What would you do in this situation?

this would be such a weird reaction from him. to tell you the truth I don;t know what I would do, at first I would be in shock...I would try to find ouyt what happend, what made him want to leave me. I would cry and suffer...but in time I would get to accept it

I say, try to figure out first why does she want to break up with me, whats the problem, have I done something wrong, is she seeing another guy, if the last one is the reason why she is breaking up then I'm just going to move on, you cant do anything about that when she's in love with another guy, if you do that then you are saving yourself from the trouble of getting hurt and doing something reckless. Anyway, its easier said than done. If you're actually in this situation, it's kinda hard to think because of the pressure its giving you, even though you know the right thing you should do, you dont have the strength to do so, you would seek opinions of what you should do, if you're not in this situation yet then dont think about it, post this again when this thing actually happened.

Since we've been together for so many years and everything goes well, this is really shocking and hard to understand right there and then. If ever this will happen to me, I don't think I could react. Perhaps I need sometime to let the situation sink in and analyze it. Maybe I would not ask him at that moment. I will ask to let couple of days or week passed before we discussed about it. He must have problem for sure, and knowing that problem, that would only be the time to decide what to do. If he worth fighting for your love, or there can be no options but to let go. Depends on the reason which need to discuss instead of just accepting such sudden breakup proposal. there's always a reason and process to settle issues especially with relationship that took years. That's my opinion.

I'll be just cool knowing that it is normal to award freedom to the girl if that's what she wants and from there I will move on. At the beginning she must be so in love but as she knows some things, her decision changed and if she can't meet the emotional and physical demands of motherhood it will be apparent that women are just a bunch of show offs which I hope never becomes true.

ohh thats so sad :( you should ask your gf why she wants that. that you love her and she loved you and you both had so many plans and why now she wants to end things. you should listen the reason and then let her go. you worked hard to be with her and marry her and if now she doesnt want is bcs doesnt love you enough :( if she didnt want to marry yet is ok maybe she wasnt ready yet but break up? thats bcs she doesnt love you or would say we continue lovers but marry not yet. but if wants break up right away is bcs maybe doesnt love you anymore :( you should talk with her and see what is her reason.

Anyone who would experience that would definitely get shocked, depressed and very sad. It is a natural reaction especially when you have been with your partner for years. It would definitely be long before one could get over such situation. Friends and family would be a lot of help during this kind of situation. In the end, we have to face the reality that the relationship is over and it is time to move on with life. There are more opportunities in life waiting for us...

I think that way my partner doesnt desurve me. For sure it will be hard to come out of this shock, but it isnt impossible. If we marry will be worse, couse shock of divorce is biger.

If it happened to me, be sure I would ask him what's wrong and then he would breakup with me. Was it my fault of it involved in someone else? I needed to know the truth and reasons. It's fine that he wanted to breakup, but I wanted to know why. After that, I might let him go and tried to recover my broken heart by time. I love China

If that would happen to me, I really don't know what I can do. Probably trying to work things out and still no change I will just love him until it hurts no more. I let myself to love the same person even if he's not with me anymore in that way I can heal myself from heartaches and pain slowly.

Though it may be painful to hear that but I will not force myself on him. He may have hurt my pride by refusing to marry me but at least he was honest to me. What is the use of forcing him to marry me when he already expressed his disinterest? If I insist, he will only be pressured to marry me and he might blame at the end if the union will not work out. It is clear that your lover is not ready for a commitment yet. She maybe in love with you truly but she isn't ready to settle down and give up her freedom and be your wife. Ask her why she is refusing your marriage proposal. If she needs more time, then give her that. Wait for her to be ready for you.If you can't wait, then ,by all means, find someone else you can fall in love with and ready to marry you anytime. Goodluck.:)

I have read your discussion and now I want to say that if I faced this situations ever in my life then firstly I want to understands my lover that why she want to breakups with me. And if she really gives any negative response then I let her go. Because I always believe in true love and if she really loves me then she never ask me for breakup our relationship.

I think that for some people even though they have been in a relationship for many years, it still doesn't mean they want to commit as in get married. Some people never get that far but it doesn't mean they don't love the other person. I was in a similar situation like this awhile ago. I was ready to move in and settle down with this guy. We never had any problems in our relationship and we were dating for 2 1/2 years. When the question of marriage came up he texted me one day and just broke up with me. Texting someone and breaking up with them is lame by the way. Don't do it! It was devastating for me but I eventually got over it. Sometimes the thought of him being an inconsiderable pr**k crossed my mind but that was many years ago. Maybe you thought things were going well but they weren't? For two people to invest that much time into each other just to have the other bail is a shame!

It is really complicated situation. I don't image about my feelings when I am in situation. But one certainly thing that I will let him go. because If he don't love me anymore and no longer need me, I should release him. However I will fall in a terrible state for a long time. But I will try to forget to start a new life.