borrowed but not returned

I am trying to think really hard on this and can't really think of anything right off hand that has been borrowed but not returned from me. There were some books that I had let someone borrow and their mom put them outside to get wet, not fun at all, and of course I was furious!

Hi Snug, Arrrgh. I know and hate when that happens. I have that happen a number of times over the years, and after it's been a number of years and see them again, I feel too awkward to demand or ask politely for it back. Since I am a musician, I've had people borrowing or trying out something which can be meaningful or expensive (at least for me), or just small, and when they never give it back, and mean to after a few reminders, then just forget about it. Or disappear. Worse when they are former students who decided to stop an instrument and so they disappear.

I did something similar. Years ago I made speciality baby bibs.. looked like animals nad things like that. I took 20 of them to a consignment store...left them... a month later went back to "take a look" and she'd gone out of business....taking everything with her. She never called me to come pick up my stuff.

I have a pretty strict policy about not borrowing anything out. When I got married my husband insisted that I need to learn to trust people and he borrowed out some tools of his to a neighbor that was doing some repairs in his basements. Days went by after the project was complete and no tools...then weeks went by, no tools. After two months I keep asking my husband what was going on with the tools and he said he never gave them back, but I shouldn't worry, that he would return them. Well I will be darned if I didn't go over to his house and come back home with the tools. I told my husband as long as he was married to me, he wouldn't be borrowing anything out! Sometimes you have to wear the pants in the family....lol

hen e lend something to someone, we always take the chance that it may not be returned. this can be frustrating and annoying. When it is someone close to us that disappoints us, it can be harder to deal with. Sometimes we have to go out of our way to get an item returned to us.

Same here. My husband's co-worker also borrowed my daughter's favorite VCD of "Annie" starred by Alicia Morton and Victor Garber. We didn't get it back. He kept on promising to give it back but my husband got tired of reminding him. He just bought our daughter another one in DVD format. My cousin also borrowed my DVDs; Cayote Ugly, Just Like Heaven and Ghost. Again, she didn't give them back to me. Those were my precious collections, I regret from letting her borrowed them all.

Now I was reminded of my friend whose very good at borrowing and not so good with returning things. He just practically good at it, he had all the reasons in the world just to convince the borrower. He can borrow just anything ranging from money to other valuables without even returning it. Since I know already this weak point of his, I usually had all the reason to tell him that I wouldnt lend or borrow him anything he wants from me. hehe.. except for few things thats of less amount or less value which I wouldnt expect a return already.

I have a video tape that my friend lent me. I believe she has forgotten all about it. Anyway thanks for reminding me. Although I am unwilling (why unwilling? bcos both our sons are in it) to give it back, I know that I should. About me lending others, I have set a rule to it, if the thing is precious to me than its no can do because it often is awkward to ask it back. So although its unethical, I will lie about it. If the thing I can do without, I appreciate if you give back but you can lose it, I dun care. The last thing i had someone held on to my thing is some pairs of socks. She called me to tell me to collect but she expected me to come in an hour which I cannot. Then when i called her, there is no response, i am surprised. What I learn and experience here in my husbands circle about borrowing money, if his 'friend' wants to borrow money, he has no intention of giving it back. I have heard out of 5 friends that he has lent money, only one has returned it.

Too bad!

After numerous disappointments of never getting my things back I have simply stopped loaning things out. The way I see it when you loan things out you have to be the one to beg and try and get them back, causing the borrower to be upset. As if you did anything wrong but loan them your things. So unless I am prepared to never see things again, I try really hard not to loan things out.

My last neighbour before I moved away, she borrowed my shirt. We were at work and I have this habit of bringing an extra shirt to work, we work in a bar and as a bartender I always have to deal with water and things like that. I brought my red shirt which was a gift from my fiance's mother and I really love the shirt. So this neighbour of mine got herself wet while cleaning the toilet, then she said she has to borrow my shirt. So I had no choice because I would not want to see my work mate to work in such condition too. She promised to me that she would washed it the next day and return it to me. The next, I didn't get to talk to her because I was very busy. The day after that, I saw her daughter wearing it, and actually her daughter have this skin problem..ew..I dunno what it is but it is all over her skin. So I decided to never asked for it back but I was very sad because it was the gift from my fiance's mother. So they kept on wearing and pretend like I'm not seeing it at all. A year after that, she wore it one day and asked me if I still remember the shirt. I burst in laugh and she never knew why I laughed!

My parents loaned out an antique toaster, never to be seen again. I am missing a book borrowed to a friend. $75 to another friend. Another guy was commissioned by my husband to paint a picture of our three dogs together. Hubby got fired, never saw the money or the picture. The list is endless.

duhhh I have lost a few of my precious books in this borrowing game :|. I have learnt a hard lesson in life that never lend your things to anybody if they are really important and incase you lend be prepared to loose those things. I don't think I have borrowed anything from people which I haven't returned, though late I make sure to return things. I don't really have this habit of borrowing things from people now after being a victim of others and loosing my things with them. I don't borrow from people neither do I let them borrow from me.

i remember my notebook with full of jokes collection which i cut from daily new paper "tonite".. i loved to collect funny jokes .. cut it from news pages and paste it to my note book then i showed it to my classmates when i was in my 4th year high school days. but one day one of my classmate borrow it and told me that he wants it to read at his home.. ill let him my notebook because he promise to bring it back immediately after he finished but until the graduation day he did not bring my notebook and told me that he lost it.. i want to punch him in his face because i made a lot of effort to collect that but i don't want to have bad record because graduation day was coming that time.. so i am very disappointed that time.. grrrr

Oh, I think my friend has some software and books of mine. My hubby took a dvd to a job and never got it back after he was let go. I do not loan much out. He is more bothered by the movie than I am by the other stuff. My friend is kind of scattered. I would bet she will find it sometime and return it, meanwhile I am not really needing it.

i lent a devotional book to a guy and never got it back. lent a movie to a co-worker, same scenerio and didnt get it back either.

When we first moved in here the maintenance man who was supposed to be installing my washer/dryer hook ups asked to borrow my flashlight, and even commented on how nice my flashlight was. So after leaving a huge, gaping hole in my floor, and the door to that room open so all of my cats escaped.. he left with the flashlight and never returned to finish the job. I called the community manager (about not finishing the job and allowing the cats to escape.. not really about the flashlight).. and he got fired. He lives in the park, so I sent my son over to get my flashlight back.. and apparently he wasn't there. Then a couple days later I heard him screaming profanities at his wife or gf.. it scared the heck out of me the things he was saying.. so I figured it's best not to push the issue over a flashlight, even if it was a nice one. Another time my friend came with me to the library and asked me to take out a book for her.. I had to hunt her down to get that book back almost 2 months later! Thankfully I'd kept renewing it so I didn't get a late fee.. but I didn't tell her that. I didn't make her pay the fake late fee.. but I did tell her it was already overdue.

I just don't lend anything that I cannot afford to lose. To me people are so much more important than things and I know many friendships are lost over borrowered things.

I had a friend a few years back who could not make her rent money. I had just had a laparasoscopic surgery which is more expensive that the regular operation but I did not want ti be 2 weeks recovering in hospital. so I had borrowed some money and had this money in the bank to repay the loan. I felt so badly for my GF that I loaned her a month's rent which was US$500. She knew that I had to return this loan and had scrimped and scraped for it to repay. Well, she never returned the money. When I broached her about it about 6 months later she said that she was sure that she had repaid it. I am still friends with her but right now she is in a desperate way for money but she knows that she could never ask me for a loan again.