Do you and your partner each have your own savings account?

@34momma (13882)
United States
October 13, 2010 2:54pm CST
I know once you're in a relationship it's important to be on the same page when it comes to money. You should have a joint checking account to take care of monthly bills and expenses. You should also have a joint savings account for any and all future purchases together. But do you have your own personal savings account? Do you put your own personal money away each month for your own peace of mind? If you do does your partner know about it or do you prefer to keep it to yourself?
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@leahleah (29)
• China
14 Oct 10
Yes I have my personal account. But I did this not for myself. I opened a seperate account because I want to save some money secretly in case we may need it in future. As my bf don't care about savings, he always spend what ever we have in hand.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
whatever your reasons are isn't as important as making sure you put money to the side for the future. now if you choice to share that money with your bf or put it away just in case things don't work out, as long as you are focused on the future!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Oct 10
34momma yes we bpth had personal chedking and savings accounts and joint checking for the household bills.that way my husband said you would be you not just my wife or robbie's mom and Lisa's mom. also we would not have to beg money from each other for personal items. we talked over the money issue and we found that I was the better one to do the bills and balance the joint account for bills.it worked really well as before he had forgot to put down withdrawls and we had several insufficient funds which is not so good. I always wrote anywithdrawls down the moment after I had made them.and I always managed to balance the check book too. He loved it that I would do that and so we were fine.we did not keep our personal accounts secret and often we lent each other money too. we were partners and mates and best friends.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
Great for you Hatley. and you are 100% right, you are not just a wife and mother! you are Hatley.. a woman who can hold down a family, home, job, and checkbook. But a woman who can take care of herself too! loving it
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Oct 10
thanks 34 momma for best response always nice to get.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
14 Oct 10
My ex-husband and I never had savings accounts, but for the most part we kept our money separate. We had a joint account that was linked to our personal checking accounts, so we could transfer money to or from our own accounts to the joint account but not access each others accounts. He wanted to do it all as a joint account, but I refused. He was just too bad with money. Each month, I told him how much to transfer for the monthly expenses and then he had to deal with his own money his own way. His idea of balancing his checkbook was checking the balance at an ATM machine. More than once, he checked the balance, saw that there was $150 "available" and withdrew $100. Not remembering that he wrote a check the day before for $75. So the check would bounce, he'd be hit with fees, and a bad check on his record. Nope, I wasn't putting my eggs in his basket. I remember once, there was some extra money I'd put into the joint account, $100 or so, then I wrote a check for some christmas presents that was around $50. He asked how much was in the account, because we were going on a road trip, I told him about $50. He went to get cash out, came back with $80. He said "well I checked the balance and it said we have $100." Then I reminded him of the checks I'd written that day (which he was present for). He was like that all the time when it came to money. So I think that sometimes it's a good idea to keep your finances separate.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
oh you are right. one person should be in charge of the bill paying and the joint account. just so things like what your husband was doing would not happen. some people have no respect for money. and it's those people who just don't ever have any.
@nyumix (1658)
• Belgium
14 Oct 10
We can say like that. We have our own account for some reasons. Before we married, we already have those accounts. SO we continue to use those accounts until now. We don't think that we need to close one of account.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
my personal savings and checking are accounts i had before my hubby. I would not close them now that we are together.
@nova1945 (1612)
• United States
14 Oct 10
I learned (the hard way) not to have a joint account. My first husband used to find the spare checks and write a few for car parts, etc. without telling me. So when they came through the bank often the ones we used for bills would bounce. So this time around we maintain separate accounts. My current husband does not know how to write checks or balance accounts so he just hands me the money and has me do it all. He deals only in cash. He also does not understand the concept of a budget. He wants to get things on credit because the payment is "only $20 or $50 a month." He just doesn't grasp that that means those monthly payments add up and can cause a real strain on an already overextended budget. So it just works better for him if I take care of every financial obligation. We have separate savings accounts but I use most all of mine to pick up any slack if we need it to pay bills. I used to be able to put aside enough to take a vacation every year, but have not been able to put anything aside this year. Maybe things will get better next year.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
I have not been on a vacation girl since 03!!! put i do try and put some money to the side everytime i get paid. once in a blue moon i need to tap into it for one reason or another. but i always try to either put it all back or at least half if it back. this way i don't always feel like i am playing catch up. I like being the one in control of the bill paying. my hubby is good with money but not good with paying things on time. so he puts his part of the bill money in the account and i set it up to have the money come out each month for the bills. it's just a monthly bill pay account. not to be used for any personal stuff.
• India
14 Oct 10
Yes we have. Apart from separate accounts, we have joint accounts also.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
that's great kendrathil!
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
13 Oct 10
sort of. i have an account that i get government money in (such as child tax benefits each month) but it usually is never over $300. but we have a joint account for the main amount of money.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
13 Oct 10
but is thats money you get, do you put that away for a raining day for you or for the family?
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
13 Oct 10
Well, we actually each have our own accounts, which we use for paying bills, receiving paychecks, and such. But we also have a joint savings account, which we both have access to. This joint savings is just for that. It's just for savings. So, we do and don't, if this makes sense.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
i think a joint savings account is so important. it allows you both to have a common bond when it comes to putting money away for the future! i love it
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
13 Oct 10
When I was married, I had it joint but if i ever get in another relationship again, I am going to keep it separated while making a specific account for expenses that we will use together.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
good for you Lore2009. you should always always have your own money. you should have your own personal checking and savings. then you have a joint one. and if you are not married should have a contract that you each get to spilt 50/50 what's in that account if the relationship should end. so there is no fighting. figure out the monthly bills, and each of you put in half every month. that's what works in my home!
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 10
Hi, I prefer to have my own personal saving account and I encourage my husband to have its own too. I don't like to have joint account. Although we are husband and wife,but it is more convenience to have our own personal account and when we need to do any banking transaction, we can just do it ourselves,without both parties has to go to the bank together.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
i try to have all of my monthly bills come right out of our joint account. it just makes it easier and the bills are alway paid on time!
@saliyzhu (64)
• China
14 Oct 10
Yes, of course. We have our separate saving accounts. And he doesn't access to my account. I can't access to his account. He pays for our daily expenses, such as house rent, water, gas , electricity. I buy our food, my clothes, and my cosmetic. But he knows how much money i have. I don't know his amount.
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
13 Oct 10
We actually have both separate savings accounts and regular checking accounts. We are used to having it that way, so it works for us. I would never keep something like that a secret, my fiancee can check my account whenever he wants if he is interested to, he just can't access it...
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
i think it's to important not to keep secrets from each other. but i also think it's just as important to have your own money as well. and yeah why not let them see it, but no no touching it! LOL
@elims15 (69)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
it is important for me to know my partner's saving account because it is the way to help each others moneys problem, We have to organize our incomes and expenses to maintain our money stable..
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
15 Oct 10
that is why you need to have a shared checking and savings account. this way you are both focused on household expenses together. what works for us is we add up our monthly bills, divide that by two, and we both put in that amount in our account each month. we also add what goes in our savings as apart of our monthly bills. any money we have left over is ours to do what we want. I of course take some of that money and put it into my personal savings account.
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
Hi there momma. I myself has a savings account and of course my husband knew about it. I'm a bit prudent when it comes to money. For emergency purposes I do save money.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
17 Jan 11
In fact,my partner and I do not have a joint savings account (or a joint anything for that matter). We had made a joint account soon after we were married. But within 3 months, we had to set up our own home and didn't have the money...so we broke the FD. Since then, we haven't had a joint account and once I started working again, I opened a personal savings account of my own. He already had his. As for the household expenses, he brings cash that he keeps at home...sometimes it's a big amount at a time and sometimes a few hundreds at a time. I maintain a record of how much I spend on the home. The first savings account I started, I didn't tell my partner for a year. I would put in the money I saved after spending on household expenses. But I had to tell him at a point and then I have no idea how the money got used up. The second account was a salary account and he obviously knew about it right from the start.
• United States
15 Oct 10
I never had my own bank account and when I got married, my husband was in need of changing banks anyway, so he just attached me to his account. I don't have my own income so it's not really that big of a deal.
• United States
14 Oct 10
yes we have separate. we do share one though. side money is ours. but money that goes towards us goes n the account we share
• United States
14 Oct 10
When it comes to having savings accounts, I am the only one with a savings account. Reason being, is that he is not very good at saving money, while I am. We are planning on buying a house next year, so it is up to me to save money. We do have a joint checking account though.
@pausaa (3)
• Bulgaria
14 Oct 10
Our account is a common