Do you ever feel like your life is on pause?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
October 13, 2010 1:47pm CST
Today I feel like my life is on pause.. it's such a strange feeling. I know there is a lot that needs to be done... but I'm basically waiting for other things to happen before I can do any of the things I need to do.
We had a lot of plans today.. hubby was going to go to FIL's and fix some stuff and get some prices for stuff, I was going to go over and do a bit of cleaning and sorting and preparing stuff for the dumpster arriving this weekend. But first thing this morning FIL calls and says he and hubby have to drive to the Aunt's house 2 hours away to take care of FIL's car... so everything we planned to do today was put on hold.
I've also got to get to work on packing my own place.. which I have done a little bit of already.. but there's not a whole lot more I can do without knowing when FIL's place will be ready. We could still be here another month before moving, so I can't really pack anything because everything we have we'll need in that time. Basically all I can do is clean and organize and prepare.. and there's only so much of that I can do.
I know I can't do much when hubby is at work.. and I can't do much until the dumpsters come this weekend.. but we were set to get some things accomplished today, and then the Aunt changed all our plans.. so that's why I'm feeling like someone just pressed the pause button on my life today.
Have you ever felt like that? Is there something you need to get done right now but have to wait on someone or something else?
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
13 Oct 10
Yes and today too. I called my lawyer re my late husband's estate - basically getting the title in my name and there is yet another hold up. He is enjoying life on his farm and does not plan to go into town next late next week. So I called his office and his paralegal told me that he has to prepare an affidavit that the Supreme Court requires and this is the last process.
Yes, I know that I should be patient but I have waited TEN YEARS and now I am on pause again.
I am so cross about it all.
I am so cross about it all.@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
13 Oct 10
OMG! Does it normally take this long? Geez!! Is there any other lawyer in the area who can do this for you quicker.. this guy seems to not give a darn.. I wouldn't be giving him my business.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
13 Oct 10
It's complicated Kat because he was a great friend of my husband. So my husband made him the executor of his will. He told my husband that he would take care of the probate and look out for me and the children. So he has complete control over me Kat by law.I cannot even leave the Island without telling him!
He is a high profile lawyer who goes to the courts in the U.K. and in other Island to fight cases. Every here is scared of his brilliance and no lawyer would dare to take him on. Remember we are a very small country and he is well known.
Last month I told him to send me a bill for services rendered so far I was that cross. All he does is put me off with rubbish and it ends up with me in tears. But this year I do not let a week go by without by calling or writing to him. I have to have it settled before I die. If I die then the children re in a mess and my second son is not working. I need to access the farm. Right now we could be putting in 5 acres of potatoes but I do not have the cash up front and cannot borrow against the farm as it is not in my name. I even told him that if I die and it is not settled then I will do my best to come back and haunt him.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Gawd how annoying. I'd be really mad too.. doesn't sound like much of a friend. Instead of calling or writing.. I'd be sitting in his office everytime I had a chance, in his face telling him he needs to get on it now! 10 years is way too long!
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
14 Oct 10
This happens to me sometimes. When my mom shows up unexpected and tells me I have to stop whatever I am doing and go to her house...or do something for her..My brothers and sisters are the same way. To them..I am the one without the kids and I shouldn't complain when they need me to do stuff for them or stay and babysit for a few days or week..drives my husband up the wall when they do that though. And things would go much easier for me if they would just call before hand I know there is alot of payphones between there house and mine that they could use to let me know before they get here..but my mom is the worst for getting mad if I don't just drop what I am doing and follow behind like a good little lamb..lol..but it all does aggravate me alot especially if I had plans..which they feel can wait..
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
15 Oct 10
I have tried, they as you say get all offended then I don't hear from them awhile and it is considered all my fault..and I get the cold shoulder well usually till they need me again. Seems that is the only reason people come over or call..Ugh!.. I know how the MIL thing is.. my mother in law was the same..while alive she made my life hell, it was like that for me and hubby too..and it seemed nothing I did was ever good enough..
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
15 Oct 10
Have you told them at all how you feel? The in laws used to do that to us too, and it drove me crazy. MIL would come over whenever she felt like it and expect me to drop everything and entertain her.. and if I didn't she'd complain to my husband that I was "not hospitable". Then they'd constantly ask hubby to go over there and do things for them, not taking into consideration that he worked over 50 hours a week and had a wife and 5 kids he rarely ever got to spend time with. Of course they never listened when we told them how we felt.. they always took it personally and never understood our situation.
@aluz79 (1)
• United States
29 Nov 10
Yes, I feel like my life is on pause. I'm waiting to get my tdy orders and I don't know what base I'll be in or what state for that matter. I have 2 kids and I don't know where they'll stay at. I'll probably have to separate them for those few months unless I can take them with me but I won't know anything for a few more weeks. I'll probably know where I'm going 2 weeks before I get sent there. And I have to start packing. My ex and I live together right now but don't even talk and when we do it's cause he's fighting with my son and I intervene. I feel useless right now. I hate uncertainty. I just try to imagine 2 years from now and hope I'll be looking back shaking my head and smiling.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
14 Oct 10
I have been in similar situations. But I really can relate to being on "hold" right now. My life pretty much stopped when my son had his accident almost 2 years ago. I am still taking care of him and don't really feel like I can look to the future, everything is contingent upon his recovery...it's just day to day for now!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I feel like my life is this way constantly. I've been very lucky this past week in that a friend of mine has been staying with us. This, of course has put my life off kilter this week, but also because of the fact that I've had Sandra here with me, I've been able to get more things done around the house. I've never gotten as much housework done in a single week as I've been able to get done this past week and I've very thankful for that.
@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
13 Oct 10
YES. In my case, I have to wait on myself. I'm at the point in my life where everything that I said I'll do I've already done and everything that I wrote down has already happened. My boyfriend is waiting for me to go back to the US and I've been stalling and stalling because 1) my parents don't know that I'm in a relationship and 2) I sort of had a career. Now that the "career" is over, I can finally move on and be with my man. Right now though, I just have to let time pass until I get on a plane.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
13 Oct 10
So basically you're just procrastinating.. hopefully for your sake your boyfriend will continue to wait and not give up and find someone else.
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Lol, my entire life is like that all of the time. Some of it is my own doing. It makes you tired just waiting sometimes.
