The Jokes On You- Can You Laugh It Off ?
By jujunme
@jujunme (2501)
United States
October 12, 2010 7:20pm CST
People have told me i have a good sense of humor and most of the time i would agree, i say most of the time because, i don't find it funny when some people get their laughs at the expense of me or someone else.I don't find this funny and honestly i tend to get angry at anyone who thinks it's ok to make fun of another person, "especially" in a group situation. In my opinion they are just out for a laugh any way they can get it without even thinking how it may embarass or hurt someones feelings.Why do people do this? I like to joke around as much as anyone and i'm sure you all do as well, but , do you find it funny when the jokes on you or at the expense of someone else?
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12 responses
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
yes i do can laugh it off...but often times there are no jokes thrown at me..for some reasons i dont know why. 
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
hahahah am i scary? u know me well. anyways maybe hahaha idont care tho :D
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
there are a lot of people who does that, and i dont find it funny too. its okay if they make fun of themselves but to turn to other people sometimes it is not funny for that is humiliating a person in public. i too like to joke around but i dont make fun of people. for sometimes they only laugh to cover the pain that you create. welcome to the wonderful world of mylot jun,nice acatar my son loves it.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I think it's very insensitive and unkind to make fun of anyone just to get a laugh and you're right, a lot of people tend to do this and i'm wondering if they would think it was funny if it were done to them.Everyone likes to joke around now and then but it should never be done by hurting someone elses feelings.Anyway, thanks so much for the welcome and i'm so glad your son likes my avatar.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
13 Oct 10
swirtz; You should never get used to being a target for someone elses amusement. if this person is close to you he should be more sensitive to your feelings. of course trying to get even with a person who does this will "backfire", since the reason some people like making jokes about another person is to draw attention to themselves thinking they will be thought of as the life of the party and feel like as long as they get some laughs they don't care who they target. Did you ever think of asking him why he feels the need to make you the brunt of his jokes? if he doesn't answer , tell him he must have a very low self esteem if he feels he needs to make fun of others to draw any negative attention away from himself.
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@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
14 Oct 10
I don't like being the butt of the joke, nor do I like it being directed toward anyone else; but there are some people who love the attention no matter how it comes.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
15 Oct 10
Yes,i agree some people that make others the butt of their jokes are looking for attention even if it's negative attention.they need to make someone else the butt of their jokes in the hopes of getting a laugh and being the center of attention what some don't realize is kind,caring and mature people do not find this funny and all they're really doing is making themselves disliked.
@goldenteardrops (747)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I believe some do that just for attention. I think sometimes when one does to hurt another it is good to say in front of the others also it is not nice to say things wrong about others to hurt their feelings or cause others to think bad of them. They may get angry at you or others but it takes a mature person to realize the wrongness but those that put out the bad gets the bad back. People sometimes say things before thinking it through and what comes out in words from ones mouth is what is inside them ...a joke is a joke only if all laugh together and no harm is done..but to joke about life itself to or about another to do harm is not a joke but meanness.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Absolutely, they are looking for attention and don't care if it's negative attention or not. and i also agree that those who are ot to hurt someones feelings by making fun of them is very immature,and insensitive. Laughing and joking with friends and relatives is fine , but not when the joking turns mean and persoanal.and once again i agree with you that the bad you put out eventually you will get right back, it's just human nature.
@elmare0699 (163)
• South Africa
13 Oct 10
When someone deliberately makes jokes at the expense of another with the aim to hurt, I find it unacceptable, but sometimes one can make a joke in such a manner that the targeted person comes out in a better light. I went on a trip with a colleague once and afterward he would tell our fellow colleagues this story about the trip, targeted at my driving skill, in such a manner that everyone listening would laugh until their stomachs hurt, including myself. I found that many of my colleague became more relax and friendly in my presence.
So basically, if it's to hurt, then it's not funny and unacceptable, but if it lifts you up then it's great.
We should be able to laugh with others at ourselves without losing our self worth.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
13 Oct 10
"but sometimes one can make a joke in such a "manner" that the targeted person comes ot in a better light"/ I agree, the manner and the way a joke is presented makes all the difference and in my opinion it needs to made by someone close to you or someone who knows you well enough to realize that what they're saying will not only be made in fun , but, also know that you would never take offense at something like this. Anything that can make an individual or group feel more relaxed with each other is a plus indeed.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Everyone enjoys a goods joke. Laughter can be the best release for anything. it just isn;t funny when we re laughed at instead of laughed with. It is harder to find the humor when we are the one to be made fun of.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I find it cruel actually to make a laugh out of someone elses expense. It isn't funny when you make fun of someone and embarrassed, people who do this have no consideration for the other persons feelings.
I do not make fun of others to gain laughter and pretend to be liked.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I used to get offended when the jokes on me because i felt like being hit below the belt. But then I realized it depends on who's making the joke. If the joke is done by someone not close to me then i get offended, but when it's done by a close friend in a group it simply turns out to be a good laugh and nothing malicious.
Sometimes when we joke about a person's disability we have to be sensitive. There are those people who couldn't just take being laughed upon their disabilities and would take it as an insult.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Yes, joking around with close friends is fine, but i still feel close friends or not, no one should joke around to the point of hurting someones feelings or getting very personal with their jokes.Good friends should know where to draw the line because they should know what we can take and what we can't. and as far as making jokes abot people with disabilities, no one should ever joke about these things as i would imagine people would be very sensitive about their disabilities.
@ivaylo2009 (973)
• Bulgaria
13 Oct 10
Actually if you think about really each joke is at someone expense.The people are different and take it in different ways.For me you are right,i can't allow to someone to joke with me.Nowdays i don't turn it attention.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Yes, you are better off avoiding people like this. but it's not ok to hurt someones feelings or think it's ok to offend a person for no other reason than to get alaugh out if it. especially people that are close to you.there are a lot of ways to make jokes without involving peoples personal business or insecurities.
