To be a happy and successful housewife!
By candy500816
@candy500816 (33)
China
October 12, 2010 8:42pm CST
Hello,mylotters.I know there are so many successful women in mylot,whether you are housewife or career women.For me,before last month,I thought that to be a house wife is worthless and I just wanted to be a successful career woman.But now,I have given up my job that was HR-manager ,to be home as a housewife to take care of my son who is 16-month old and whole family.Last year,my father and father in law was died,and in this May,my mother in law was died and no one can help my mother to take care of my son,so when I decided to be a housewife,my husband and my mother are both glad.I believe I could be a happy and succedssful housewife and to be a competent mother.
Maybe two or three years later,I should returned to my job,at that time,I hope I could still a successful career woman.
Just share with you,mylotters.Do you have the similar experience?or you just want to be a successful career woman or just want to stay at home as a housewife?Do you like share with me?
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11 responses
@piya84 (2580)
• India
13 Oct 10
hii candy
Thats so nice that you have quit your job for sake of your son.I haven't such a situation in my life yet.I am unmarried yet.But my sister faced it.She has to quit her job for 5 years to take care of her son.
@angela478 (1)
• Singapore
13 Oct 10
I used be a stay at home mum. The good thing is that you can spend so much time with your child and not be accountable to bosses or colleagues. Now that I have returned to work, I feel so sad that I can't take leave wherever I want, coz I do not have enough annual leave..
Being a stay-at-home mom is great when there's financial support from the government. So those of you who are receiving parenting payment, lucky you.. I used to be like you, till I came back to Asia.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I have been a Super Careered Woman as well as a Supermom. So you staying home will be great as the bonding and discipline you will instill in your child will be rewarded later in life as the respect will be upheld.
We can do both or if we are blessed with just being a stay at home, it sure has great benefits as we all can see the fruits of our efforts as the children get older. Good luck to you and be well.
You are fairly new so a very warm welcome to you on myLot. 
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Candy-
I've been both professional career woman as well as mother and I believe a woman can be both or either. I do not hold one above the other. They simply provide us with difference experiences that aid us in our journey.
I've been at stay at home mom for the last four years and I do not regret my choice to stay home. I know it is difficult for most during our current economy but I've found that we've made things work.
I do feel there are benefits though for the children that simply are not there without the mother (or primary parent). My children are not being raised by another, but by me. They are being raised with our values, our culture, and are learning to face their world bravely with guidance from their parents. I don't think I'd want to give this up until they attend school are old enough for cognitive thought.
Namaste-Anora
@candy500816 (33)
• China
13 Oct 10
Yes,I understand you and I agree with you.Your word "they are being raised with our values,our culture,and are learning to face their world bravely with guidance from their parents"is very important for me.Thank you!Have a good day!
@ip5217 (1655)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
At one point this idea came across my mind. I just wanted to stay at home to take care of my family. I wish I can really do that but of financial reasons I do not have the luxury to do this. My pay is bigger than my husband, so giving it up would surely cripple our finances. My only alternative is if we could think of a business that could at least equal my pay. Then that's the time I could probably stay home.
@littlemomma83 (58)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
hi Candy. good day to you! I am also like you a mother but since i got pregnant i decided to resign from work and just take care of my pregnancy till the baby comes out. My husband and I decided this so we will have a healthy baby and of course a health ME because I have low resistance so I need more rest for me and for my baby. Now, my baby is 10 months old and it's a healthy baby boy. I appreciate how helpful for my baby to be a full time mother because we are able to witness their growth and their changes from the day they were born. though honestly, it is very stressful and tiring we can't deny that but we are also rewarded with fulfillment. We can go back to work when our children are able to walk by themselves and if you think you can leave them for how many hours. so, till here. enjoy being a mother while you can spend time with them.
@doray1960 (98)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I did not have a career because I stayed home raising my kids and attending to my husband. In my mind. I'm so disgusted because i love to have a career also because I dreamt of it in my younger years. Now that I'm getting old I am regretting for the lost opportunities I should have but because I choose to stay home and attend to their needs I think I made a right decision.
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
13 Oct 10
i have triplet boys and had to stay home with them however they still cost alot of money to raise so i started abakery out of my home i have separate kitchen and every thing.let me tell you so often people give up raising thier children to work out side the home.alot of the time children are left to fin for them selfs .you will not regret being there for your son.mothers and house wifes are the glue of the family.bless you for being unselfish.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
13 Oct 10
Hi,
Being a full time housewife is a great opportunity for
you to spent great time with your son,Since he is still young, he
really need your cares.
I am also a fulltime housewife since my son was born. I have
been in this title for more than 3 years,of course, I do hope I can
go out to work to earn money one day.
But not now...since nobody can help me takecare of my son and I feel
unsafe to leave him in the childcare centre.
I do saw lot of children were left in childcare centre as their parents
are working.But I don't think it is the right choice for my son.
Unless I really can get my mother or my in-law to help up,then I feel
safe to hand over my son to them.
Unfortunately,none of them can help me up,so I have to make the choice to
let go my work and be a full time housewife.
However, I do enjoy being a full time housewife, I still can earn some
money while at home. I can do MyLot and do some paid post.
@waazula (116)
• China
13 Oct 10
To be a happy successful housewife as well as a professional woman, that is my goal. Having my own career and jobs fulfill my value of being a person and earns myself dignity as well as financial independency, organizing a harmonious successful family is my responsibility of being a wife which is the source of great happiness and enjoyment. I'll balance both, contributing to my family and dedicating to career as well! That will truely be a life worth living. Careers enable you to keep up to date with the latest development of society and enchance your survivial ability, family is forever the cozy place to reside, relax and enjoy.
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@fhems2010 (70)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Actually to be a housewife is happy and sad for me. Happy if family passed all the trials and problems that came from day to day activities. Sad if there are problems that we never got solve on it because it is so complicated and you think that you don't even know how to resolve it. That's why being a housewife is a very challenging job especially for a career women like me. Yo have to balance both your career and your family without giving up any one since you both need them.
