Can you love someone you hate or hate someone you love?
By foofermen
@foofermen (500)
October 13, 2010 5:09pm CST
I mean you personally. Is there any one who can't love someone they hatre or hate someone they love?
For example:
I hate my father to the very core of me but after 6 years of not talking to each other, I think my heart is thawing ever so slightly. I am beginning to develop the old basic father/ son love that is always supposed to be there no matter how angry you make each other. I still don't want to see him or talk to him and I still hate his guts but he IS my father.
Another example:
I hate the mother of my kids for habitually putting her children's future at risk but I still love her for the person she is aside from that flaw. She loves her children very much but is very shortsighted and inconsiderate. I call it "teddy bear syndrome" she loves to hold and love her adorable little teddy bear until it pees in it's bed or starts throwing a tantrum in the middle of the store.
These are the only two cases I have in which I can use both the words LOVE and HATE and not "a basic caring for" or "somewhat irritated by"
and yourself?
3 responses
@syekimubin (64)
• India
15 Oct 10
hi foofermen
yes it is possible to hate a person whom we love and love a person whom we hate like what i do i love a girl since from three year without seeing her and at the same time i hate her because she haven't responded to me when i required her.
bye have a nice day
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
21 Oct 10
Hi syekimubin, hate is different and angry is different. I think you have angry on her which you are thinking hate. If you really love a person then you never hate. If you hate to whom you love then that is not love at all. But you said you are loving her without seeing her means there is something great about you.
Have a wonderful weekend. 
@dwin26 (32)
• Saudi Arabia
14 Oct 10
Hi, do you believe in the saying "do to others what you would have them do to you". Let me give you a true story, i dont know if you heard this already. There was a father with one son, one day, the son saw his father treated his grand father this way, the grandfather was very old and everytime he eats is always a mess so what the father did, he prepared a cocunut husk to be used by his old father when eating and the son saw this given to his grand father. One day, the father saw his son preparing also a coconut husk and he asked his son to whom he will give that and the son replied, when you grow old, i will use this for you. Likewise, what you feel toward others may somewhat be the feeling of others towards you, therefore, it would be better to do to others what you would have them do to you..Hope we both learn something from this passage..Would you agree to this saying?
@foofermen (500)
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14 Oct 10
I do agree to this statement. Can what people do to you cause you to hate them? Is there anyone you feel it is okay to hate? What about murderous horrible people or people that hurt children? Like most sayings like that, there are many exceptions. It is more of a guideline than a rule.
I am naturally a very forgiving person but I can hold a grudge for quite some time. What I mean is, I have a threshold for my patience and once a person crosses that threshold, they can expect an emotional response. I forgave my father and mother of my children for literally hundreds of times for many horrible things. Eventually that wears a person down. Eventually you have to ask yourself if the relationship is worth the pain.
My father has figuratively and literally ripped our family apart. I hate my ex but I will always protect her because she is the mother of my children. I do not fight or try to hurt her, or my dad for that matter. My feelings towards my EX and father are private to me and telling them how much they have hurt me and their family will do no good.
If these people want to treat me the way I treat them, that would actually be perfect but they will never have my respect and I want as little to do with them as possible.
Thank you for your input =)
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I don't think I can do it at the same time, but I do hate someone now who I thought I loved before. He is my ex and I am surprised that I can say I hate him. I can say that I thought I loved my parents when I was younger but now I don't really like them, but i can still tolerate them. But I cannot tolerate my ex and some other friends who have betrayed me.
