High school friends or college friends?
By lynlypiochy
@lynlypiochy (706)
Philippines
October 13, 2010 7:30am CST
I have two sets of close friends because I moved away from home to go to a good university. There were occasions wherein I wanted my friends to be with me like that time when I had a debut. But due to the distance, my college friends and some high school friends who were able to come were the only ones there. Most of my close high school friends weren't around. There were also instances wherein I had to celebrate in my hometown and my college friends weren't there. Sometimes I've thought that they probably were never meant to mix since they were different from each other. But I do not want to have to choose over them all the time. If you were in my shoes and you were to go on a trip, with whom would you want to go with? Your close high school friends or your already close college friends?
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
13 Oct 10
I would rather choose the friend whom i have currently in touch with.
Because i have completed my college and this says i have completed my school too.
I have had enough tours in the college.
I prefer u to consider college friends, because u would be having more influence because u go daily to college and spend 8 hours with them, the more u know them,.
Peace !!
No harm !!!
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@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I am in touch with both. lol And I am influenced by both sets of friends, so I am sort of in between. I also always go back to my hometown. =D
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
14 Oct 10
But, u are currently influenced with? i hope it's your college friends!!
Anyways it's always a tricky choice to tick between home and college friends.
Decide better !!
Have a great weekend !!!!
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
If you say currently, then of course it would be my college friends. I am influenced by both, as I have told you. I hope I really could decide.
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@rdm001 (69)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Ask them both to come, if its me whoever comes, I'll be glad that they showed up and wanted to come with me on a trip. I have a huge set of friends, college friends, hometown friends, high school friends, office friends. Most of the time, I tend not to invite the other group because I weigh the situation like is this their scene? You dont want them in this scene since they're not used to this kind of thing and they would probably make this as an issue.
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@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
That is true. But I also worry if they would mix or not. Sometimes it works but there are always barriers, plus people always stick to the same people, more or less.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
14 Oct 10
I am closer to my high school friends than I am to my college friends.. Really because I only met a few people while I was there for (only) one year, and I definitely lost touch with them later on. High school is a bit more personable, if you ask me, than college - especially if you don't live in a dorm with a roommate, and you go to a public university with TONS of students (I went to one that had 80,000 people). So I definitely think it's easier to make friends in high school than it is in college, but that's just been from my own experience so far!
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
More personable? I also go to a university with a lot of students in our department alone. But then we have block sectioning so it feels just like we are in high school. =D
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 10
with both of them.
whenever my high school friends asked for a trip i will bring some of my college friends along with me to enjoy the trip together.
plus they can get to know each other too.
my high school friends will make a new friend with my college friends.
i like to introduce my friends to others so they could build a friends relationship among them and i like it that way.
why don't we just be friends to each other??
my high school friends will make a new friend with my college friends.
i like to introduce my friends to others so they could build a friends relationship among them and i like it that way.
why don't we just be friends to each other??
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
They can be friends, that's not a problem. The problem is that how are they gonna meet if they're too far away? lol
@sdsnvillegasB (22)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
For me,I would prefer my high school friends because we have a lot of experiences done during our high school days.And during those days we have a lot of fun,enjoyments,bondings,cheating during the exam,sometimes misunderstanding but still remains the friendship.I really,really cherish those days.High school friends had a big difference than college friends..
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
Why are they different from your college friends? Don't you hang out with them or do you mean that you do completely different things? My college life was more or less identical to my high school life, except that I was more grown-up.
@ceasarette (145)
•
14 Oct 10
I understand your dilemma completely. Something similar also happened to me before. But on that case, it was both sets of friends were getting jealous of each other. I don't spend as time with them as the other group, and such. I try to get them together as much as I could, but it just didn't work. Different interests, different age groups, different likes and so on. So I try to spend as much time as I can with each group, especially when I go home.
Anyway, if you want to go on a trip... Extend the invite to both sets, see who comes with.
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
Jealousy between the two sets of friends will happen, luckily, it didn't happen to me....yet. It gets a little tiring to have two sets of friends, though. I have to be here with my college friends for an event, and the next day, I might have to go home and be with my high school friends. My pockets are taking the toll of it most of the time. =D
@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
15 Oct 10
I think this is a hard one to answer. I would have to say if your college friends are good close friends then I would go with them. I think that even if it has been a short time since you have seen your high school friends that friends from high school can change. That's not to say that you shouldn't be friends with them but I think it's better to go with the college friends.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
When I was in high school I have friend there but I am much closer to my college friend. Because till this time they still my friend and have communication each other...
If I were you in that situation I choose my college friend...have a great day!
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
13 Oct 10
I have no any high schools friends because when I was in high schools then I was not like to make any friends their. But when I was in college then I have make many friends their and now they are my best friends.
@venkatachary (1165)
• India
13 Oct 10
Close friends means that do not differentiate college or school. Normally close fiends can not be many and they are limited. Hence, I like to go with the close friends who are with us nearby or who can be able to accompany us for the trip at that time of travel.
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
How can they be many but then again limited? Just saying. Anyway, of course proximity to the place of the trip is a factor and the time in which it would be done. Not forgetting those who are willing to spend as much, too.
@mauie0918 (337)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Well, I have to choose both. I'm not really choosy when it comes to friends. And one more thing, they call me Miss Friendship.
@pokumon (644)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I envy your decision. I don't really have close high school friends at all. All I have is close college friends. Anyway, I'd probably choose college friends just because I feel like in college I was more me. My personality came out more when I went to college and my friends there know me better.
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
It's not too much to envy because you also have friends. The difference is just that I have close high school friends. At least you don't have to worry about these kind of things. =D
@cherryamor (227)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Hi,
I still have communication with my high school and college friends.But I am always with my college friends. We work in a different companies but we see to it that we find time to meet once in a while. Iam very close to them because college days are very different from high school. In college we had a lot of time together during our free time. I miss my high school friends though. They had 2 christmas reunions and I never attended any,hope I will be able to attend on our next homecoming. For my college friends I guess we dont need homecoming anymore because we always see each other.
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
It does make a difference because you get to hang out with your college friends more than your high school friends. I see both sets of friends a lot so it makes the decision more confusing. But I guess it would be their decisions that would make my decision. If most of one group wouldn't come, then that's the end of the problem.
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
14 Oct 10
Actually, I don't really have either (of course I'm well into my 50's now so I guess that is part of it.)
Anyway, I didn't have a lot of friends in either place.
I went to 3 different colleges and only know one person left from one of them.
I still know a few people from elementary to high school, but really only made one new friend in high school.
Funny thing is... I introduced my high school friend to my college friend and they now share a house together... (they are just roommates because they are both women but not gay.)
@sjhaeki (795)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I think it is hard for both group of friends to meet because as you said, your hometown is far from the university you studied. Unless you live in just one province then the probability of having both groups party with you is high.
i guess i'm just a bit lucky since i had all my education in my province and just had all my close friends here. although i found a different group of friends in college since my high school friends chose another university, i can just invite all of them.
if i were to go on a trip, i'd take anyone of them who can go on that trip with me. but better if i can bring all of them, that way, they'd get to be closer.
@floranabolilan (80)
•
14 Oct 10
For me both high school friends and college friends are important to me, they are part of my life...those memories we've share I cherish and I will never forget them....
@ccrreeddoo (52)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
in my high school friends a lot of friends even teacher or my old friends i like to have to be a communicating to each other to be a good friends but in my college a little friends i have 18 or more than in my high school life a lot of friends i have i don why i am so be a good in my college life but a little friends or to communicate to me.,.,
