Have you ever give advice to your friend?
By advokatku
@advokatku (4033)
Indonesia
October 12, 2010 10:27pm CST
Receive advice, turns out enough tricky. If our heart in condition happy, which gives advice was people who expected and her topic fits ours requirements. It was like receiving windfall. Although her words advice painful, generally, our's keep heard her advice and also remain tolerant to accept it. Our's smile continues expand, her advice rushing into the deepest heart. Our's not feel hurt.
On the other hand, sometimes there a difficult person to receive advice. Any words of advice, for her was not right. Like vegetables, less salt. Bland. Words of advice to be bland. Unacceptable. This wrong, That's also wrong. The others in laughter, which advised even cynical. Cranky. Why? reasons it can vary. Because currently do not have money. Have a lot of problems. Was tired, not want to be disturbed. Hurt or because Offended. Or, after fight with her partner. Can not wait and think of other things at the same time. And many more other causes.
Have you ever give advice to your friend? what their reaction after hearing your advice ?
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14 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I have always tried to give my advice, especially when asked to my friends as they see me as a good exemplar. However, if the advice is not taken with kindness I am complacent with myself that I surely tried.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
13 Oct 10
That's the best strategy and for that I respect you even more.@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 10
yes, I agree with your response. but in my opinion, as a good friend, sometimes, requested or not, we should be able to give advice to a friend
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I have and somehow most of it was good and well appreciated. However, I couldn't say the same when I receive advice. I have recently received advise from a good friend which has gone bad. Instead of being my friend, she was angry at me because she says that I'm hard headed and stupid. I know she was just mad because I had wanted to give my ex a chance, but to the point of slamming the phone and turning her cellphone off? that is quite immature.
I know things would be better soon, but for now, I am in no hurry to make amends because I'm just hurt of the words she spoke to me. Hurt but I'm not grudging. I guess she was just concerned about me crying once again. She just doesn't want to say "I told you so" in the end. But, the way she told me these things was just inhuman.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 10
yes, sometimes expect a friend to listen our advice is quite difficult. Ironically, if wrong to talk, rather than strengthen the sense of friendship, but only made our friendship became chaotic. Need attitude of maturity in this case
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Oct 10
hi advokatku I have learned from being snapped at a few times here in mylot just to wait with my advice, if it is asked fine other wise' I will not give advice unless it is wanted.So if my best friend wants myh advice I am only to happy to offer it, but I am no longer just giving it out to those who do not really want it at all. If they want to get their discussions deleted they can be my guest as I no longer really care. some newcomers welcome help a nd are very grateful but others just tell me I am pushy old lady. well even pushy old ladies have feeling. and my feelings are just go ahead and learn the hard way.
it is asked fine other wise' I will not give advice unless it is wanted.So if my best friend wants myh advice I am only to happy to offer it, but I am no longer just giving it out to those who do not really want it at all. If they want to get their discussions deleted they can be my guest as I no longer really care. some newcomers welcome help a nd are very grateful but others just tell me I am pushy old lady. well even pushy old ladies have feeling. and my feelings are just go ahead and learn the hard way.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
13 Oct 10
Yes I have give advice many times to my friends. I always give good advice to my friends because I know only friends give help when friends really needed. And advice is always gives by friends to other friends.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 10
then, how react your friends after getting advice from you? they are happy or cynical on your advice ?
@GBSalasalan_C (32)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
Yes sometimes I give advise for my friend because I know that by giving advise that's the one thing that friend can do,you was tried to helping your friend to solve his/her problem.
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I have given my friends advice. Sometimes they tell me they get great advices from me while sometimes, they do not want to hear them. lol It really depends on the type of advice the person needs and the mood you are in at the time.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
13 Oct 10
Dear friend,
I do have given adivice and also received adivice from friends, relatives and other people whom I beleive to get a better adivice. I feel moslty to help my friends to have a better decisions. Moreover I avoid to give adivice that I am sure and not much sure that advice could give a negative effect. I always give adivice which I feel that it would give a positive effect.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I think we have all given advice to a friend. When they don't follow what we suggest, e can get frustrated and disappointed. When i give advice to a friend, it is given with a good heart and equally good intentions. What they do with the advice is up to them. @getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
13 Oct 10
Hello,
I give advice to my friends. However, I don't always give it voluntarily. I never give away advice if the person doesn't ask for it, or isn't mentally ready to receive it. It is hard to see all your wise words fall on deaf ears. The advice should be reserved for only those who deserve it. There are some people who just ask for advice and then when you give them they listen to it halfheartedly and then go on doing what they were doing, often in the wrong way. I just don't want to waste my advice for these insensitive guys. I'd rather make myself unavailable to them. Thanks.
God bless you.
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
First let me give you an introductory comment stating that never give advice when it isn't asked for. To offer someone unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do, or that he can't do it on his own, so when we give advice that wasn't asked for, we are implying our friends are too stupid to know what to do or what we are superior and know more than they do. We just listen and allow our friend to get their problem of their chest.
@iamjesca (185)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I always give advices to my friends. When they need me, and need someone to talk to, I am the one who will offer my time and listen. Well, not all advices will be followed nor will be inculcated on minds. But at least you have spoken your point and that will make people feel secure. By just listening to their dramas is fairly enough for those problematic people to feel more secure. Dont expect much to have all your advices be followed. Rather present them with your ideas or point of views in that situation. I would also say that advices cannot be applied to all situations. There are also people who are very negative of everything. Even though they need someone to talk to, some dont need advices but rather they need someone who will be able to just listen.
@laurenn08 (125)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
In my own opinion, Yes everyone have the right to advice, but lets not taking it for granted, sometimes the mad person have a lot of negative thinking during mad, we must give them a positive advice that can turn out cold, lets be in the situation of the person we are trying to talk and given the advice, we more fulfill after that he or she is listening on every way, of course a friend is a friend you were there for them through ups and down, so as an adviser lets give our friend a positive advice.
