What is the best thing to do with a very lousy lover?
By doray1960
@doray1960 (98)
Philippines
October 15, 2010 8:27pm CST
I have been in a relationship with a man who is very lousy. He never talks to me or even spend time with me is it because he does not love me? I'm so disgusted with his behavior, what will I do with this man? Friends please advise me.
4 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Oct 10
How long have you been with this person is my first question? He never talks to you or spends any time with you sounds like unless he is willing to change this the relationship will not blossom.
It is quite easy for anyone like me to tell to call it quits but honey you know your heart and unless your heart has given up there is really nothing anyone can say to change that.
I would strongly suggest you think about this and if you are not married and do not have children maybe it is time to move on and allow time to be a healer.
Good luck, I wish you well.
@doray1960 (98)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
It's very hard to do that because I'm too old to find another and besides I'm married to him/
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
22 Oct 10
what he did doesnt make any sense. yes if he never talks or spend time with you is bcs he doesnt love you. you should leave him^^ you deserve to be happy with a guy that has time for you and loves you^^ why waste your time with one that doesnt care? you should talk with him and tell how you feel. if he doesnt give you attention is bcs doesnt love you even if it hurts you leave him. im sure you can find a better guy^^
@snowy22315 (180791)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I sympathisize with you doray. I am actually in a similar situaion. I have asked him to leave, and it is not an easy decision because he helps me financially, and has nowhere to go. I think there is a possibility we could resolve this but he does not seem to want to try. I agree with the other person who answered though, first you have to get them out of your heart, and it is easier said than done.