Women should be at home for housework after getting married

Vietnam
October 14, 2010 8:41am CST
There are many people say that women should be at home for housework after getting married in order that she can care family better and her husband can feel secure to focus on professional. How do you think about this?
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@oldchem1 (8132)
14 Oct 10
I don't really think that if I actually wrote what I thought about the sentence Women should be at home for housework after getting marriedI don't think that myLot would print it Why on earth should a woman give up her job and career just because she get's married - that is something that happened here in the UK 60+ years ago! I certainly agree that when a woman has children and if she wants and can afford to stay at home then that is different, but a woman's career is just as important as a man's and why should she give it up just because she is married. A married couple who both work should share the work in the house and it should not be all down to the woman.
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@nscanada (180)
• Canada
14 Oct 10
I would respond but I have to go sort laundry now. Stay-at-home Dad.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
i do agree with oldchem! A married couple who both work should share the work in the house and it should not be all down to the woman. it is not right for women to do all the housework stuffs.cause i believe that when you get married,both of you have same responsibilities with house and taking care of your child as well.it is not right to give all the work with women.
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15 Oct 10
I do agree with you. I think all the housework married couple can do together!
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
14 Oct 10
Not reasonable. At the moment, it's always better if both the husband and wife works. Recession pops out everywhere, unemployment arises, and bills as well as necessities begin to rise in terms of prices. Things are not as attainable as it is before, and if one only works and the job isn't even that one who has a very good pay, then the wife may also need to work.
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@doormouse (4599)
14 Oct 10
whoever thinks this needs to go jump,this is 2010 not the 1950's,they need to live in the real world and except that women are just as capable at doing things as men are,i can probably do more than most men,i can cook,clean,lay carpets,tile,wallpaper and do DIY
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@jellatin (22)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
For me, women should follow what she really wants... if she wants to be a fully housewife then let her fulfill her dreams but if she wants to help her husband to work for their family let her be because not all housewived find their fulfillment only inside their houses...As a matter of fact, now a days women are very much competitive with men... sometimes they do jobs better than men...in the end we should respect what will make her happy as long as she will not forget to be a good mother to her children as well as to be most wonderful wife to her husband...
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
women in the new millenium are not just to be left at home and be a housewife after getting married. There would be some cultures that strictly carry this tradition but not every one. Women at present times also work for their family and helps their husband bring food to the table. There would be certain times that women would be kept at home especially when they just gave birth and the baby needs to be taken cared of. in modern times, women are treated equally with men.
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Should is a strong term to use. It is just like saying that a person is obliged to do such. From my point of view, people who say that women SHOULD be at home for housework after getting married is a sexist. Women and men are now found to be equals in almost everything. Men work, women could do that too. Besides, the world is becoming more and more difficult. Sometimes, a working partner just wouldn't suffice.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
It's compulsory for women stay at home when get married. Because as of this days men and women have equal responsibilities...This is depending on the agreement that you made with your husband or wife. If the husband, want his wife stay at home. Well, he must be right. But the husband,should consider things about his wife if the wife agree into it... Because most women as of this days are professionals and need to used what they learn from the university or school...
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
15 Oct 10
It is not written in stone that women should be the ones at home to do the houseork. Men can handle this as well. Often women are expected to run the household. This isn't always the way it should be. There should be equal opportunity for both men and women to be doing the housework in the home.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
15 Oct 10
I think that is a very old fashioned idea that shouldn't remain nowadays in this world of active working women. Taking care of the household is something that should be shared by the couple, as both are equal. If a woman or a man decides to stay at home, it's their choice and should be respected for both sexes too. I state that too as men who dedice do turn into "house-husbands" are usually looked down, and I don't understand why.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Well that's the way of the old school, and is still the best way. I believe that the mother should be there, hands-on, during the early growing up years of the child. However, some has to work to make ends meet. Not all women got lucky to get married to a rich guy. I just hope that if she has to, the child will be left to someone who has genuine concern for the child.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
maybe that is possible back to the time when women have not yet broken into the corporate world and into fields where only men had reign before. today however, being married does not mean that a woman should turn her back on her career and focus on her family. she can do both as it is, given proper time management.
• United States
15 Oct 10
The family isn't just the mother's responsibility. While their responsibilities are not the same, the husband's focus on work does not depend on the wife's ability to handle everything at home. Although this is not a general statement but I do acknowledge that there are families with one parent earning enough for the entire household. This still doesn't mean that the husband has an excuse to not care about the kids' needs. I believe that parenting is teamwork. The mother can feed and nurture while the father can provide and show his children their potential. I just don't think that it's fair that the mother stays home and is limited to housework just as the father is limited to working to earn for the family.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Yes i agree on this matter only if your husband is very rich that he can provide all the things the family needs.Then the wife's role will be just taking care of the family and family life as well as social life but for those who are not born rich and just ordinary people who works everyday just to have descent living and can provide the family needs on my part as a wife?I will do my best to help my husband to find work or to put up a small business so i can still help him for our family needs and finances.
• China
15 Oct 10
I don't think that women should be at home for housework after getting married.It's not because that the housework is too heavy,but women should live their own life,they should communicate with others like man,they must have a job to feed theyself.If not,there may be something wrong.They stay home whole day,become more and more unsociable,then,you will find it's terrible.
@Luchie50 (51)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Hello mylotters, its good to be here to response this topic . this topic calls to my attention because this was happened to me before . When I graduated from elementary education my father did'nt allow me to continue to high school for his reason that its useless to take a degree since I just stay home when I get married because based on tradition that the wife is the one responsible for the caring of children while the husband works to feed his family. I contradicted the wrong idea of my father, so when I get married, my husband supported me to finish my studies and took a degree and now both of us are working. I dont see any problem with my family becuase I was able to take care of my 3 kids in a right way till they got finished and graduated and thank god they're all professionals and have their own family.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 10
Hi, This kind of habit still going on till now, but from my point of view, in this modern world,most women are going out to work to earn money instead of staying at home takecare their children and do housework. Of course, some women still prefer to be at home do housework and taking care their own children provided their husbands are able to support the families. For me, If I have a better option, I will go out to work rather than being a full time housewife. too bad, I have to opt for second option ,to be a fulltime housewife for this time being as my son is still young and he need me to be at his side. Nobody can help me to takecare of him and I feel uneasy to leave him a childcare centre. But I do tell myself that once my son has grown up and he is big enough to be independent, I want to go out and look for job too.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
I beg to disagree on this. A woman should not be at home for housework. She should also work and have her own money. It is important for the woman to work also, so that there will be no regrets if the husband loses his job or if the husband leaves them for other woman etc.. or the guy wont have any reason to mistreat the woman in the future. Some men say nasty stuff if the woman does not have any work and if they are just depending solely from the husband. If the woman have work, the guy wont have any reason to tell the woman things since they both work.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
15 Oct 10
No, I don't agree on that. Whoever has got the means to support the family, should be allowed to work. Times are different now and women need not necessarily be the home maker now. There are more and more examples of house husband now and it proves that both men and women are equal now. Women are are better in multi tasking than men, so I don't see any reasons why women can't be out working and yet take great care of the family.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Partly yes because women are the ones to take care of the children and the house. Partly no because women are human beings too, they also studied hard to accomplish some career and have decent jobs also. We cannot really tell what is the most rightful thing to do because we have a lot of responsibilities. I think that couples should work hand in hand to inorder that they became good parents to their children,
• Thailand
15 Oct 10
It used to be that a girl would grow up and was primarily taught to care for a house, love her husband and raise children. women are quite content to live this kind of life. Nowadays women are becoming more and more the colleagues of the rivals of men on equal terms in all walks of life. They are discontent to always stay in the home. They want to be equal to men in most things. It is my opinion that the changes which are being made concerning women' role in society are necessary and good. So with this discussion, I think that men and women should be treated equally. However women must not forget their responsibilities to their children and families.