What to do with my spoiled son?

Sharing is a hard thing for some children to learn. If possible it would be good to have him with a group of other children more often. You might look into preschool or some playgroups for him. This may help but it will still take some time. Sharing is really hard with toddler because they are still learning that other have feeling too. Right now it really is all about them. With practice he will get better with sharing. I would ask him why he doesn't like the neighbors that is a little weird but he may just be confused about something. With the cleaning up after himself he knows that you will cave and do it. I have told my daughter who is also 3 that if she doesn't want to clean up her toys that I can get rid of them. I know it seems a little harsh but I want her to learn if she wants things she has to take care of them. It takes some time and you have to continue to stand your ground and make him pick up his toys. If not it is not an argument you collect up the toys and maybe put them away for a few days and when he gets better a cleaning he gets some back.

There are a few things you can do for him to pick up his toys.. Explain to him that if he doesn't pick up his toys then you'll set a timer for 5 minutes for him to pick them up and once it runs out he needs to sit down on the couch or chair while up pick the rest of the toys up and put them away for a while until he learn. I do that with my daughter and she is 5 years old. When he shows disrespect to your company then sit him in time out for 3 minute so he'll learn then have him explain why he was sitting in time out to you. While sitting in time out don't let him watch tv or play with anything..

A generation ago it would have been OK to discipline your son with a few well placed swats on his backside. It will be a little more difficult how, but he must be disciplined. Don't delay. His behavior with the neighbor is completely unacceptable. You must decide how to discipline him and do it NOW. Make the punishment fit the crime. For instance, being rude to your neighbor might call for a day without TV. Whatever you decide his punishment should be, stick to it. Don't give in for one minute, no matter what he says or how he acts. If he misbehaves because of the punishment, that should call for additional punishment. Do not give him any extra attention because he is unhappy about being punished. Remember that YOU are the parent. He is the child. It is your job to teach him to respect you and others. I expect that you will have a battle royal for a while, but you must not give up. Don't yell or scream, either. When you tell him to do something, get in his face and make him look at you while you tell him. That way he can't say that he didn't hear you. He is young enough that any discipline must be done immediately. At that age, one can't discipline him today for something he did yesterday. That will come as he gets older and more mature. Remember, whatever type of punishment you use, it is punishment for misdeeds. It's not supposed to be fun. For instance, sending a child to his room where he has a room full of toys would probably defeat the purpose.

Hello welcome to mylot Remember he is just three years young, many babies behave like that, let me tell you, the babies who are naughty when young, are the most gentle and well behaved when grown up, this i am telling from my experience, lol.. Thanks for sharing. Cheers. Professor. .

It's difficult to control when we cannot longer control or discipline in our way. For me, I started to teach them since they are small and monitor when they grew up. You have to tell them when they are wrong in nice way and the reasons why they should not do that things. If you're not getting attention to the bad attitudes they're showing since birth, they think that they are doing the right thing.

Hi Niaren Shame it is frustrating, but no need to be depressed. Your son is still learning to be a person and he is still shaping his attitude. My son was exactly the same - he is also 3, but whenever he does something that is not acceptable I go down to his level an make my voice thick and tell him that that behaviour is not tolerated at all. I have learned that reverse schycology works on kids, my son is highly intellegent and we are at that stage where if he does not listen, I just tell him remember later when you want mommy's attention I am not going to listen to you because you don't listen to me and I just ignore him it works I promise. Obviously it won't work right away but be patient. I give my son what he gives me and I have made very certain he understands this. There has been many very bad tantrums, but I just walk away. He had to learn. Every noiw and then a smack on the bum is a good thing. When he doesn't want to pack up his own tois, I will throw them away (not really) but he thaught so. Talk to your son constantly and keep praising for good things, it will come right. Good luck

Welcome to the wonderful world of toddlers! Where everything is his way all the time, no other options. The good thing is, he'll grow out of most of it. The bad thing is, you have to have an infinite amount of patience and energy to get him (and you!) through it. So when you tell him to pick up his toys, praise him for picking up the 3 toys, then guide him to where the rest are. Let him know that ALL the toys need to be picked up. And keep on him. And when he yells that he doesn't like someone or something, calmly tell him that he cannot say that because it hurts people's feelings. And you'll have to keep telling him. With a lot of persistence and a calm demeanor, he'll be fine. After all, from what you're saying he's a good kid. He's just at the age where he realizes he has ideas and desires of his own and he doesn't quite understand that he can't get what he wants all the time. But what he DOES know is that you're his mommy and he doesn't want to make you unhappy. Seems to be working for me so far (I have an almost 4 year old and a 2 year old both going through it). lol good luck. And I recommend keeping a supply of chocolate and Merlot on hand.

Hi, DOn't be stress over this issue... I believe your son is having Terrible 3's at his toddler stage and probably because he has no friend to play with him all the time,that is why he has this selfish feeling and don't like stranger. Since he is 3 years old, you can consider to put him under childcare centre for half day, let him have chance to explore the outside world more and mixed around with some new friends which was about his age. Let him learn more things out there. It is not good to always keep our child indoor,at least once a week,bring him out for a walk to playground or some outdoor activities or simply go window shopping. Always bring your son along when you visit your friend/relative, let him know them well.At first, he will feel shy and may not want to greet them,that's fine....but slowly he will try to adapt himself and he will enjoy and having fun. When my son was young before 3 years old, he is spending most of his times at home and sometimes when he saw stranger,he tend to be scared and don't like to greet people,so I entered him to childcare centre for half day and now he is doing well. He can mix around with some other kids at school and he learnt alot good things from school. Don't yell or argue with your son when he gets naughty.just try to stay calm and patience to handle your son.

When he doesn't put his toys away, take them. Tell him you will put them away - very far away because he does not value them enough to take care of them then someone else will have them who will. I did this with my children once each and they both learned very quickly that if they want to keep it, they have to put it away when they are done. Then the toy's reappeared. You may also want to try only letting him have two or three toys at a time instead of a whole bunch. I didn't push my kid's to accept people, they eventually grew out of the 'shyness' when it comes to people. it is to easy for child predators to play on the you have to be nice to people that we try to teach children, they don't understand the differences between good people and people who might want to hurt them. maybe just teaching him that yelling at people is wrong would be better?

Hi there, Believe it or not, you might unknowingly be encouraging his behaviour (I'm not calling you a bad parent - this happens to all of us at some point)! He could be reading your subtle body language, or you may be taking an ineffective approach to discipline (you are doing the best you know how, I know that because you're so concerned). I'm a teacher. I deal with 16 kindergarten students at a time, as well as 30 grade 7 /8 students sometimes. One thing that stands true no matter what age you're working with is that you MUST follow through if you have given your child a consequence. I.e., "If you don't put away your toys, I will give them to somebody else who appreciates them!" And then actually take them away if he doesn't do what you told him to do. Tell him he can earn them back by giving a nice greeting to the neighbours every day, etc. Something that may work with regards to putting toys away is to get an egg timer, set it to 30 seconds, and tell him that he has to beat the timer when he puts his toys away. Kids LOVE this! It's such a fun game! Music also works - put on a short song and tell him he has to put all the toys away before the song stops. He'll be looking forward to clean-up time. (^_^) As far as sharing his toys goes - you are not alone!!!! This is a battle with almost every toddler/young child! I think that you shouldn't try to worry about it so much right now. By all means, try to encourage sharing, but when he gets to kindergarten and has to learn how to interact in a group, he'll get the idea eventually. If it's really getting out of hand, take him away from the other kids and make him have a 3 minute time out. He'll get the hint when he has to stand there and watch the other kids play with the toys. Make sure that you give him one warning: "I am only going to tell you once. Share the toys, or you will have a time out!" And follow through.

Your son is trying to prove who's the boss, and at the moment he's winning! You HAVE to discipline him now before he gets too used to having all his own way. If he refuses to put his toys away put them in a bin sack and put them by the bin (you won't really be throwing them away but he will think you are)he'll soon learn to put them away then.

hey pre schoolers need a more strict disciplining.. because in thi stage they already know that they can do what they want.. they feel that they can be in charge.. but of course they are not. soooo what to do??? always tell him what is right and what is wrong... what he can do and what he cannot.. an well u have to stick to it.. like for example he will paly with tthe cd player... ifd u say no u can play with that today... then that will be a forever NO NO.. if he will be hard headed then u will have to spank him at times just to let him know that he should not play with it. hey u really have to stick with ur yes and no... and right and wrong.. because if u say no today and yes tomorrow then he will be confused ok... well i have two kids and i have been reading a lot about disciplining. well its the hardest part uknow. kids are just so cute to spank them. but they needed that sometimes.. to straighten their attitude/.. i have a niece that was treated just like how u treated ur kid... wel her mom had a big problem.. the spoiled attitued was gbrought by the kid until she was in her teeange years... uknow what happened??? the kid runaway because she wants a car... but shes just 15 yrs old! hah! i just hated that kid for doing it.. well i cant balme her.. it was her moms fault.. the bigger problem is that teenagers are more difficult to discipline compared to preschoolers.. teens cant be disciplined by spanking... they are also normally very hard headed.. so we have to start from the toodller years for the disciplining part.. hey good luck!! its all worth it... just cry ur heart out if u spank ur kid ehehe just dont make them see ur crying

hello. well, you're doing well, and its good that you have noticed that there is something wrong with your son's attitude. showing good examples to him is a nice way but probably you haven't explained to him what is good and bad and if what he did is wrong. i'm not sure since you haven't said anything about it. there are ways to fix his attitude without resulting to yelling or even physical discipline. you could may try, explaining things. your son's in an age that they want to be the one in control so maybe that's why he is acting like that. you could try bargaining, give him options or choices . say you will help him keep his things(or ask him to keep his toys) and if he doesn't he will not play with his toys (for a certain duration) you shouldn't be afraid to be a tinsy bit strict with him, just don't use a strong forceful voice as that tend to scare them.