If you're Emotional, Don't respond to some on Whos Disagrees....
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
Philippines
October 16, 2010 1:18am CST
Hello Lotters,
I had this experience a few days ago when i created a topic about insecurity when it comes to people asking about my job.at that time, i was really down and depressed and upset that people just wanted to know it. my reasoning there has prompted sympathy from other users who cared, but some how i went off with a person who is just responding something that ticked me off.
After wards, when i responded to the next user, i didn't realized that He was right and i was a jerk. I am pretty sure he'd be surprised but i apologize to that man. but it was the moment when i was emotional and i didn't quite understand his response, not until i calmed down.
Some people can be just honest,blunt or simply frank that such discussions should be paid attention to but not in a wrong way. some even said "there's my star" i guess there's a lot of emotional people out there who does the same thing. but i did rate him (-) once. but that was just once. knowing i was wrong in the end, i realized i can't let emotions get the best of me when there's a heated discussion
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
17 Oct 10
I've been on here like 4 years now and I've learned to take a time out when I'm angry, depressed or upset. I tend to let my feelings rule my common sense and it often makes things worse. I give you credit for setting things straight and admitting that you let your feelings get out of control. Use it as a learning tool and move on with your day.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
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@Hatley (163773)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Oct 10
hi twoey I thought you were lost as I havent seen any posts from you in ages and I have been here over three years. I have to do the same thing whensome tees me off here. This has not happened now in years but when I was first here I got trolled really bad but the two who did it mylot admins caught and kicked them out. but I have never got my blue star back but am doing 91 percent on red so who c ares.Yes best to take time
out since words once typed cannot be undone. I found that fighting back just escalates things and makes me feel awful.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello Twoey68,
yeah, most specially when we are tired and we get some post that irriates us immediately, we just can't help it. well, i'd probably apologize to him again, i don't know if i have yet. well, I was able to see the trolls when i first came here, it's a lot worse back then. have a great day.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
16 Oct 10
So sweetie, you want to tell me when i am moody i should not respond or start any discussions?
Where is the fun in that?
It's the only time i can really let go, you know.
I do try to behave myself.
I am glad you apologised.
Just so you know, he is the kind who won't take it the wrong way at all.
TATA.
Where is the fun in that?
It's the only time i can really let go, you know.
I do try to behave myself.
I am glad you apologised.
Just so you know, he is the kind who won't take it the wrong way at all.
TATA.1 person likes this
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello Sweetie,
well, just a precaution. you know lamby had his mood when he's also being too blunt at the same time. and now look whe he created that new account, he completely lost his star and kept being rated down. when he got his payout, he quit. well, i guess they like u fo some reason.
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@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
16 Oct 10
Emotions play important role in everyones life. some are v.emotional and take things seriously. it some times affect our health condition also so once should have a good balance on the emotions and handle it carefully.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Helo ganes,
Yes, it does sometimes. having such a problem accepting somewhere else that they decide to let go of that anger during those times. but of course, we just have to learn to control it most specially when it comes to anger and other negative emotions. it's not that easy to control but if we want to avoid confrontations, then it should be done with discreet.
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@RebeLotter (253)
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16 Oct 10
I can't help it. most specially when others are wrong or judging my by my post who doesn't even know how I felt it. it's not bad to rate (-) but it's worse if you do it out of revenge.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello Rebelotter,
Yeah, and that's how you got you're tainted star. but i guess you don't really care about the star but to express you're self right? well, expect people doing revenge rating. at least you're fortunate enough to know that the rating is now limited. before you can unlimitedly rate people.1 person likes this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I understand this feeling really well, and I try really hard to take deep breaths and wish the person well, when they are way to blunt for me. I have learned how to do this after so many years of beating myself up.
See I am my worst enemy and can get a bit too sensitive at times, it works to my disadvantage as I am very hard on myself afterwords.
I am glad you apologized as it does comfort you, and well perhaps the other person did not take it as badly as you think. I have found that when I am emotional my responses get a bit generic and I hate that so I try to break for a bit and come back when I am in a better mood.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello Hardworkinggurl,
well, he really didn't seem to be mean but constructively honest. yeah, i noticed that you're rating and star continues to drop down. i would hate that if this would have happened to me. being too sensitive is fine as long we let go of our anger somewhere else instead of here in mylot. although i just did in this occasion, i learned my lesson.
@zmluckyseven (541)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 10
yeah i see that emotional can make us shy sometime,you must control yourself just ignore it ,i ever get respond that almost makes me mad but just ignore it because i ever shy because my emotional twice,and im really" dont want to do it again =,=...
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello zmluckyseven,
Emotions are part of the human body. some aspects can be destructive, that's control is an essence. that's right ignoring the best medicine to avoid such bad results in terms of posting you're comments if the user seems to be an idiot. well, i just failed the other night but am alright now.
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@shaggin (73975)
• United States
17 Oct 10
You dont want to get on mylot and get mad if someone disagrees with you and start attacking them verbally. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Just because someone doesnt agree with what you say does not mean that you should leave them a negative. But that is very kind of you to reliaze that you were being a jerk and to apologize. Not everyone will do that so I think its wonderful you fessed up and said you were sorry. I hope that he is over it and isnt holding a grudge against you now.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello SHaggin,
Nope
, i don't think so. but my anger some how forced me to delete him from the list. well, as if he doesn't care, he was just fast typing his post. but the message was clear and i calmed after few minutes writing the angered post. it happens but it's the first time i really went off in some one's topic. @Hatley (163773)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Oct 10
hi letran you are human and humans at times blow their cork, get too emotional and we let fly. afterwards of course we wish we had not
done that.I sometimes remind those who disagree that that is okay
Do not however get slap happy with the minus key. just remember to
do unto others as you would have them do unto you.The golden rule is the one I try to live by each day.
@EnslinPorter (1718)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
I totally agree with this one. There are times when I see replies that would make me upset. Because it's usually my nature to leave things alone when I'm really upset, I tend to think about stuff and think of a better response later on when I'm calmed down. But during times I feel upset, I have all bad things running through my mind. There's still one discussion where in I don't know how to respond to that person. See, I learned about Therapeutic Communication and I found one reply judgmental. I think that person has no intention but in a subtle way, that person's reply shows. I'm already feeling pretty bad with that discussion. I'm looking for help there and this reply made me upset. I guess it's been more than a week and I still haven't attended to that person's reply. I'm way more calmed down now. I still don't know what to reply. I don't know if I'll be direct or let it pass because I know that person did not learn about Therapeutic Communication. 
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello EnslinPorter,
Some people either has no knowledge or just being plain idiot. I noticed it when ever i make serious or personal discussions. well, this isn't "I agree" scenario since some people can really disagree or agree. we don't know for sure what they are thinking but one thing is for sure, it's just an opinion. some can be insult but you know, that's just normal.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
but there are times that emotions are used in order to passion you're will into making a discussion or any post for that matter.you know people are passionate when they respond to discussion.if there's no emotion involved then where is the passion included in this post. some people respond just for the sake of responding.but you're right about getting a possible bad impression, simply just avoid that.1 person likes this
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello Mika,
Yeah, i know i used almost all the passion i can be so that it would be easy to express myself. the trouble is that there are moments now that i am being sensitive too much that i get angry in some discussions based on other people's responses.I've got one heck of a bad impression during the election period debating about political discussions. i'd never do that again.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello Jean25,
well, that was the time you were being unreasonable and that caused you're rating to go down. most specially the lst topic that you made lately. it's not easy making controversial topics. just becareful next time okay. well, it's nice being with yourself but try to avoid political topics from now on.
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@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I can get very emotional at times, myself, so don't feel bad about it. I've always been overly sensitive, anyway.
You're very right! Some people can be way too blunt. I have people like that in my famly. I mean, I like for people to tell the truth but you can be too blunt.
I'm glad you apologized to this man, at least.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello cyrus,
some people can be emotional too when they're not liking the comment or response of others to them.people are blunt because they're principles are strong in them. sometimes it can hurt most specially if we are guilty of it. or probably just some misunderstanding because i was too emotional. thanks.
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@Nobody4me (165)
•
16 Oct 10
sometimes emotion can be the passion for us to making such topics. at the same time, it is emotion as well that is giving us the trouble tolerating others. in turn, they do the same to us.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
hello nobody4me,
well, controlling emotions is the best way to avoid terrible and sad confrontations. no one wants to get into the bad shape of another. but some are just completely blunt and frank and doesn't care much about what you think and feel. it's sad but some are like that i have experienced some.
@GreedyMoney (146)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
we have the right to feel something when making the discussion, response and comments. but we need to set it on place, and not for the consequences in the end. remember we are different from each other. maybe some are emotional or madly depressed. that's right emotions can lead us to nowhere.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
Hello GreedyMoney,
I agree. like for example, when some one makes a discussion how they are feeling bad with their terrible experiences, i can't afford to feel nothing nor to feel numb. but when it comes to disagreeing with some one eslse, it's another emotion thing.1 person likes this
