Am i being a b$tch again??

You know that poor unfortunate individual, covered in sores, bent double hardly looking like a human, dressed in rags stained with vomit and urine. That person who also has such an abominable personality that others spit at them as they pass by? That's you that is, that's what everyone says, that's you and your mum. Na na na na na all the best urban

Hi Angel , It's perfectly normal you know? All your depression, irritation, mood swings - all prove that you are leading a normal life. Now, your situation will change, whether you want or not. There will be better days, even if you don't act in that direction. Time is more powerful than anyone of us, it's more powerful than what we can possibly imagine. I've already mentioned some solid ideas in meluan's box. I believe that it's just like a curve, that goes up and down and then up again and it goes on like this as long as we live. There are a few causes that work behind a situation like this. May be you're being prepared by God for the future. May be you're being put into this situation so that you can appreciate all the good days that are yet to come. May be you're being given more strength because there may be some strenuous task ahead, for example, a journey abroad. But whatever it is, you will surely have better days ahead. There is always a down before an up, a silence before a storm, a trough before a crust. This is truth, this is the reality, which you really can't deny. You'll be all right, 'cause I know you're strong. You just save your strength sometimes for the future. That's why you don't show it. But deep inside, you're always well prepared, upright and invincible. Thanks. God bless you.

So, how long is your love going to take this treatment? I wonder if you are not stuffing anger, resentment, frustration and the like from a thousand little things and then when the pressure gets too great, you blow. Maybe you need to frequently analyze what is going on inside and try to address the little things as they happen. Could be other principles you need to look at. For instance, truly forgiving others, not expecting perfection from yourself or others, not feeling like you need to control everything, not feeling like everything depends on you, being willing to accept that things happen and you cannot always prevent it. You might sort some of this out in a diary, or maybe discussing with a close friend. Hope you find something that works for you.

Get in fight with someone on my lot and bash two three guys here online.Thats the best way to get your anger out.Bad advice i know.

someone said “Temper is a weapon that we hold by the blade."

yeah, if you have and unknown temper then youre a b$tch. hehehe

I have the same problem sometimes. I tend to do ok in professional situations but at home sometimes I get upset so quickly. I have been told though if I am going to have a conversation with my husband and we think one of us may get upset then we should sit and hold hands because it is hard to yell at each other when you're holding hands. This does work. I'm sorry I'm not much help. I think sometimes it is just inherited....

Biswa has a very nice answer though. Okay, let me breath first, ummmmmm, all right... where is that free temper? Give me... I will have fun with that... hahahahaha. Anyway, forget what I told you above, so this is a mood swing for the day. Let's proceed to a serious talk now. Mood? Temper? what are those things? Those are nice freaking things! That can really cause headaches, backpains, muscles pains, etc... awwwww, that's not really good effects at all! what can we do? Oh, my B, just release it!!! All of us have tempers, whether controllable or not! You said it can make us turn old, so do not let it conquer you, Release it and free yourself of those wrinkles. I miss you today, at least my yahoo permits me to open the mail today. That nice and lovable.

Hi saphy! I used to have the very same problem! I would lose my temper and go into a rage at the smallest things. But, I don't thing you are ready to go my route! I got psych meds for my problem! With me it was a "chemical imbalance", but I am alot calmer now, but if the "right" buttons are pushed, watch out! You have to try to stop letting people who know how to push your buttons get to you! It isn't easy, but it can be done! I came from a long line of "hot tempers" and it is difficult when you grow up having to be the "loudest" and the most "fierce"! You should have been on my visit to my mom's! Two Hungarians in the same room!

No thanks saphrina...mine is hard enough to keep in check..lol...I hate it on those days when something that normally wouldn't be a big deal makes me clench my teeth. I can actually feel the heat rise in my cheeks sometimes on those days. I usually isolate myself so not to attack..lol..and take a long hot bath. I have found that long hot baths keep the family a little safer on my bad days.

Hello, Saphy.:) Chill out, dear. Why don't you go out breathe some fresh air or soak yourself in bubble bath with aromatic candles to calm you down.:) Are you having a period?

Hey you are an angle. But we all have emotions. I too become wild when my friend wouldn't talk to me. Because everyday they will talk then if one day they will not talk we feel bad. But later i will calm down myself thinking that i may be disturbing them or they didn't get time to talk to me. But my temper will not long last. Only for 1 day maximum it will be there. After that i will try to forget the things.

Thanks for the offer, but I have my days too: often mirrored with depression. We are all entitled to rant now and again. If it starts to occur too often you might consider whether it is related to your diet. Keep a diary to see whather your mood reacts to what you eat. Perhaps a visit to the doctor is in order. My partner has mood swings at a certain time of the month. It does not matter whether I am good or not. Sometimes even the flowers I might bring home are wrong. If it gets really bad buy a dartboard. I have sufficient suitable pictures to send you to number it with!

i guess it's really normal to be losing temper as i have done so, not just lately but most of the time. keeping it to yourself might make you lose sanity. i always tell my mom, i just really no need to let it out. i've always known i have this kind of personality (that if things don't go my way, or not according to my standards of right, then expect an argument and eventually my short temper) so whether with people i work with, my family, my friends, or with my partner, i tell them firsthand how i am- that they just need to let me be if at some point i become some red-eyed monster, that i wouldn't mean my words but i will try my best not to utter offensive ones, and that i will say sorry in advance so as not to make them feel hurt after all that has been said and done. understanding of people around me meant a great deal. i sometimes look silly having to throw tantrums like a kid then my younger sister would be watching me then leave me talking to myself. as soon as i get tired without getting any response from them, i stop. then i become normal again. i understand your thought on why it happens a lot but like you, i haven't found the answer and neither have my family. i don't think it can be changed but it can be lessened. though i can't say it can be too easy...

Well only you can tell us why, if you even know. There's nothing wrong with anger, and expressing it is even healthy. But if you don't want to hurt the people around you, and ultimately yourself, finding a way to express it "appropriately" could be really useful.

You are who you make yourself. Self awareness. Self examination. You have control over you.

Saphrina- Have you noticed a pattern? For example, does it occur more so around one part of your life than another? Perhaps something you're eating, drinking, or the like? I am hesitant to ask if around your time of the month as that seems to always be the thing thrown at us women and I feel it is unfair. However, it could be an issue in some sense. It could also be environmental. There may be something in your life right now that is physically setting you off. It could also be something chemical in the body that needs rectifying. Of course, I'm not a doctor so these are only a hypothesis. One of the things I do is journal. It helps me to get all of my issues out there. I have one journal just for venting. It's where I write everything I want to say, etc as I want to say it. Once I'm done with that then I go to my gratitude journal and write the things I'm thankful for in my life. I also do martial arts. There is nothing more relaxing than hitting a target a few times to clear and focus the mind. I think at times people like to link violence to the need to release tension. I do not feel there is anything violent about picking a sport/activity that requires a great deal physical exertion. I really do understand where you are coming from. My family has been under a great deal of stress this term and all of us have had our days. Don't be too hard on yourself because you lose your temper. Meditation can help one in gaining some deal of control, but we're only human and sometimes things just make us snap. Namaste-Anora

There are several health causes for losing ones temper and blood pressure is one of them. It is also reported that creatinine in the blood could also be one of the reasons.

man i feel u on that girl is it at the end or begaing of the mounth because my gir be flipping out usuallyat the in when she on her Rag......juz twist your ears and say woooooooooooooooooosaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

yeah it sounds stupid when we get agry in little situations, we should calm down