, and now i check for scams related to any home based career site, then only i register with it. well thank you again for the concern.
• United States
11 Oct 10
Firstly I would like to extend a warm welcome to you on myLot madhavi. It is quite difficult to have a home these days with only one working parent, however if a family can survive on one paycheck then I see no reason why this would be wrong. Actually it would be great, since children today get so much peer pressure, primarily because they are not getting enough bonding form home. I wish you many blessings with this and hope wish you a fruitful home.
• India
13 Oct 10
thank you for all the good words. i have no such situation here that calls for my working. so, i'm kind of having a pleasure time with my kid. yes, i do agree that family bonding is very necessary for the children to be able to face the pressures of the times. thanks for the blessings. i need them most now.
• India
11 Oct 10
It is real bad. After all, we all live for our children and not just for ourselves.
• India
15 Oct 10
i did not understand what you meant. so, i did teh right thing in quitting the job i hope...