I feel that my GF is owning all of me.

It sounds as though either you are not ready for a serious committed relationship which your girlfriend wanted or she is too possessive and clingy. I cannot judge because I don’t know either of you but if you still love this girl what you may need to do is to talk to her and sort out your issues. It is from communicating that you will learn what you need to do which is either sort out your problems or decide to break up for good. Good luck with it!

For me be tell to her that there's a time to love and not so be love to her.

Nothing wrong with you really, you only got stifled with so much attention. Giving personal space to each other is of utmost importance to a healthy relation, as also mutual trust. I know some girls do fuss a lot…it can be their latent maternal instinct or insecurity over the relation. If you both are really attached to each other, then I think you should sit down with her and discuss how you feel stifled with so much attention and so much fussing over. I’m sure you both can come to an understanding over this.

Well, there is something about being in a relationship where you lose a little bit of yourself. I think that perhaps if you decided that you wanted to have a relationship again with this woman then you need to let her know that everything in your life can't revolve around her. Despite the fact that you have a relationship with her you are also still an individual and you have to be able to maintain your independence as well.

i think you're just thinking negative about your GF,and you know if everybody not changes in a time there will be a "bored" ,why? because for me if im only standing in here and here how can i change? there is some way that people can change , to be a good or bad,it's only that,and if your GF be a bad or anything else just talk it slowly and calm,just come back to her if you still love her,dont forget there is always second chance and third chance :D

I feel for your GF. I seems to me that she cares for you more than you do for her. You should've talked it over with her before breaking up. Set rules, tell her how you feel with that set up & if she feels otherwise, meet halfway. Only if you both compromise that your relationship will work. If you both wont agree with it, then it would be fair to call it quit. Hope it helps.

ahahah i like that line, 'disturbed by her frequent calls and messages!" LMAo lucky for you, you get calls and messages, it only means that people cares and loves you... well, not unless if the constant calls and messages were about checking where you are .. that would surely pissed me.. ..if you dont mind me asking, why'd you get disturbed with that? dont you want her to check on you or drop u a message to tell you that she careor the sorts? but yeah i also understand about being possesive and all.. that is one awful feeling when in a relationship.. anyway, just talk to her, and tell her how you feel. i dont think breaking up with her was the solution. if you love her, then tell her what youre thinking. tell her so she'd know that youre disturbed whith the frequent messages and calls. everything will be fine if you guys are willing to make your relationship work.. happy mylotting and God bless!^^

did you talk to her about that matter before breaking up? sometimes people think that they are just caring when some people think it is already annoying. i think you need to draw the line of what is caring and annoying so she knows what to do. sometimes women truly over acts when it comes to checking. everything can be solved with talking or communicating. hope it helps.

hello alfroi635! let me tell you my own story to shed some light on issues you have brought forward here in your discussion. i have a boyfriend who is not used to being openly loved and appreciated. we are both very busy with our own work but as romantic as i am, i usually called or text him frequently throughout the day, just to let him know that i am thinking of him and that despite my busy schedule, i still find time for him, reconnect with him through that medium. came the time he told me that he felt suffocated by my constant communication with him. i was hurt but i did not let him on it. and so i lessened my calls and text and just communicate with him if i have something very important to convey or else, just wait for him to call or text me first. And then came the time he told my why don't i call him anymore, do i have someone else? is he not important anymore? lol, i definitely playfully punched him at that while saying, "what do you really want? i am confused as it is, i call, you complain, and when i don't, you complain. and so explained myself to him that i was not trying to suffocate him or anything. it's just my way of expressing my love to him since we don't have much time together due to our work. Now, if he denies me that, there would be nothing left between us anymore. we would just be mere acquaintances. Neighbors would have been better, at least we would see each other in the neighborhood at least. relationships thrive with open communication. we both learned from that conversation. Now, we both call each other during the day but not so often as to burn the lines, just a few times enough to remind us of each others' existence. if you still love your gf but you dislike her being on constant commu with you,try to talk with her about it and ask her to at least lessen it so as to give you more space. But if you are not happy anymore with your relationship, then find someone who just call you when they have something to ask or better, who will talk to you when you're the one calling them. it's your choice, your call. i hope whatever you do, you would get the best out of it. goodluck!

Have you talked this out with her? You dont appreciate how much she loves you? Those calls and messages were the signs that she truly loves you and cares for you. Wait, for how long have you guys been dating? If its in the early stage of relationship, then I say be used to it. Its supposed to be like that at the early stage of a relationship. You cant stop thinking about your significant other. You want to be with her/him in every moment, at least that is what most of the people want. Do you show signs that you are cheating?, probably that is why your girl is so frantic about calling and sending you messages. For the most part, you are not getting chocked yet. Why? Because as far as your post goes, you have not mentioned that she prohibited you from doing certain stuffs, like going out with your friends, going out at night, hanging out with random girls and so on. Sorry, but you are an idiot for breaking up with her just because she cares for you so much.

I think if you still love her but you cannot take her frequent messages and call, it is easy to tell her that. Being honest will help you better, otherwise you will have to co-operate with her. But if you don't want to talk to her about that and you still love her then just let her go to another man because no point to keep going with the relationship if you are not happy, surely there must be another man who will appreciate her attention out there. If you want to come back to her then really tell her what you disliked and help her to understand you more, have more talk with her.

maybe you just feel suffocated. if you still love her talk with her and say that you love her but for her dont call you so many times^^ that you also need space to do your own things^^ is ok to talk and meet each other everyday but not all the time. you also can go drink with friends without her, also can do something without her be calling all the time. she is just caring too too much. so you should talk with her and tell her that you want her back but for her dont call you many times. just one time per day is ok :) and meet each other sometimes to go out together^^ im sure she will understand bcs we also need freedom in relationships :)

Hey buddy, If it was me I would simply tell her that you love her but you want time to yourself also. Just tell her you want to spend time with her but you need time to yourself also to get things done. If she truly loves you then she will understand and adjust. Those that are in love give and take to make things right.

hi alfro1635: i must say, I can imagine how you must have been feeling. you know, my ex-boyfriend and now husband, watched a movie together and there was a scene there where the girl kept texting and calling the guy who at that time is not her boyfriend yet. (i don't know if you saw it but it was a Bea Alonzo-John Lloyd Cruz movie) In the movie, John Lloyd liked/loved Bea, but just like you, didn't like her frequent texting and calling (he misses many calls because he is a working person). On the other end, Bea feels she is being ignored by John Lloyd, her not knowing that John Lloyd was really busy, and some times, if I remember it right, because of being annoyed with it all, chooses not to answer. and they, too, split up. my husband said during that scene (we're just steady then), "you're like that, hon, oftentimes (with a smile). I was taken aback,though I told him, I'm not like that, because honestly, it didn't look that way to me, or, let's say, I thought it was all still in moderation. In retrospect, it was my way of making sure, I'm being remembered, I'm not out of his mind, it's a way of making my presence/existence in his life more obvious. It might be like that with you and your (ex) gf. So I think you must first figure out by yourself if you really love this person enough to spend the rest of your life with her or no. Having space is ok, so long as needed. But I also believe that talking things out (when things are clear with you already) with her is also good. Imagine, you still love her but you called for a break up? well, maybe you were really tired of things then. She must be feeling sad right now, too, just like you! If you still love her and her offense isn't really too big to call it quits, better run after her before it's too late. Remember, most women won't make the first move, :) Good luck, be praying that things turn out well, soon.

Nothing's the matter with you, you broke up with her because she was smothering you and ideally that should have been the last you hear of her. You may find a useful article on my blog http://datables.blogspot.com/p/advice-for-men.html

I'm incredibly sorry if I'm being rude but that is really funny. Anyways, maybe your not used to so much attention in a relationship? Plus if you still like her then go for it man. I mean have you tried talking and saying that you need space? Maybe the temporary break up would be a wake up call for her and you so you guys might have a proper conversation. haha I sounds like a girl. But still just do what you want to do, that's what matters. hope it works out for you.