Why is it that past hurts? :(

I understand where you're coming from. I would say that it takes a long time to become mature enough to just brush off anything that hurts you. And even then I don't think it's earthly possible even to do it one hundred percent. But one thing my close loved ones have always taught me was to just get over it. It's not like you have a choice. You can think about it all you want but it won't change a thing, it might or probably will even make it worse. So best is to just brush it off and get over it. It takes time, and it takes experience, but it is the one thing I pray all people get... Inner peace. I wish you well, my friend!

i am supper brilliant in forgetting the past. i am blessed with it. (forgetting)Forgetting the bitter past memories is a sign of mental health. if you forget the past only we can move further. you can do it. My best wishes to forget the pass and to be a winner.

Oh well, that was mean of your brother…he knows that your missing out on that one year wasn’t intentional and we all can get sick anytime! Yes, the past does haunt everybody but the way ahead is to accept the past and do the best we can for our future. it’s a constant struggle and there will be more such unforeseen pitfalls in your life…you have to keep yourself strong and do the best as the situation demands. Now that you are OK, study hard so that you pass out in one go…that one year will never come back but don’t brood on that and waste your present time…its more precious than the past. As for friends and families, I know they can be mean specially when we need their support the most…we all have families and relatives like that…its best to ignore their barbs.

I do understand about your feeling. You must be hoping that you can fix that past. But let me tell you that you should accept it. You did not fail because you were not smart, but because the destiny put you in the condition that you were ill. It must be giving you new way, and meaning, so that you would study hard and take care of your condition in the future. Once again, it hurts, but it's done my friend. Look forward and do better for it!

The past can be very haunting to say the least. Let's face it, we really do make mistakes. Some of them are bigger than others. Some of them are mistakes that might be influenced by factors beyond my control. There are a lot of things that happened and we wished that it could have ended a little different. There are times where we obsess what might have been. Yeah, the past can be a thing that haunt us and really cause us to wonder what might have been. Of course, it is unwise to run from the past. Rather you should study what happened. You should learn from the past and figure out what you can learn from everything. Of course, learning from the past is not something that can happen all of the time. Sometimes there is nothing to learn but there is many times much to be learned.

My various experiences in life made me conclude that mistakes committed in the past produces hurtful consequences in the present. The law of cause and effect is at work here. The Bible teaches that "whatever we plant, we shall reap." The law of cause and effect works both ways and is impersonal and is not bias. It's similar to the law of gravity wherein if someone jump off a cliff he will surely hit the ground regardless whether he is a saint or a sinner, rich or poor, Christian or Muslim. Everyone is subject to this law. Everything that we do, even the smallest and most inconsequential, has a resulting consequences that can never be altered or influenced once the cause has been done. Remember, good choices or deeds in life produces positive results. Bad choices or deeds in life produces negative results. To avoid getting hurt in the future, one must become careful in thoughts, words and actions.

Why dose the past hurt? because everyday we are living we are learning we make bad choices and we are sometimes in bad cercumstances due to uncontrolled life situations as we learn we get better at making choices but when we revisit our past through memory we are reminded of our past mistakes and what we had gone through in order to learn our lesson, and some mistakes leave emotional scars that cant be erased or forgotten. Everyone has lived through or gone through bumpy roads in life, and for some of us the road is still very much bumpy. we just have to keep on moving on and try to stay hopeful that the road through life will become much smoother with time and experience, and try not to dwell too much on our past, I've been guilty of dwelling a bit from time to time, but deep down I know someday my road in life will get better I hold on to that feeling and thought whenever I happen to remember a rough patch in my life. as for my past chasing me aroud yes sometimes things happen day to day that reminds me of the roughist time in my life but as I said all one can do is keep on moving and think of the future and all the hope it holds.

There are few things in my past which really do bother me but believe me what worrying you is very small thing.As you grew up you will go though more difficult things.Missing one year is far smaller thing.eg there are many people who are in relationship and discover their partner is lieing and cheating on their back.There will be a person at your office who will pretend as your friend but spread all bad things behind you in office.There are far worse things than this.Its good you have learn a lesson about time in young age.Now learn to get over on such a things.Grow some thick skin and be prepare to face a situation when people will bring up your past to hurt you.You should know what to say in such a situation in advance.Best luck!

Well every failure or the likes hurts no matter if it's 20 or 50 years ago. We just have to get over it and correct what ever mistake we had or try to do things right. That way we forget the past or not entirely forget but we can achieve fulfillment and happiness.

you know one thing i also lost my valuable 1 year of my life just like you....i was studying in engineering 1st year.....i got nice marks in 1 st semister.....but due to ignorance towards studies i got 4 subjects back in the second sem....and i needed at least 3 subjects to clear but i cleared only 2....but the thing is i learned too many things of social life in this one year....i observed how the behavior of my friends changed towards me......and behavior of other peoples too.....now i am back in college.....and i am not talking to any female friends of mine....because they were not there when i needed help and support from them....now i am just staying away from girls because i think that was the biggest reason of my failure.....so infact i am just learning from my mistakes and now i am in 2nd year and my friends are in 3rd but due to talkative nature i have got a lot of friends in this new class.......so the thing i have just forgotten my past due to getting involved with others ....i am also an average student.....actually i am right now in the black list of my college but i really dont care because i am studying hard now and i will show everyone that what i am exactly...in the upcoming exams in the november end..... so just involve your self and dont think too much ...try to keep your mind cool....i was also never failed in exams....you are failed due to exams ...so why to care about it....just exercise daily so that you wont get ill next time... all the best

simon^^ sorry for what happened to you :( anyway is not your fault. you were sick so thats why you failed a year. so dont keep thinking about that^^ that will just hurt you and wasnt your fault. that could had happen to anyone^^ anyway i think in those cases schools should give a chance for a student to make the test. bcs is not our fault if we become sick :( anyway about me about my past i liked a guy and he was very bad to me ignoring me and despising me so i would choose to be friends but dont care much for our friendship like i did. thats what i would change in my life^^ have a nice day too^^ and dont keep thinking in what happened^^ remember it wasnt your fault

During my elementary days, I have a good friend who got sicked after his father was transferred to a far away place to work. Because of it, she wasn't able to go to school for a long time and eventually needed to repeat the third grade. Another thing happened when we are already in High School. She was forced to stopped studying because of financial issues. Meaning to say, there are many things in her life that she missed. But if you will look at her now, you won't definitely think that she had regretted all that. She was able to work in Bahrain and gave his family a good life and she is very pretty. I think it is proper to value time but if something happened in between, we should not be stopped in there. They say that there is no used crying over spilled milk. What you have to think is you still have more time and more dreams to fulfill. As for me, I haven't live my life the way I want it to be. There are so many regrets and what ifs. But I really don't wanna live with it for the rest of my life. Moving on and acceptance are very important if you have experience bad things in your past. And of course, forgiveness. Forgive those people who have hurt you and most important is you learn to forgive yourself. We should understand that many things happen without our control.