my son doesn't want to go to school

maybe the little boy still is not ready to go to school. when my son was little (about 4 yrs old), i asked him if he wants to go to school. there was a cousin who offered teaching young kids for free that time but my son did not want to go. he told me he will go to school if he is 5 already. at 5, we did not force him, he was ready as he had said.

Hi twinkle 123 I used to work as a classroom assistant with primary school age children,There were a couple of young children who every morning would kick up merry hell when their moms/dads brought them into the classrooms holding onto their parents legs begging their parents not to go saying they hated school , (and the real heartstring puller) bottom lip quivering' mommy I love you please, i Want to come home with you.' mom would leave feeling so guilty, closing the classroom door slowly behind her walking away feeling so awful how could she put her little joey through this..meanwhile little Johhny has dried those tears on his shirt sleeve ,and is happily playing in the sand tray with jessie and sam. I am not saying this is what is happening with your little one, but he will settle in just give it a little time. If you arestill worried about the tantrums after a month or so maybe have a word with his class teacher and see what they suggest. Hope this is of help. Have a great day jojo732

Most little kids love going to school so I can't help but wonder why he is having this problem. Try to find out if shool is making him unhappy or afraid for some reason. Talk to the teachers. I would not be carrying him to school. Going to school means a certain amount of independence and "grownup-ness". Tantrums are for 2 year olds. This behaviour if it's to get his own way for no apparent reason should be nipped in the bud or else you, the parent, will be suffering the consequences as he grows older. He is the child, you are the adult. You seriously need to take control of this situation and sooner rather than later.

Have you asked him the reason why he doesn't like to go too the school? I know when my son started to go too school he hated it as well. Then he finely told me he was being picked on by the other children in the school.

He is still young and there is plenty of time for him to figure he likes school. On the bright side you must be the worlds most awesome mom that he can't stand to be away from you for even a short amount of time! I know it's rough to see him cry on his way to school and it's frustrating to have to carry him but all these things are just stages in life and there will come a time when you smile to think about picking him up and carrying him to school.

The best thing you could do is to try to make him like going to school.Talk to him about how cool it is and about the many things he can learn by going there.Eventually he will end up loving it.Small kids usually love going to school or kinder-garden.It's later on when some of them find 'cooler' things to do.So you should have a long talk with him and try to make him like it because at this stage of his life school really is a lot of fun.Good Luck!

Tantrums are not the kids fault, they are the parents fault. If the kid could not win, he would soon stop having them. When you carry him to school he has won, and you have lost. Next time he has a tantrum let him scream and kick until he is tired enough to stop. Then send him to school as if nothing had happened. When he realizes that there is nothing to gain by having a tantrum he won't do it any more. ( having a tantrum is very hard work for a kid)

Thats sad that he doesnt want to go. Whe nmy daughter was 4 she begged me to let her go to school but I wouldnt. I wanted her home with me as long as possible. I taught her so much she knew more then the school was teaching the 4 year olds who went to school there. She was way ahead when it came time for her to go to kindergarten. I hope your situation with your son improves.

Understandably, you are not the only mother who is experiencing such kind of problem. It happens to many parents especially with kids whose attachment to their home, parents or even toys is that intense. You would not expect a four year old boy to act like an already grown up kid does, although some kids behave more mature for their age, but still your kid's behavior is not unusual. It's a matter of mind conditioning. Carrying him to go to school I guess, could trigger more negative emotion for him to dislike going to school more. I agree to what others are suggesting, make him realize how cool, fun and important getting educated and being with other kids his age, going to school would be. It should be done way way before actually going there, like when he's playing or before bedtime. Make him visualize a scenario that would project school as if it's the most wonderful and happy place on earth it could be.

Why does your son not want to go to school? Is he teased or otherwise mistreated at school? Is he unable to do the work? This is usually not a problem in nursery school, but some preK schools have high academic standards. Has he made friends at school? Could he be afraid that you will not be there when he gets home from school? School should be a pleasure, especially at his age. Something is making him afraid.

Many children do not want to go to school. You just talk to the class teacher who attends him most of the time. If he or she shows little extra affection to the child, your son will run toward school everyday. Request the school to pamper the child initially. Also make him friendly with his other batch mates. Situation will definitely change

Hi, Just wondering what is the reason your son refused to go school? Is he just started his nursery? When my son just started his nursery, he also show me sad face everytime we reached his school ,but he never throw tantrums and say don't want go school,it took about one month for him to adapt to his new environment,Now he is get used to his daily activity and he can even wakeuo by himself almost every morning. You can play a trick with your son by giving him some rewards if he goes to school in good mood.I believe your son is not get used to his new environment. You have to stay patience to handle him.

I am having this same problem right now with my 7 year old son. He loved school in Kindergarden and grade 1, now he hates it. It's hard to get him there and when he's finally at school he won't work for them. I got together with the teacher to see what we could do. She said he needed to like coming to school before we could move forward with his learning so we implemented a plan. At the beginning of school he gets to start the day by doing something special that he likes (building with blocks, drawing, whatever), then in return for that he has agreed to do his schoolwork. It's not an ideal situation, but so far it's worked and it sure beats the struggling and stress we had every morning before we started doing this.

Talk to your son about this stuff, maybe he can't still understand of what's your point but tell him that school is fun and you can meet new friends there and play. Sure that will make him go to school. :)

I think you should send him to the school. Also speak to the teacher as their might be something which your son want to ignore and don’t want to face it. If the teacher is scolding it then ask the teacher not to because he will lose interest in school and studies.

we i see your post ,i can't help myself laugh .how lovely a children , he just want to do he want ,and if you can satisfy him ,his tatrums begin . I think he is too young to understand something ,so you need to encourage him to school . you can give him some gift for him when he go to school . you have a happy life with your son . i like children too .

well,as we all know,interest is the best teacher ,especially for children,which has taken an important role in their learning.what you should do,i suppose,cultivate his ability to study.The reason why he gets his tantrums because of he could not find his interest during his time.That is the frustration that amount of parents encountered.