a LOSER foreigner -- FILIPINA social climer NUPTIALS..

The Philippines is on top of a chart for the most dangerous countries in teh world where there is a great number of people being kidnapped and disappeared without a trace.

I AM PROUD TO BE A FILIPINA!!! honestly, those who make articles about how bad our country is, and why do filipinas now a days are marrying foriegners half their age? I think that they are judgemental, prejudice and racecist people... I'm sorry I were too harsh by commenting on this, but, to tell you frankly, it is their choice (filipina or not) to marry a foreigner older than them. they have their reasons and it is for us not to judge them becoause of their age gap. As long as they are not bad people let us be happy for them and to tell you this, God created us in a unique way so that we will not be alike in ways. :) being naive is good at times.... BUT posting such an article as this and commenting a bad thing....Well, all i can say is, you guys are as brainless and racecist, as well as idiots like the others who are judging people with diff. in color and in culture... BE ASHAME for yourselves...

We can't blame these Filipinas since most of them belong to a poor family and to them its their only way out to the situation they are in. Sad but this is a reality to our women and comes to worst their are even old men they marry whom they had big "expectations" turns out as broke and solely dependent on a meager pension.This always not the case maybe, but I happens.

its sad but true........

ardie, that young Filipina lass you see with an aged foreigner is not a social climber. A social climber is one who rubs elbows with the elite or the haves, even if he/she belongs to the gutters. That young Filipina who has to stomach some grumpy old man instead of a bemuscled lad her age has no choice but to live it. Her world, unfortunately, dictates it, and she has nowhere to go. It boils down to only one thing for her... survival of the fittest.

We can never judge those Filipina marrying matured Americans because it's a lot good decision than marrying young jobless Filipinos men. Those matured Americans are already financially stable and capable of supporting their family whereas those young Filipino men nowadays except for those who are responsible usually they ran away from their responsibilities. It becomes now a necessity for us Filipina to marry foreigner men inorder for us to help our families .

Whatever the reason may be, be it for love, money, status in life, I think that one should not brand a person since we do have different stories to tell. Most people do raise their eyebrows for seeing Filipinas who are married to mature men especially if they are foreigners, I can't blame them. We don't know the reason behind their motives. Only God can see our hearts,I just hope and pray that the relationship will last and is based on love and the foundation of their marriage should be centered only to obey the will of God.

First, this has been an interesting discussion to read through. I've seen some pretty positive comments. I guess that there is always risk when entering any kind of relationship and the Filipinas you speak of take a gamble that the older foreigner that they are marrying will turn out to be good to them. Sometimes, it works that way and they live very comfortably, but others also have to suffer. Some really find love that they can cherish for a very long time. Let's just pray that there's more who find a good life, and that there be more jobs and better livelihood in this country so these types of partnership may sometime cease to become 'the way out' or the ticket to a better life. Who knows, maybe someday when you see a young Filipina with an older foreigner husband, there won't be the mail-order-bride or marriage-of-convenience stereotype attached to them.

You may have to come up with statistics to support your claim. For one, cross-cultural marriages is not limited to the Philippines. Second, it is also not uncommon for couples with a substantial age gap between them. You cannot generalize women who marry older Caucasians - who knows, maybe they are really in love. This trend has been there since I can remember. I have relatives who married Caucasians and their reasons are varied. Most though feel that an older Western man are more able to understand their nature. Not to say that Filipino men are wimps, but are a matriarchal society, and despite all the male posturings, a lot of Filipinas dominate their Filipino husbands. But that's just me - I think we should marry for love, but hopefully not love of money.

i am hurt as a filipina reading sumthing like this to my fellow filipina's really tear my heart into peaces. who are we to judge them as far as i know foreigners love to marry filipina's because they were the most caring person they met, as they were older they love the care that filipina were giving to them. lets not generalized i must admit that here in our country most people would look up to you when they saw you having a foreigner husband but that doesnt mean that filipina were only marrying them because of money or the green card that they can give them. i still believe that it is more on love & care.

Well we cant blame since some of these girls are just looking for financial support which these old American neighbors could provide to them. And yes i agree they deserve more, but i dont think they realize that.

Yes, I cant blame for Filipina women who marries foreigner at 50's with their early age. I just wonder also why lot of foreigner wants to get married to a filipina women ? But inspite of the situation , we should never judge a race because we person has its own personality. Both has to work it out into something to be able to be happy.Inspite of everything, Filipina women tried to sacrifice, serve and learned to love them.

I am a Filipina and I agree that many of us chose to marry older foreign guys to live a better life than what they have. I myself are not comfortable seeing young Filipinas with too old Americans or with any other nationalities but you are right, we don't have the right to judge them. We do not even really know the whole story. I am sure that not all of them marry just for the sake of money. I have a European friend who is forty two years old and when we go out with other friends, you wouldn't really recognize that he is older than us. He always says that Filipinos are very nice and he decided to sell his house in Europe to stay here in the Philippines. He is dating my friend who is only 24 years old but I really don't think she is dating him because of money. She is a very nice girl and I wouldn't be surprised if this foreign guy would really want to marry her. As for me, if not given a chance to be married to a Filipino, I am considering marrying a foreign guy specifically American or European, not because of money but because I am sure that my children would be all pretty/handsome. Sounds funny but its true.

Who are we to judge? Maybe they think that it is their last resort to improve their live or maybe they really found love with each other or a deep rooted friendship? Or the foreigner wants someone to take care of him when he is old. there are too many reasons for that. As long as they are good with that and they don't stepped down on any other person.

I guess those are their types. I dont want to discriminate as well but maybe it's those types of ladies they can get easily. More often than not those women are the type to be open to marrying foreigners and would willing go with them and submit themselves to them.

I actually have a classmate who married an American that is actually 50 plus as well or same age to my parents or even to her parents. On that part I'll give credit to her that it is true love. One time I have heard her story when she was in the hospital she was asked about the age of his spouse or husband when she told the nurse he is 52 the nurse wave on my classmate's eyes to check if she is really okay. But then she repeated it as the nurse thought the patient was just joking or thinking that she means her husband is just 25. But in the case of others I can't really understand. I have already heard a story from someone that we know. He is from America then he left his wife just to be with this Filipina which was 20 or even younger. The wife is actually crying to the extent that he also brought their money I think that is their joint account. That is one strange that I've ever heard and I can't even take that challenge. Maybe if I am with the wife shoes I could really pretend that nothing happens even though inside my heart it is really sad.

Well i see them but most of the people i know who got married to foreigners so far the age gap is really not that far off. The only one i know with 10 years age gap is my moms friends but shes already in her 40's and the guy is in his 50's. And shes not a social climber she is an accountant with enough money to spend.

We cant never judge the real intention of everyone,maybe for some the reason of marrying a man especially old foreigner,is money but who knows if they really love each other.I dont think that we should call a filipina social claimer and foreigner as a loser because the both parties like and talked about it.Lots of cases have the same scenario..Let us try to understand.

I'm not judging any of those women, it's just that there are some Filipinas who work too hard, and yet not getting enough, and this is one of their last resorts. The men on the other hand, also have intentions for marrying Filipinas. For example, there's an American guy who wanted to marry a Filipina for their family oriented values, like how when you get old they will take care of you and such, not like their fellowmen who unfortunately dump you in the Home For the Aged, and this applies to their children as well.