My life has a blueprint

You need to start saying no with a reason to you parents, or differ their assumption in a logical way. That way you show them that you are able. When you only follow what they told you, they would not know that you are mature now.

It's quite nice to live under the command of parents, yes, they know what do we want . They are pretty strict in our teenage life, so that we could live and have a happy and a bright future ahead. But , there are sometimes, i have to break some of their rules. U are very obedient and u never broke any of their rules, but in my fact, i'm also oa very obedient boy, but sometimes, i don't listen to them, i do my own things which could turn either a disaster or some times successful!

As i read your discussion,i can say that,you're life is messing. I am also a parent,and i had 3 kids. But never in my dream that i would dictate what they need to do with their lives. I am there to guide them for every aspirations that they want. I am there to support them for their passion and interests. My daughter loves music a lot,i supported her and even push her to discover more of her talents. She's studying Mass Comm and on her first year,i never chose her course,she's the one who choose it. And,i always boost their self confidence. If my kids has projects or assignment and they asks me to help them, i always tell them to do their best first and when they feel they really can't make it then,it's time for me to help them. Self confidence is very important,without it,you can never achieve anything. Being a parent doesnt mean that you are always right with the decision making. Being a child,you also had your freedom and prerogative to do what you want and decide for yourself. I can say that,it's time for you to talk with your parents. You had been following their instructions,they are your parents and it's good to listen to them,but,they don't have all the rights to dictate what you need to say and act. You can always asks for their guidance and advise and that is good enough to prove that you are a good child. have a good day always

I bet that you are Chinese without checking your profile on mylot .Yeah,what you mentioned is pretty common in China ,which is a very traditional country on some aspects.TO my mind ,you should follow your heart even for just once .Everyone knows that your parents plan everything for you to make a more comfortable life .However ,frankly speaking ,our parents aren't able to keep pace with tide .What they think is good is not .So we have to make a choice on our own .maybe it is hard for us at the beggining .Believe me .when you get used to manipulate your own destiny ,you are really happy . Have a nice day .

Hey, it was sad hearing that. But you know many times this happens because of communication gaps. Have you ever talked to parents about what do you thin and what do you feel. Have you ever told them what do you want to do and what do you want to be. Its very important for anybody to talk, to communicate. I guess, you have not communicated this to your parents freely from the bottom of your heart. Get up and talk to them. One more thing you should never forget. When you talk to your parents, say for example, your career, you should brief about the career, tell them what are the market opportunities for it, how much you will earn through it, and so on. Just telling them i want be a singer(example) is not enough. Discuss its pro and cons, too. If you feel that, they do not have confidence on you, tell them, " Dad/Mom many times I feel that you don't have confidence on me, I feel this because.........." Feel free to talk to them, after all they are your parents, right! Best of Luck, and do not worry, everything's gonna be "OK".

I feel for you. And even if my parents don't say anything, deep inside I know they are not really satisfied or they still want more. But sometimes, I think that I also have to be happy for myself and not just think about how I can make my parents happy. They'll love us no matter what. I just make sure I don't do anything that would hurt them or hurt me.

when we are a kid, we don't know what is right what is wrong,so we our parents to guide us, but now you have graduated, you are an adult now, you need to be independent. you can not accept everything your parents arranged for you, you have to judge things and make decision by yourself. maybe your parents still don't have confidence on you, so you need to talk with them, try your best to let them know what you are thinking,persuade them to believe your decision is right.

i can relate to you my friend. it's okay this will pass out and slowly they will realize that you are capable of yourself and you will realize what their point was for doing such

First of all, it's your life. You should run your own life. Do not let them run it for you or lay down their own plans for you, cuz you might not want those. Stop trying to impress them more because you already did your best and they are not contended on what you can do. They did not appreciate your hard work, so instead of doing it for them, do it for yourself, for yourself alone, for your own good, not just because they would be happy if you achieve something. That's right, if you ever get a job, move out. Do not live with them as they will try to run your life more even though you got some nice job. Then there's this point where you think you are doing really good but you are just barely achieving anything, think again son, you might need some counseling.

Hi lyn, It's a sad story but you have a great heart and compassion towards your parents. Some parents really do have this overprotection scheme to their children. Just be patient and try to convey to them every now and then the things that you really want for your self. And if they don't get it, raise the issue to them in a mature and respectful manner and make everything clear. Tell them that you love them so much that you care about what they say on what you do, but for you to be mature enough you have to sometimes, experience making a decision on your own for your own. And sometimes, they can allow you to fail on decision making, just for you to learn how and what it is like to fail. Just continue loving your parents and pray that one day you'd have harmonious thoughts about how you have to live your life. Take care! God bless!