Be Yourself

being yourself is must for a person at least for some time daily in our life. we must try to understand what we really are, and what are our goals and capabilities. everybody is different even the identical twins are different and so don't hesitate because of your differences but exploit them and make this journey of life much useful.

If you do something, you got to ask yourself one simple question. Can I look myself at myself in the mirror and look myself in the eye? There are a lot of times where we feel pressures, even pressures that we do not realize, to be something that we are not. It is just a product of society and what people deem to be acceptable throughout all time. In the end, you've got to be true with what you are in life. Other people, really in the end, are they the one's living your life? Are they the one's in your shoes, walking through your day? Their opinions should be important granted, but in the same time, you are the final person. You need to justify what you do to yourself and really get through life. In the end, that's being yourself.

There is a hidden trap within the statement to be yourself. This trap is that sometimes being yourself is an excuse that cuts you off from growth. Instead of taking responsibility for who you are and striving to evolve that, you can avoid doing the work by saying that those aspects are just part of the real you. Anything that cuts you off from experiencing a greater quality of life is bad advice, no matter how popular it is. There are many experiences I wouldn’t have tried if I had stuck to the idea that I had to remain true to myself. As a shy and quiet child, speaking my mind would have definitely been something outside my boundaries. Today, I love delivering stories and ideas here on mylot. If I had stuck to the mantra of ‘be yourself’ I probably would have excused myself out of a wonderful experience. Although some of you may think that this is a misinterpretation of the original intention of the advice, it is an effect nonetheless. I have seen many people use the excuse that they needed to be themselves to avoid taking up many opportunities in their life. People who missed out on relationships, activities and experiences simply because doing so wasn’t ‘being themselves’. The other aspect of this problem is that sometimes it is necessary to ‘fake it’ outside your comfort zone in order to transfer those traits to the ‘real you’. So even if you are normally very quiet and boring, you might have to start going to events and become enthusiastic and spontaneous so you can internalize those characteristics. In this case ‘being yourself’ is limiting you. The final problem I have with the advice to be yourself is simply that it assumes that ‘yourself’ doesn’t need any improvement. I haven’t met or heard of a single person on earth devoid of the need to improve. It is this need for growth that gives life meaning and I think it is ridiculous to assume that the answer to fix all flaws is simply to ‘be yourself’. There is no artificial barrier separating your good from your bad traits, they are part of the whole. Similarly, there is no separation between the real you and all other behaviors. When you act like a jerk consistently, you are a jerk. Although it isn’t good to give yourself a label like that, you need to own those behaviors instead of just dismissing them. Instead of the advice, ‘be yourself’ I think the proper saying should be, ‘be your best self.’ This is really what most people intend when they say this saying. This means be yourself, but without all that lying, sarcasm, shyness, negativity or other traits people don’t want to ascribe to the ‘real you’. Your personality needs to evolve as you do. Don’t limit yourself by defining a set of characteristics that are the ‘real you’. Every personality characteristic of myself that I wanted to shift I have, so I believe strongly that you have a lot more control over your personality than you think you do. If there are aspects of your personality that are limiting the quality of your life, change them.