How to deal with your 4yr old daughter if there is a new baby in the house?

thats normal for the kids to become jealous to the younger ones.. all you need are good explanations for the older. and sooner or later she will realize the situation and will accept and love her younger sister..

My daughter was less than two months short of being four years old when her brother was born. One of the main things that we did with her to make sure that she was not jealous of Paul is that I tried to give her little tasks that she was able to do little tasks to help me out. In addition to that, I also joined a playgroup shortly after Paul was born so that I would have the opportunity to interact with other children so as to not feel left out.

it is unavoidable. it would do good to make the love felt. words will be futile at times. when my second child came, my daughter was 2 1/2 yrs old. i saw that she was very jealous and she was exactly trying very hard for the attention. there were times the baby will burst crying and i will find out that there were bite marks on his arms or belly. it was the daughter.

I have found that if you involve them with taking care of the child, the jealousy tends to go away on it's own. most kids that age don't understand how much time and energy is needed for a newborn. If she is right there with you, she will be able to see for herself, that it's not just you showing favortism. Also, explain to her that when she was that young, you had to give her the same amount of attention, that you are showing to the new baby.

That jealousy feeling is normal, but should not be taken for granted. Being the only baby before makes her feel that way. But as you talk to her and explain her that she is still your first baby and you will always love her forever, she will feel less jealous. Make her feel important by letting her take part in caring for the baby. maybe you can let her stay with the baby and talk with her? Just let her feel that there is no competition for attention.you can tell her that being an big sister is a great thing. Kids love the feeling of being important, so you can tell her that she will be like a fairy God mother that will protect her sister. Something like that...

Hello.maybe you will take her to live some time with the big family,after getting the experience of happiness with other family members.maybe she will love the atmosphere.and know how to help and protect the cute baby with the same blood.

Get her a baby of her own to take care of during the times when you are tending to the baby...that worked wonders with my oldest both when his sister was born (he was 18mths old) and again when their brother was born (he was 6 and my daughter was 4 AND their brother was special needs when he finally got home)....ALSO make sure (as I'm sure its been mentioned) to spend quality one on one time with your daughter..AND for things that she can help with when it comes to tending to the little one LET HER HELP...whether its helping bottle feed or bathe or change diapers etc...let her help out..

I think this is a common issue when there's a young child and a new baby in the house. We will be having that sort of problem soon with my nephew since my sister-in-law will be giving birth this December. I am still single, without a child, but I have seen how it must feel like to have a new baby in the house and that you're the one who used to be the center of attention. I saw that with my young brother when our little brother was born. He was a bit fazed because most of the attention was now directed to the newborn. I think what parents or people around must do is to give him/her some type of responsibility for the baby so that he/she will feel that he/she is part of the baby's growth. This responsibility would give him/her the attention he/she needs and could no longer feel threatened by the presence of the baby. One particular 'responsibility' would be to make sure that the baby will have good sleep by tasking him/her to make sure the environment is silent and that everyone would be extra careful to wake the baby up. My brother was given that responsibility and when he did perform well, my parents would praise him for his job well done. My little brother grew up loved by my younger brother as well. Though there will be times when they do the tantrums and stuff, but I guess that's natural.

Having special time for just her can help. Say someone watches your newborn and you and your oldest go to the park or out for an ice cream. Same with one on one time with daddy. It won't get any easier as they get older. I know my Middle was ok w/ my Youngest being a baby but once he became mobile and playing with her things ect the rivalry began with those two.

Exactly what happened to my first grand daughter, while her baby brother was still at his mom's womb, she was so excited and happy but when the baby came out and we're of course giving extra attention to him, she would say better for the baby to go back to her mom's womb. We explain to her, that we both love her and the baby but if she don't like him will have her adopted to her cousin who's so fond of him. From that time on she don't get jealous anymore. Now that they are already playmates, we see to it that they are both being attended, when we buy toys and other stuff for the baby we do the same with her. When we play with the baby, we play together with her. When we praise the baby, we do praise her as well. Now the relationship is fine.

HI, It does happen to most kids when a new baby is born and they feel being out from attention from their parents. Have a good chat with your daughter that she is always in your heart and you will always there for her. Buy her some education toy as a reward being a good girl at home and teach her to share toys with her younger sister and let her join you in takingcare of your new born baby. You can teach her simply thing like change diaper or help you up to take some baby stuffs while you are bathing your baby or changing diaper. Once a week, have a short walk with your daughter and spent at least one hour with her at home everyday.

For me just simple said to her that he must be responsible because and when you buy for thing's for your kid then buy also for her and if the child not have the attitude of jealous then it is not hard to tell in her.

I have the same experience...have you tried to involve her in babysitting her sister? A simple task, like ask her to bring you her sister's towel or baby oil. Try asking for her help, she would change into a good little girl...

I think it would be proper if you include the 4 year old girl with what you are doing with the baby.Show her how you do the babies milk, let her shake the bottle. That way, she feels included and not felt left out.

She needs to have special "big girl" time alone with both you and her dad. Sometimes you take the baby, and her dad does things with her that "the baby is not allowed to do" because the baby is too little, and sometimes dad takes the baby so you can. This reinforces the message that she is still special to you and that her needs do not take second place to the baby's. Also, instead of always focussing on the new baby's milestones, let your daughter feel superior occasionally (not all the time, obviously) by telling her things like "what a good jumper you are! (baby) can see you jump and wishes he/she could jump like that!"