my bf scared me so much and was all a stupid lie T_T

Hi dear, How many times I have told that man are man. They have their own way of doing. You may be knowing him since last 1 year and before? Do you think one year is good enough to understand a person? No. Even I don't know the age of the guy. Never seen never talked, in short, I cannot make a guess about him. I think I have to told earlier also that live like a 50:50 ratio in life with all aspects in our life. May be it is love or any think in our life. Please think that nothing belong to ours and you should learn a lot of things from the nature. Relax and I always prefer to tell you that too much expectations would make us more respire in life. Whatever I tell you here now and earlier are my own life experience and my own thoughts only. First of all, you already adopted a highly risky challenge in your life. This is the modern world and things are getting changed on a daily basis. I am commenting all things in a very conservative manner here because, people are highly civilized but they act so barbaric in real life. I think since 2 or more months we are regular in touch and I know how deep you love your b/f. But it is from your side. The whole life is totally dedicated for him and the whole mind and life is fully cherished for him already. He is far away from you and you need to listen, what he is telling. I think it is too early to predict anything about him from such comments. Also, I think he is still serious and matured enough to ‘handle you with care and love. Just wait and you need to wait now and this is not a time to judge the things. If he is joking, it is good and if not, you should be observant and take things into seriously. But do you think he understand all your feelings. From every discussion topic, I could have read your mind, and if I take all these questions in a chain, I know what you are and how you made up your mind for him. If the other person is not realizing and he take it as simple and consider all just for a time pass, what about your dreams? I am telling you until you really get into a married life, please keep the relation with a 50:50 ratio to save your life and maintain your peace of mind. We both have a major geographical difference and the culture among us also is different. The thinking is from my point of you and based on my culture and civilization only. I think you all are more advanced and open in many cases. But come to life and feelings, all are same and the concept is SAME for all of us. If the figure got cut, the pain for you and me are the same. Likewise, I can really understand your mental condition and even though of you that why I didn't get new post from you, and what happened all of a sudden to you. If I keep such a relation, I can read you and as I thought, you come with the new issue, which I felt sorry of it. But, only one thing I tell you that relax and take everything so cool and I will comment you more on the coming discussion. Be bold and go ahead and keep in mind about the 50:50 ratio in life, which make your life more meaningful. Regards, Thank-s

sweet maybe he wanted you to feel sorry for him or he didn't have the courage to tell you that he would like to break up with you :). I think you should move on. he doesn't deserve you, and it's simply a waste of time. think about the fact that he might actually have another relationship there. it's not a nice thing that he lied to you, knowing how much you care for him :). and the fact that he did it says many things about how much he really cares for you. so leave him and find somebody else posibly there, in portugal

So I guess he really did think that he was going to be in jail for along time and that is why he said that? So then it really wasent a lie if he believed that was going to happen. I dont know I still think he is just playing you and thats sad since you are so in love with him.

I would suggest just asking him straight up what he was trying to do. Communication is important in a relationship :O

A man likes playing jokes with his wife or his girlfriend. But this sort of a joke, I dont know what to say. Sound very different. Dont jump into hasty conclusions. If this is the first time he is folling you around , then you can tell him that you are not ok with these sort of things. Tell him seriously. He will defnitely understand if he is really means he loves you. But if keeps happening again and again I think you should rethink. Just my two cents

Well I think it would be better if you asked about whats going on to your bf.Was he serious in his actions.Don't take decision in an hasty way unless he deserves it. Have a nice day and hope everything goes well for you!! :)

Hello Sweet, We have had a long talked about this last night, but the reason why it took so damn long is that i don't wanna end up DICTATING you about what should be done and what you feel. i do understand when a person is truly in love (Love is Blind,btw). It's not just easy to convince to let go of there guy, who hasn't really been keeping up his promises and keeps screwing it. Even though he has you as supposedly an inspiration for him to change, he still DIDn't. I think for some reason he freaked out from his own promises. not to mention when he find out you were messaging you're ex, he took it badly, which is uh...not supposed to. if he's that kind of guy who get's irritated and angry all the time, what more if you two are together? like what i have said before, he's not mature. unless he talks to you through FB any time today, he would only good with words and charms at his singing... so, he got jailed for not wearing helmet for one night! so the other night/day, he should have had time to send you messages or chat with you through FB in the internet SHOP and not spend the night with Friends drinking(tagay), even if it's his friends money.

Sweet, I hate to tell you but this guy is messing with your head. Love should be tender, sweet, compassionate, peaceful and gentle. From what I have read and the little I know about you from some of your other posts, you are a gentle soul. If you choose to continue on with this fellow, I think you experience more of this same mind games and senselessness and He will bring more turmoil to your life. You are a beautiful woman. I am certain you could have your pick of whatever guy you choose. Sometimes love has to be tough, and painful to know and learn what true love is when we find it.

Hi Sweet, If your boyfriend really loves you that much then he should not do such things to you. Doing careless jokes which end up you crying is careless and stupid on his part. It just shows how irresponsible and immature he is. He does not deserve your love at all. I think it's better to leave him and see how he reacts to it. If he really loves you then he would do anything to change for you.

I believe that you have still love for him and he also has love for you. I think i is only a mater of time that you both become one.

The guy really don't care of what you feel. He's making a big and non-sense joke. Didn't he know how worried you were yesterday? Dump the guy sweetie,it's the best thing you can do to save yourself. Absolutely,you can have someone better than him,someone that you truly deserve. You are a woman with a good heart,that's I know a man won't find it hard to love you. You have better things to do with your life. Focus on your work instead of letting an inconsiderate and selfish guy occupy your thoughts.

their is some prob between both of u