Death: Who's harder to lose?

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Almost three weeks ago my fiances brother passed away at the age of 40. It was and still is devastating to everyone. Especially for his mother who was the one who found him. She is still grieving which is to be expected, but the other day I was trying to console her and give her piece of mind that her son was in a better place. When she looked at me and asked me this, "How would I feel if I woke up one morning to find my son or daughter was dead?" Which honestly I could not answer her because I have yet to know that kind of lose. Well, I was sitting here the other night and I got to thinking. If I were to lose one of my kids it would proably tear my world in two. I can't imagine what someone goes through when they lose a child. The death of a loved one or a friend is always hard. It crushes us and makes us ask questions as to why they had to die. But who is harder to lose? A spouse, grandparent, child, parents, a friend? So I want to ask. In your own opinion, who do you think is harder to lose? and why? I know for me I have never lost a child, but that would probably be the hardest, with losing my spouse and parents coming in second. But honestly I can't answer the question. I still have my parents, both my kids, and I have never lost a spouse. Yes, I have lost all my grandparents and many friends in my life and they were all hard to let go of. But I have never known the lose of those closer to me.