Married, yet living with parents.

Some do it because of financial reasons although he might make enough maybe he is saving up for something. There is also maybe they are helping her parents financially. They also might find it easier if they lived there so his wife can help care for her parents or maybe the parents watch over the kids while they work? They could be saving up a down payment on a new home for themselves which now days can be well into the hundreds of thousands of dollars. Or even paying off debt, could make it where they would have to maybe move in to get it paid down. I have known others to do that as well. I pretty much doubt your brother loves living with his in-laws.(who would?) The worst is having to go by their rules, and that isn't always easy. My brother lived with my parents with his kids for several months to save up money to make a down payment. So maybe this situation isn't something that will be a forever thing..

Well it think it's depend on the people, there is also some condition that married couple still live with their parents, for example if the parents is already old, or leave alone in the house, a children must love their parents, usually they prefer to live in the same house, so it doesn't matter, don't judge too quick if there's nothing but they still want to live at the same house, i think they aren't independent yet

I think those couples who are still staying with their parents probably have a financial problem so they can't move to their own home, or maybe they are just comfortable being that way. As for me and my partner, since we were only a bf and gf, we already started paying for our own flat, so that's obvious that we want to live on our own Maybe some people think it's better to live on their own, also some people also don't mind living with their parents.

I think any married couple wishes for a sense of indepence because they're starting/ building a new life together. But sometimes, circumstances, espcially those that are financial in nature, leaves them with no other choice at the moment but to live with their parents. A lot of married couples go through this as a temporary, transitional set-up. Couples try to get their ground first by counting on the support of their parents, then eventually they move on. I think this is just a temporary thing for most couples; they should work and prepare themselves not only financially but emotionally, to stand on their own in the future.

Marriage is suppose to be a life living outside the dependence on one's own parents. Parents can't help but to meddle on their child's affair when the said child is married and living with them as per personnal experience. If it can be helped living on your own gives you the dependence to explore married life through the fullest through it's ups and downs.

Well, I my own situation I think I will live on my own because it feels so good that your not depending on you parents anymore. Specially when you have your own kids. Honestly, my parents need someone to take care of them selves because they are now in 63 and 71. But my brother is there to watch them and I know he will take care of them. So every now and then I only give financial support to my parents for them to buy their own neccesities. As of now I am living alone in my boarding house. Preparing for my future.

So does this mean he is your wife's brother? Maybe they want to keep their daughter close at hand. If everyone is happy, then I see no problem with it. My son has reached a bad spot in his life, and he has moved back in with me. I do expect him to pay me rent, but it still makes his living expenses much less. He can also help us with some hard things around here.

I don't see anything wrong with generations living together as long as all of them enjoy it. It's great for the kids and used to be a way of life--still is, in many parts of the world. This bit about moving away from family clear across the country doesn't do anybody much good, as I can personally assure you. As long as your brother and his wife have the privacy they need to keep their marriage strong, I'd say they probably have a good arrangement that is nurturing and healthy for everyone, emotionally and financially.

I know a lot of young couples are doing this in the uS because of the horrid economy and also because a lot still are of work. I think that once young families have better income coming in they will move into an apartment of their own. Living with parents or outlaws, loh I meant inlaws can be full of tension and drama.I would not have wanted to live either my parents or my husband's parentss. too much 'angst and back biting.But I did meet my inlaws in Washington State and they were really so sweet but did not even have room hardly for themselves let alone a new family.

Hi, Giving me an option, I will choose to stay on my own after married. CUrrently I am staying with my in-law and we are getting our own house and most probably next year we are moving to our new house. I do see some people after married and have few kids,but still stay with their parents ans they like squeeze into one house,so packed. For me, I love more big space and that is why my husband intend to get our own house as our son is growing up fast and our things are getting more and more and we need space to store all those things. Some men has no choice,have to stay with their parents,as they are the only son in their family, that one I can agree because they have responsibility to takecare of their parents, even after they got married, they still prefer to stay with their parents,but that was provided their wife can tag well with their parents(in-laws),or else it will be a disaster to stay under one roof but not able to communicate well.

Torchablazed Sometimes people still live with their parents to save money I lived with my sister for 2 years with my husband and children before we saved up enough money to move out With the economy the way it is I can understand why a lot of people can't afford to move out some people even have to move back in with their parents ,but since you said your brother in law has the means to support his kids maybe he's just trying to save money by living with is in laws which isn't really fair

For me live by own because I have the wore conversation now with my in law so bad.

Well, to agree or disagree with your brother in law I would need to know a little more about his reasons to still live with his parents when he has a family and can support it financially. Some people feel too attached to their parents, and don't want to leave them by themselves, as they might be sad in the end. If that's the case, I think that it's a lovely thing, but in the end everyone has to walk their own paths

It depends. If I were the only child of my parents, I will live together with them if they wish. Since most the old will feel lonely once they are retired, they hope the kids can live together with them. But I have a brother, my parents will live together with them in futhre.

I feel its a very good idea and Id love to have my children with me in my old age. It works both ways. Financially there is help, as the kids dont need a baby sitter. Grandparents are only too happy to oblige, and who better to care for them then your own family. The other thing is when expenses are shared, it becomes easier on both the families. Thirdly, the daughter can take care of her old parents by living with them. I think its a wonderful way to give and take. In India, here the bond between children and parents is quite strong, so the boy brings his bride home to live with his family, or in rare cases, if the boy stays with the girls parents if the house is large and they are all alone. I'll again re-iterate, Id love to have my son and his bride and kids with me when I grow old.

It may be a financial choice. It may be that his wife's parents need someone around to help them out with stuff. It may be that they don't subscribe to the idea of the isolated nuclear family and, so, wish to raise their children within an extended family. Or it may be a combination of those and/or other factors. There's nothing wrong with living within an extended family setting, provided that it isn't a scene for frequent arguments and such.

I don't like this idea at all! I am 20 years old, no boyfriend, no kids, and living with my dad still seems horrible about it. I mean, all of our situations are different - but I think that everyone needs to grow up and get a place of their own eventually. It's very unfair to the grandparents, in my opinion. However, my idea of myself with kids and married is an idealistic thing - I want to be financially secure before I marry OR have kids (I have no room for 'accidents' in my life, but don't worry, I'm 99.99% prepared), and that would entail having my own place. But that's just my own idea of what's 'successful' and what i plan to do one day, and my idea of the idealistic life is much different (i'm assuming) than everyone else's).

In present I am not a married guy. And I am living with my parents. And also I will live with my parents after my marriage. Because I think my parents are everything for me. And I am wanted to give them all happiness of worlds.

Married couple who chose to live with their parents must have their reasons. In the case of your brother-in-law who is able to provide all his family's needs without depending on his wife's parents, his wife's choice must be the reason, maybe your brother-in-law's wife feel that as a daughter, she also has to take care of her parents esp if she is an only child or the youngest of the family. I don't see anything wrong if a couple decided to live with their parents as long as it is a common decision between them. As long as they won't be dependent on their parents anymore and will share the expenses at home, it is okay in my own view. However, if my parents or parents of my spouse don't need us to live with them, I prefer to start our family on our own home and just visit them often.

Hi, It is a common practice for Filipinos to live under the same house even after marriage.It depends if the house is quit big to shelter another family or if they insist to live with them so they can watch over their grandchildren or if you are still starting or saving for your own house.But if you say living with them with 2 or more children for many years is another story,maybe they have their own reasons.But it is still best to have your own house.You can look for a house nearer from your parents or you can visit them from time to time.