trying not to turn out like my mother,but seeing the signs...

there seems to be evidence that "whatever we love so much and whatever we hate so much ... will inevitably manifest in our lives .." [partly from Wayne Dyer] Perhaps we could handle what we hate so much by perhaps trying to rationalize that we are meant to accept everything in life without hatred ... e.g. we accept people as they are and consider what we deem unacceptable as a consequence of other people's "struggle to survive" What do you think ?